EFT For Parents of Children Who Pull Hair & Pick Skin
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EFT For Parents of Children Who Pull Hair & Pick Skin

Help to deal with all the emotions of having family, who suffer from Trichotillomania and Dermatillomania.
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Instead of using a simple lifetime average, Udemy calculates a course's star rating by considering a number of different factors such as the number of ratings, the age of ratings, and the likelihood of fraudulent ratings.
1,686 students enrolled
Last updated 4/2015
Current price: $20 Original price: $40 Discount: 50% off
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  • 1 hour on-demand video
  • Full lifetime access
  • Access on mobile and TV
  • Certificate of Completion
What Will I Learn?
  • Reduce Stress as they deal with their children's picking or pulling
  • Understand how to use EFT in many different situations to help your child with Picking and Pulling
  • Have a tapping strategy for your child or teen to help reduce the intensity and frequency of the urge.
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  • Open mind
  • Willingness to practice
  • Strong desire to help their children

For parents of children suffering with Trichotillomania or Dermatillomania. When you see your child pulling their hair or picking at their skin, obviously in distress, many feelings rise up: anger, sadness, guilt to name a few.

Often these emotions block parents from really being present and effective in helping and supporting their child.

Joan Kaylor brings her decades of experience to help parents deal with their ineffective, often harmful, reactions to their child's destructive behaviors. She uses her skills in EFT to help parents deal with their unsupportive behaviors so that they can be more effective helping their child move forward into a healthier life.

Joan Kaylor stopped pulling out her hair in 1989. She has been helping children, teens and adults stop pulling hair and picking skin since 1994 when she became a professional counselor. Trichotillomania and Dermatillomania are body focused repetitive behaviors. They regulate emotions and help to soothe when we are upset, overwhelmed, bored or stressed. Joan considers pulling and picking to be addictions.

The treatment is completely difference from obsessive compulsive disorders. Healing from an addiction is work. It can be done. In this course, Joan will teach you strategies to let go of the urges and counseling for the shame and depression and family stress that come with Trich and picking.

Joan Kaylor has treated 1000's of individuals, parents and families with Trichotillomania and Dermatillomania.

There is lots of hope and through EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), Joan will take you through a gentle process to relieve your emotional charges so that you can respond more effectively.

Trichotillomania and Dermatillomania

Trichotillomania (trick-o-til-o-MAY-nee-ah) is a disorder that causes people to pull out the hair from their scalp, eyelashes, eyebrows, pubic area, underarms, beard, chest, legs or other parts of the body, resulting in noticeable bald patches. Hair pulling varies greatly in its severity, location on the body, and response to treatment. For some people, at some times, Trichotillomania is mild and can be quelled with a bit of extra awareness and concentration. For others, at times the urge may be so strong that it makes thinking of anything else nearly impossible.

Skin Picking Disorder (also known as Excoriation Disorder or SPD) is a serious and poorly understood problem. People who suffer from SPD repetitively touch, rub, scratch, pick at, or dig into their skin, often in an attempt to remove small irregularities or perceived imperfections. This behavior may result in skin discoloration or scarring. In more serious cases, severe tissue damage and visible disfigurement can result.

Trichotillomania may affect as much as 4% of the population. Women are four times more likely to be affected than men.

Symptoms usually begin before age 17. The hair may come out in round patches or across the scalp. The effect is an uneven appearance. The person may pluck other hairy areas, such as the eyebrows, eyelashes, or body hair.

These symptoms are usually seen in children:

  • An uneven appearance to the hair
  • Bare patches or all around (diffuse) loss of hair
  • Bowel blockage (obstruction) if people eat the hair they pull out
  • Constant tugging, pulling, or twisting of hair
  • Denying the hair pulling
  • Hair regrowth that feels like stubble in the bare spots
  • Increasing sense of tension before the hair pulling
  • Other self-injury behaviors
  • Sense of relief, pleasure, or gratification after the hair pulling

Most people with this disorder also have problems with:

  • Feeling sad or depressed
  • Anxiety
  • Poor self image
Who is the target audience?
  • Parents of children who pick their skin or pull their hair
  • People interested in non-invasive, non-drug related methods to help their children
Curriculum For This Course
Introduction for Parents
4 Lectures 06:38

Joan Kaylor explains what you will get from this course. She also shares how her mother felt when Joan was pulling her hair.

Learn EFT for yourself and for your child.

Preview 01:56

You may think you are helping your child, but if your behavior is driven by fear, guilt, anger or a host of other destructive feelings, you aren't. This course will will help your relieve the emotional charges you experience when you see your child suffer and give you tools to better assist them on their healing.

Preview 01:05

Resources to help you while you do your research through the Trichotillomania Learning Center. Discover the sites Joan trusts.

Preview 02:46

How to help your child.
2 questions
Relieviing Guilt
4 Lectures 06:05

Do you ask yourself: "What did I do to cause this in my child?" The answer is "You did nothing." In this section we will help you to remove the guilt. Joan goes through the EFT process with you.

Preview 01:20

EFT Tapping session with Joan to relieve guilt.

Preview 01:56

EFT Session with touch and breathing to relieve guilt.

Preview 01:55

Guilt stops parents from being present for your child.


3 questions
Releasing Anger
4 Lectures 06:42

Anger is a typical response to this problem. It does not help you or your child. We will be releasing your anderin this section


Joan walks you through an EFT Session to release your anger and rage.

EFT Session for Releasing Anger and Rage

EFT Session using your breath in your EFT Session.

