Does your life revolve around your loved one’s addiction? Are you ready to shift your focus to yourself? Detachment 101 is designed to bring awareness to the codependent tendencies that are holding you back and provide tools to begin emotionally detaching yourself from the addict in your life.
The best way to support the addict in your life is to start taking care of yourself. What’s the hardest part of self-care? Getting started. As a codependent, we are engrained with the idea that it is our job to be the caretaker, the fixer, the protector.
By being all of these things though, our dreams and true purpose gets left behind. Detachment can be overwhelming and scary. This course is meant to ease you into your transformational journey.
We will begin the course talking about typical codependent behaviors, which will allow the student to gain some self-awareness about where they are now. We will then expand on a few core tools for detachment including self-reflection and care, effective communication and boundaries and releasing control.
The course will end with a personalized action plan for students to use to implement the strategies and processes more effectively.
We will cover:
Purpose of the course
i. Overview of codependency
ii. Tips to begin detachment
iii. Creating an action plan
What to expect
i. Videos for each lesson
ii. Worksheets for written interaction
iii. Quizzes to check in and see how you are doing
Expectations and challenges
i. Be honest with yourself
ii. Let go of judgment
iii. Focus on you
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In this lecture we will do an overview of the course and introduce the instructor. We will also invite the students to share about themselves- why they decided to take the course, what they are hoping to gain from taking the course or simply who they are and where they are located in the world.
a. What does codependency have to do with detachment?
b. Understanding the foundation of detachment
c. Gaining perspective & self-awareness
a. Some examples
b. Reflect on what resonates with you
c. Write down some examples of when you’ve displayed these tendencies
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a. Understanding these traits are not bad things
b. Being aware of them allows you to pull out the positives or decide to let them go
c. Pick one trait you see in yourself and write down one positive thing about it OR if you are ready to let go of it
We covered the foundation of Detachment in this section.
a. Detachment is a journey, but you can get started now
b. It is more a mental process than physical
c. We’re going to talk about 5 tools to get you started
a. How to forgive without getting an apology
b. Understanding forgiveness is more about you then the other person
c. Forgiving yourself
a. Saying no
b. Setting boundaries
a. What do I mean by control
b. What do we have control over
c. Letting go
a. Moving on from the should’s
b. Being honest with yourself
c. Accepting your flaws and other’s
a. Physical- yoga, exercising
b. Mental- affirmations, journaling, meditation, gratitude journal
c. Health- doctors, dentist, other support
During this section, we will do a brief overview of 5 tools for detachment.We'll talk about how these tools can be applied in your life and how you can benefit by using them. These tools for detachment will be the building blocks for your action plan that we will cover in the last section.
While detachment can be a physical process of moving away from the person you are detached too, this section will cover the mental part of the detachment journey.
We'll talk about forgiveness, communication, releasing control, allowing imperfections and self care.
a. It’s time to start implementing change
b. Setting goals with different time lines
c. Creating a strong foundation
a. Take a look at your notes and pick one thing you want to work on
b. Envision how you want things to be
c. Creating small goals to work towards your big goal
a. What might get in your way
b. What’s gotten in your way before
c. What can you do to overcome them or avoid them all together
d. Who can help support you
Now that we have taken time for self reflection and learned a few tools for detachment, it's time to get to work.
This section will explain the process of creating an action plan tailored to your life. We'll talk about the different types of goals you can set and the importance of setting goals with different time lines.
We'll pull together everything we've talk about throughout the course and help you create a plan that aligns with your goals and values.
Congratulations! You've finished the course, so now what? This lecture will give you some support around where do go from here.
Scott Paton has been podcasting since the spring of 2005. His podcast "Weight Loss and The Mind" hit over 375,000 subscribers in its first year and over one million downloads. He has executive produced and/or co-hosted over 35 podcasts. An internationally renowned speaker, Scott has presented to audiences from London, England to Sydney, Australia, from Vancouver, BC to New York, NY, from LA to Rwanda. Thousands of entrepreneurs and NGO's have changed their public engagement strategies based on Scott's sharing. We hope you will, too!
Scott has over 48,500 students from 168 countries taking his courses.
Scott joined Udemy in 2013. In late 2014, one of his clients inspired him to make a video course on Podcasting. He revisited Udemy and got very excited at the potential. After his course went live, Scott told his clients and many decided to make courses but needed help, so he has become a co-instructor with them, while continuing to support and build his own courses. His co-topics all include areas of life-long learning by Scott, including Stock Option Trading, Alternative Health, EFT, and Relationships.
My passion for helping others started at a young age. I was drawn to people in need and had a deep desire to be an inspiration for happiness. Growing up, I was deeply affected by family members battling addiction. My life experience combined with my passion for people has lead my on this journey to become a Transformational Coach focused on supporting people affected by addiction.
I spent my years in college at Stevenson University as a Human Service major learning more about people and helping professions as well as gaining a deeper knowledge of addictions. I then pursued my life coaching certificate through the International Coach Academy and ACC credentials with the International Coach Federation.
I have found my purpose in life in the lives of others. I live to be a support structure and inspiration for my clients. By instilling the idea that we all have the capability to reach our dreams, my vision encompasses a world with more perspective, adventure and happiness.