Effective Online Dating

Frustrated? Bored? Confused? Learn How To Get The Most From Your Online Dating Experience
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  • Lectures 31
  • Length 1 hour
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  • Languages English
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Published 9/2014 English

Course Description

This course covers the nuts and bolts of online dating and explains how to move through the process from start to finish. By the end of the course you'll be able to engage in online dating in an effective manner. No prior knowledge of the subject is required -- all you need is a willingness to date other people and be open to forming a meaningful relationship. You'll learn how to:

  • Choose the best web platform for your online dating efforts.
  • Create a profile and select photos that draw positive attention.
  • Efficiently search for potential dates.
  • Communicate with people you are interested in and with people who are interested in you.
  • Go on actual dates.

The strategies you will learn are supported by scientific research and operate according to basic economic principles. Additional resources are available in supplementary materials.

The course is organized in a series of easy-to-follow video lectures that conveniently last only a few minutes each and include plenty of examples. The entire course takes a few hours to complete, but then it's up to you to apply what you've learned -- and practice makes perfect. The instructor is available to provide feedback and advice to help you answer these questions:

  • What do I really want out of dating?
  • What is non-negotiable for me in a relationship?
  • Where can I find the people I want to connect with?
  • How much time and effort am I willing and able to put into dating at any given moment?

Online dating takes a lot of patience, benefit of the doubt, and self-reflection. But the key to doing it effectively is to detach from the outcomes and try to learn what you can from the process itself. Once that happens, you’ll find it to be a remarkably rewarding experience.

What are the requirements?

  • The only prerequisite is a willingness to date.
  • No additional materials or software are needed for this course.

What am I going to get from this course?

  • Understand the economic principles that drive online dating.
  • Choose the online dating platform that is best for you to use.
  • Efficiently conduct online searches for potential dates.
  • Write attention-getting profiles, ads, and messages that get responses from potential dates.
  • Avoid pitfalls that can occur in online dating like financial scams.
  • Identify people who are compatible with you and capable of forming healthy relationships.

Who is the target audience?

  • Take this course if you have not been on the dating market for a while and want to date effectively.
  • Take this course if you haven't been satisfied in the results you have been getting from online dating.
  • Take this course if you want your dating efforts to lead to an emotionally healthy relationship.

What you get with this course?

Not for you? No problem.
30 day money back guarantee.

Forever yours.
Lifetime access.

Learn on the go.
Desktop, iOS and Android.

Get rewarded.
Certificate of completion.


Section 1: Basic Principles

Introduction to the course -- the basics of how to make online dating an enjoyable and rewarding experience.


Online dating can be more efficient than dating people you meet randomly.


Rejection isn't a rejection of "me" -- it's a rejection of "me + you". Stakes are low, so no need to worry.


Be wary of dating websites that charge for subscriptions.

3 questions

A quiz on Section 1: Basic Principles

Section 2: Economics of Online Dating

Asymmetric information and adverse selection -- why online dating is like a taco truck.


Signaling and screening mechanisms -- why insurance policies and dating are similar.


Take your date to an expensive restaurant and you won't look like a used car salesman.

3 questions

A quiz on Section 2: Economics of Online Dating

Section 3: Nuts and Bolts of Account Creation

Create a username and headline that gets positive attention

3 pages

Examples of good and bad photos for dating profiles and ads

Section 4: Writing That Profile

Create a common frame of reference


Be specific not vague; use examples


How to stand out from the crowd


Negativity will turn people away


If you can't fix it, feature it -- be honest about the important stuff


Make sure to advertise yourself well by proofreading your profile and correcting any errors

3 pages

A series of random examples taken from Craig's List around the country, slightly edited to render them anonymous

3 questions

A quiz on basic principles for writing effective profiles and ads

Section 5: The Search Process

The fallacy of "the One"


The fallacy of "your type"


Using the strategy of elimination by aspects


The strategy of satisficing

Section 6: First Contact

How to construct an initial message to someone whose profile you find interesting

Section 7: Things to Avoid

Avoiding those who are not psychologically ready for dating


Avoiding financial scammers who use online dating websites


Some people may think they are willing and able to date, but they aren't

Section 8: Actual Dates

So you're going to meet someone face-to-face. Now what?


Date many simultaneously, not one person at a time


What's important when dating people from other cultures


Not as frequent as people like to think, but sometimes the odds are in your favor

3 questions

A quiz on going on an actual date

Section 9: Conclusion

Thanks, and a few final pieces of advice.

1 page

Links to some brief but entertaining readings if you're interested in learning more.

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Instructor Biography

Chad Raymond, Associate Professor of Political Science

I am the first member of my family to go to college and have three degrees in political science -- a bachelor's and a master's from the Massachusetts Institute of Technology (MIT), and a PhD from the University of Hawai'i. I did my dissertation research in Vietnam -- for which I had to learn Vietnamese well enough to converse in the language without an interpreter -- and I've also traveled to Thailand, Cambodia, and Burma. My latest area of interest is the politics and history of the Middle East, and I've been traveled to Egypt four times since 2009. Much of what I teach involves the application of economic principles to everyday behavior.

I have fifteen years of full-time teaching experience at the university level and regularly publish literature in scholarly journals on teaching and learning.

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