Effective Online Dating
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Effective Online Dating

Frustrated? Bored? Confused? Learn How To Get The Most From Your Online Dating Experience
5.0 (1 rating)
Instead of using a simple lifetime average, Udemy calculates a course's star rating by considering a number of different factors such as the number of ratings, the age of ratings, and the likelihood of fraudulent ratings.
14 students enrolled
Created by Chad Raymond
Last updated 10/2014
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  • 1 hour on-demand video
  • 3 Supplemental Resources
  • Full lifetime access
  • Access on mobile and TV
  • Certificate of Completion
What Will I Learn?
  • Understand the economic principles that drive online dating.
  • Choose the online dating platform that is best for you to use.
  • Efficiently conduct online searches for potential dates.
  • Write attention-getting profiles, ads, and messages that get responses from potential dates.
  • Avoid pitfalls that can occur in online dating like financial scams.
  • Identify people who are compatible with you and capable of forming healthy relationships.
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  • The only prerequisite is a willingness to date.
  • No additional materials or software are needed for this course.

This course covers the nuts and bolts of online dating and explains how to move through the process from start to finish. By the end of the course you'll be able to engage in online dating in an effective manner. No prior knowledge of the subject is required -- all you need is a willingness to date other people and be open to forming a meaningful relationship. You'll learn how to:

  • Choose the best web platform for your online dating efforts.
  • Create a profile and select photos that draw positive attention.
  • Efficiently search for potential dates.
  • Communicate with people you are interested in and with people who are interested in you.
  • Go on actual dates.

The strategies you will learn are supported by scientific research and operate according to basic economic principles. Additional resources are available in supplementary materials.

The course is organized in a series of easy-to-follow video lectures that conveniently last only a few minutes each and include plenty of examples. The entire course takes a few hours to complete, but then it's up to you to apply what you've learned -- and practice makes perfect. The instructor is available to provide feedback and advice to help you answer these questions:

  • What do I really want out of dating?
  • What is non-negotiable for me in a relationship?
  • Where can I find the people I want to connect with?
  • How much time and effort am I willing and able to put into dating at any given moment?

Online dating takes a lot of patience, benefit of the doubt, and self-reflection. But the key to doing it effectively is to detach from the outcomes and try to learn what you can from the process itself. Once that happens, you’ll find it to be a remarkably rewarding experience.

Who is the target audience?
  • Take this course if you have not been on the dating market for a while and want to date effectively.
  • Take this course if you haven't been satisfied in the results you have been getting from online dating.
  • Take this course if you want your dating efforts to lead to an emotionally healthy relationship.
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Curriculum For This Course
31 Lectures
Basic Principles
4 Lectures 08:49

Introduction to the course -- the basics of how to make online dating an enjoyable and rewarding experience.

Preview 01:20

Online dating can be more efficient than dating people you meet randomly.

Preview 01:50

Rejection isn't a rejection of "me" -- it's a rejection of "me + you". Stakes are low, so no need to worry.

Preview 02:49

Be wary of dating websites that charge for subscriptions.

Preview 02:50

A quiz on Section 1: Basic Principles

Basic Principles
3 questions
Economics of Online Dating
3 Lectures 05:26

Asymmetric information and adverse selection -- why online dating is like a taco truck.

Economics of Online Dating, Part 1

Signaling and screening mechanisms -- why insurance policies and dating are similar.

Economics of Online Dating, Part 2

Take your date to an expensive restaurant and you won't look like a used car salesman.

Economics of Online Dating, Part 3

A quiz on Section 2: Economics of Online Dating

Economics of Online Dating
3 questions
Nuts and Bolts of Account Creation
3 Lectures 05:02

Create a username and headline that gets positive attention

Usernames and Headlines


Examples of good and bad photos for dating profiles and ads

Photo Examples
3 pages
Writing That Profile
7 Lectures 06:04

Create a common frame of reference

Preview 01:43

Be specific not vague; use examples

Writing That Profile, Part 2

How to stand out from the crowd

Writing That Profile, Part 3

Negativity will turn people away

Writing That Profile, Part 4

If you can't fix it, feature it -- be honest about the important stuff

Writing That Profile, Part 5

Make sure to advertise yourself well by proofreading your profile and correcting any errors

Writing That Profile, Part 6

A series of random examples taken from Craig's List around the country, slightly edited to render them anonymous

Sample Dating Profiles
3 pages

A quiz on basic principles for writing effective profiles and ads

Profile and Ad Writing
3 questions
The Search Process
4 Lectures 08:50

The fallacy of "the One"

Searching, Part 1

The fallacy of "your type"

Searching, Part 2

Using the strategy of elimination by aspects

Searching, Part 3

The strategy of satisficing

Searching, Part 4
First Contact
1 Lecture 03:14

How to construct an initial message to someone whose profile you find interesting

First Contact
Things to Avoid
3 Lectures 07:00

Avoiding those who are not psychologically ready for dating

Avoiding Craziness

Avoiding financial scammers who use online dating websites

Avoiding Scams

Some people may think they are willing and able to date, but they aren't

Avoiding Time Wasters
Actual Dates
4 Lectures 08:34

So you're going to meet someone face-to-face. Now what?

Preview 00:56

Date many simultaneously, not one person at a time

Parallel Dating

What's important when dating people from other cultures

Intercultural Dating

Not as frequent as people like to think, but sometimes the odds are in your favor

Interracial Dating

A quiz on going on an actual date

Actual Dates
3 questions
2 Lectures 00:50

Thanks, and a few final pieces of advice.


Links to some brief but entertaining readings if you're interested in learning more.

Supplementary Readings
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About the Instructor
Chad Raymond
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Associate Professor of Political Science

I am the first member of my family to go to college and have three degrees in political science -- a bachelor's and a master's from the Massachusetts Institute of Technology (MIT), and a PhD from the University of Hawai'i. I did my dissertation research in Vietnam -- for which I had to learn Vietnamese well enough to converse in the language without an interpreter -- and I've also traveled to Thailand, Cambodia, and Burma. My latest area of interest is the politics and history of the Middle East, and I've been traveled to Egypt four times since 2009. Much of what I teach involves the application of economic principles to everyday behavior.

I have fifteen years of full-time teaching experience at the university level and regularly publish literature in scholarly journals on teaching and learning.