EFT Emotional Freedom Technique: Hair Pulling & Skin Picking

EFT is a gentle, highly-effective process to relieve Pull and Pick urges. Joan Kaylor has helped 1000's of sufferers.
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  • Length 2 hours
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  • Languages English
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Published 3/2015 English

Course Description

****Course updated January, 2016!****

Joan Kaylor stopped pulling out her hair in 1989. She has been helping children, teens and adults stop pulling hair and picking skin since 1994 when she became a professional counselor. Trichotillomania and Dermatillomania are body focused repetitive behaviors. They regulate emotions and help to soothe when we are upset, overwhelmed, bored or stressed. Joan considers pulling and picking to be addictions.

The treatment is completely different from obsessive compulsive disorders. Healing from an addiction is work. It can be done. In this course, Joan will teach you strategies to let go of the urges and counseling for the shame and depression and family stress that come with Trich and picking.

Joan Kaylor has treated 1000's of individuals and families with Trichotillomania and Dermatillomania.

There is lots of hope and through EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), Joan will take you through a gentle process to relieve your urges to pull your hair or pick at your skin.

Trichotillomania and Dermatillomania

Trichotillomania (trick-o-til-o-MAY-nee-ah) is a disorder that causes people to pull out the hair from their scalp, eyelashes, eyebrows, pubic area, underarms, beard, chest, legs or other parts of the body, resulting in noticeable bald patches. Hair pulling varies greatly in its severity, location on the body, and response to treatment. For some people, at some times, Trichotillomania is mild and can be quelled with a bit of extra awareness and concentration. For others, at times the urge may be so strong that it makes thinking of anything else nearly impossible.

Skin Picking Disorder (also known as Excoriation Disorder or SPD) is a serious and poorly understood problem. People who suffer from SPD repetitively touch, rub, scratch, pick at, or dig into their skin, often in an attempt to remove small irregularities or perceived imperfections. This behavior may result in skin discoloration or scarring. In more serious cases, severe tissue damage and visible disfigurement can result.

Trichotillomania may affect as much as 12% of the population. Women are four times more likely to be affected than men.

Symptoms usually begin before age 17. The hair may come out in round patches or across the scalp. The effect is an uneven appearance. The person may pluck other hairy areas, such as the eyebrows, eyelashes, or body hair.

These symptoms are usually seen in children:

  • An uneven appearance to the hair
  • Bare patches or all around (diffuse) loss of hair
  • Bowel blockage (obstruction) if people eat the hair they pull out
  • Constant tugging, pulling, or twisting of hair
  • Denying the hair pulling
  • Hair regrowth that feels like stubble in the bare spots
  • Increasing sense of tension before the hair pulling
  • Other self-injury behaviors
  • Sense of relief, pleasure, or gratification after the hair pulling

Most people with this disorder also have problems with:

  • Feeling sad or depressed
  • Anxiety
  • Poor self image

For some, Trichotillomania is a lifelong disorder. However, treatment often reduces the hair pulling and the feelings of depression, anxiety, or poor self image.

What are the requirements?

  • No prior knowledge of EFT is required
  • No software is required
  • A willingness to practice and an open mind are required

What am I going to get from this course?

  • Use EFT to help you control pulling and picking.
  • Understand that you are not alone in your struggle.
  • Discover how you can gently heal from trichotillomania and dermatillomania.
  • Integrate cognitive behavior therapy with Emotional Freedom Techniques.

Who is the target audience?

  • Anyone wanting to alleviate the distress caused by negative thoughts and emotions
  • This EFT course is meant for students who may not be familiar with EFT as a way to deal with trichotillomania and dermatillomania.
  • Students who want to relieve body focused repetitive behaviors
  • Students of any age who suffer from excess picking and pulling

What you get with this course?

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Section 1: Introducton

Joan gives her disclaimer about using EFT.


Joan shares what you can expect from this course.


Be curious! What would happen if you tried some of the ideas and concepts Joan shares (and they worked!).


Joan shares an experience she had with a client using EFT. Your results may differ.


Emotional Freedom Techniques and how it works.


Joan shares her story of how she felt pulling her hair when she was young, and how she eventually stopped.


Joan talks about what Trichotillomania is and what it is not.

What is EFT?
3 questions
Section 2: The Process
1 page

Where are the tapping points?


Learning any new skill can bring on feelings of overwhelm. IN this powerful lecture, you can tap your overwhelm away with Joan.


Joan shares what the six steps are for a tapping session.