Touch and Breathing to Relieve Anger

Being angry doesn't help anyone deal with Trichotillomania.


2 questions
Releasing Fear
4 Lectures 05:36

You may have questions which cause fear to rise up: "What if they can't stop – ever?" "What if they never grow their hair or lashes or brows back?" "What if...?" We will do EFT Sessions to deal with Fear.


Joan walks you through an EFT Session for Releasing Fear.

EFT Session for Releasing Fear

EFT Session with breathing to release fear

Touch and Breathing to Relieve Fear

Fear blocks you. It stop you in your tracks. Use this section whenever you feel fear rising up and stopping you.


The biggest fear for parents.
1 question
Releasing Sadness
4 Lectures 05:45

People do not understand Trichotillaminia and Dermatillomania. Their responses can cause more problems and that is sad.


EFT Session to deal with your sadness.

EFT Session to Relieve Sadness

EFT Session with breathing to deal with sadness

EFT Session with Breathing to Deal with Sadness

Sadness is an real emotion and no parent can be happy dealing with the problems which occur as a result of Trichotillomania and Dermatillomania. It is normal, but we don't need to wallow in it.


1 question
EFT for Your Child or Teen
5 Lectures 10:41

Now that you have worked on your stuff, you can work with your child or teen to help them.


EFT Session you can use with your child or teen.

EFT Session For the Urge to Pull or Pick

Joan shares a short version of EFT for dealing with the urge to pull or pick.

Short Version of Tapping for the Urge to Pull or Pick

Young children can transfer their urge to pull or pick onto a stuffed animal. EFT session with Tappy Bear.

Tappy Bear

It is important to share your EFT skills with your child or teen so that they can deal with their urge to pull and pick.

Essential Oils for Pulling and Picking
1 Lecture 03:45

Adding Essential Oils to your tapping can help calm and sooth.

How to Use Essential Oils With Your Child
The Hair Pulling "Habit" and You: How to Solve the Trichotillomania Puzzle
1 Lecture 02:07


Shows young people how to break their hair pulling habit by identifying trigger situations, developing resistance strategies, charting progress, modifying environments, motivating themselves, and staying with the program. Advice for therapists and parents, too.

Pre-Teens and Teenagers Book
3 Lectures 04:39

Often students find they don't go as deep as they would like when working with EFT on their own. More help is available. http://joankaylor.com/securevideo-consultation/

Going Deeper

Do your research. Take one step at a time. Take one day at a time. This is a journey or healing. It didn't happen overnight and your won't cure it overnight. You can take back your power and help your child.

Next Steps

We have a course for your child to help them deal with urges to pull or pick.

We included a link in the Resources section, with a $50 off coupon when you click the link to register the course for your child or loved one.

Emotional Freedom Techniques for Hair Pulling & Skin Picking
About the Instructor
Scott Paton
4.2 Average rating
2,048 Reviews
82,837 Students
75 Courses
Executive Producer (42 Podcasts, 70+ Udemy courses), Trainer

Scott Paton has been podcasting since the spring of 2005. His podcast "Weight Loss and The Mind" hit over 375,000 subscribers in its first year and over one million downloads. He has executive produced and/or co-hosted over 35 podcasts. An internationally renowned speaker, Scott has presented to audiences from London, England to Sydney, Australia, from Vancouver, BC to New York, NY, from LA to Rwanda. Thousands of entrepreneurs and NGO's have changed their public engagement strategies based on Scott's sharing. We hope you will, too!

Scott has over 66,500 students from 176 countries taking his courses.

Scott joined Udemy in 2013. In late 2014, one of his clients inspired him to make a video course on Podcasting. He revisited Udemy and got very excited at the potential. After his course went live, Scott told his clients and many decided to make courses but needed help, so he has become a co-instructor with them, while continuing to support and build his own courses. His co-topics all include areas of life-long learning by Scott, including Stock Option Trading, Alternative Health, EFT, and Relationships.

Joan Kaylor
4.5 Average rating
249 Reviews
24,570 Students
15 Courses
Licensed Professional Counselor, MSEd., LPC, DCEP, ACAP-EFT

After earning her B.A. in sociology and psychology from Muskingum College in Ohio, Joan began working as a real estate property manager. She pulled her hair more than ever and added compulsive checking to her list of OCD traits. She did not hide her pulling from her co-workers but was dismayed to think she was the only one who pulled and that no mental health professional knew how to help her. She had been to a psychiatrist and therapist who were unable to help her. This was before current medications and treatment methods were known.

Joan began pulling her hair at age 11 in 6th grade. Her pulled from her scalp for 25 years from age 11 to 36. In 1989, she read the book “The Boy Who Couldn’t Stop Washing” by Judith Rapoport, M.D. Upon reading her book, she discovered “Jackie P.”, a woman who pulled out every hair on her head and face. From her insistence, she would not be turned away by the NIMH study of OCD. From Jackie P’s courage to come forward, herself and millions of “pullers” now know they are not alone with Trichotillomania.

Trichotillomania is the inability to resist the urge to pull out hair resulting in noticeable hair loss. The act of pulling comforts, eases emotional pain, and is fun until the pulling episode is over. Then the puller experiences extreme shame, disgust, and anger over mutilating themselves and losing control. " I have been on both sides of this fence and have dedicated my life to helping people out of this cycle" Kaylor states.

From the studies at the National Institute of Mental Health … and because of the work of the Trichotillomania Learning Center and Obsessive-Compulsive Foundation, millions of people now can recognize symptoms of trichotillomania and OCD.