Learn the fundamental steps for using tapping and EFT to relieve Trichotillomania and the problem you choose to work on.

1 page

This PDF shows you the basic EFT Process.


Testing helps you to see how you are progressing.

How EFT Works
2 questions
Section 3: Trichotillomania Tapping Sessions

Reduce the intensity and frequency of the urge to pick or pull with this important tapping session


Discover how the strong emotions of shame contribute to hair pulling and skin picking.


Joan shares how to use EFT to counter self hate.


After your tapping session, what do you do next?


Joan shares why being specific is such a more powerful use of EFT to get to the root of the problem and that aspect is more easily healed.

Tapping Sessions
2 questions
Section 4: Unresolved Emotional Issues

Even after studying the material in this course, people may still try to find some unique way to use EFT for their specific issue, but that is NOT the case. We see unresolved emotional issues as a primary contributor to many problems, and we clear them the same way for everyone. There are events in your history that carry disruptions, and once you use EFT to remove them, the problems tend to go away. Some people have more disruptions to clear than others, but removing them thoroughly and methodically is still the answer.


Write down on every trauma in your life, and tap for peace! What lies beneath your pulling and picking behaviors?


Discover how to help people gently who say they want to get better but fight it every step of the way.

Section 5: Non-EFT Behavior Lectures

Joan talks about ways to find substitutes for the fun of picking and pulling.


Joan shares how Cognitive Behavior Therapy can help you deal with pulling and picking. Discover your thought patterns which occur before you feel the urge to pick or pull.


Habit Reversal Technique was developed as one of the first therapeutic processes for pulling and picking. Many people say it helps them deal with unwanted behaviors. Joan shares what it is and how it works.

Non-EFT Therapies
2 questions
Section 6: Conclusions

Way to go! You have come a long way! Now the "warm up" is over. Now it is time to get started!


What to do next...

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Instructor Biography

Scott Paton, Executive Producer (42 Podcasts, 65+ Udemy courses), Trainer

Scott Paton has been podcasting since the spring of 2005. His podcast "Weight Loss and The Mind" hit over 375,000 subscribers in its first year and over one million downloads. He has executive produced and/or co-hosted over 35 podcasts. An internationally renowned speaker, Scott has presented to audiences from London, England to Sydney, Australia, from Vancouver, BC to New York, NY, from LA to Rwanda. Thousands of entrepreneurs and NGO's have changed their public engagement strategies based on Scott's sharing. We hope you will, too!

Scott has over 48,500 students from 168 countries taking his courses.

Scott joined Udemy in 2013. In late 2014, one of his clients inspired him to make a video course on Podcasting. He revisited Udemy and got very excited at the potential. After his course went live, Scott told his clients and many decided to make courses but needed help, so he has become a co-instructor with them, while continuing to support and build his own courses. His co-topics all include areas of life-long learning by Scott, including Stock Option Trading, Alternative Health, EFT, and Relationships.

Instructor Biography

Joan Kaylor, Licensed Professional Counselor, MSEd., LPC, DCEP, ACAP-EFT

After earning her B.A. in sociology and psychology from Muskingum College in Ohio, Joan began working as a real estate property manager. She pulled her hair more than ever and added compulsive checking to her list of OCD traits. She did not hide her pulling from her co-workers but was dismayed to think she was the only one who pulled and that no mental health professional knew how to help her. She had been to a psychiatrist and therapist who were unable to help her. This was before current medications and treatment methods were known.

Joan began pulling her hair at age 11 in 6th grade. Her pulled from her scalp for 25 years from age 11 to 36. In 1989, she read the book “The Boy Who Couldn’t Stop Washing” by Judith Rapoport, M.D. Upon reading her book, she discovered “Jackie P.”, a woman who pulled out every hair on her head and face. From her insistence, she would not be turned away by the NIMH study of OCD. From Jackie P’s courage to come forward, herself and millions of “pullers” now know they are not alone with Trichotillomania.

Trichotillomania is the inability to resist the urge to pull out hair resulting in noticeable hair loss. The act of pulling comforts, eases emotional pain, and is fun until the pulling episode is over. Then the puller experiences extreme shame, disgust, and anger over mutilating themselves and losing control. " I have been on both sides of this fence and have dedicated my life to helping people out of this cycle" Kaylor states.

From the studies at the National Institute of Mental Health … and because of the work of the Trichotillomania Learning Center and Obsessive-Compulsive Foundation, millions of people now can recognize symptoms of trichotillomania and OCD.

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