Dating in the Christian World: Dating For Life-The Questions
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Dating in the Christian World: Dating For Life-The Questions

How to connect our ancient faith with this modern world of dating
4.7 (3 ratings)
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Created by Brett Ullman
Last updated 11/2016
English
Price: $20
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Includes:
  • 1 hour on-demand video
  • 13 Supplemental Resources
  • Full lifetime access
  • Access on mobile and TV
  • Certificate of Completion
What Will I Learn?
  • Think critically about all aspects of what a dating relationship means
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Requirements
  • This is a practical course on dating. Please be ready to take notes and click through any/all of the links to websites resources given throughout this course
Description

In this new update of my dating for life talk I have gone back to the basics. In this new talk I answer 8 questions on dating:

  1. What is dating?

  2. When should I start dating?

  3. Am I ready to start dating?

  4. How do I start dating?

  5. What are Red Flags in my dating relationships?

  6. How do I find out if they are the “One”?

  7. How do I break up?

  8. What if they are the right person for me?

Simple and practical conversations on dating for High School & Young Adults. 

At the end of each lecture there are questions that you can use either personally or in a small group setting. 

Who is the target audience?
  • single people
  • dating people
  • parents wanting to learn more about how to teach their kids to date
  • anyone interested on a conversation about the modern world of dating
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Curriculum For This Course
13 Lectures
02:45:18
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Introduction
2 Lectures 10:51

Hi, my name is Brett Ullman. Let me give you a quick background on who I am and where I come from.

Preview 01:59

Lets get this conversation started. Some basic thoughts on dating, ground rules for this talk and a quick history of dating.

Group/Personal questions for after the video:

  1. Any thoughts after this section?
  2. What did you think of the history of dating comments?
  3. How do you think dating has changed for your generation these days?
  4. Do you think your generation is dating better or worse than generations before you?
Preview 08:52
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Question 1
2 Lectures 05:15

In this section I give you some definitions for dating. 

Group/Personal questions for after the video:

  1. What do you think of Brett's comments on small d dating and big D dating?
  2. Do you have another way to view dating?
  3. Are there any aspects of dating he mentioned that you disagree with? Why?


What is dating?
02:34

Some thoughts on what I currently see in the world of dating today.
Outline for this talk:

  1. What is dating?
  2. When should I start dating?
  3. Am I ready to start dating?
  4. How do I start dating?
  5. What are Red Flags in dating relationships?
  6. How do I find out if they are "the one"?
  7. How we I break up?
  8. What if they are the person for me


Group/Personal questions for after the video:

  1. Do you agree with what Brett said about the current state of dating today?
  2. Do you see any areas that you OVER do?
  3. Do you see any areas that you UNDER do
What I see in the dating world today.
02:41
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Question 2
1 Lecture 03:35

When should I start dating? My friends started dating in Grade 5. Is this the right age? Lets talk about this openly.

Group/Personal questions for after the video:

  1. So when do YOU think you should start dating? Why do you feel that way?
  2. Do you think that dating is ok if there is NO chance of the relationship moving towards marriage?
  3. What do you think of Katie's thoughts on why she is not dating in High School?
When should I start dating?
03:35
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Question 3
1 Lecture 07:31

Are you ready to start dating? What makes you ready to start dating? Lets talk about this.

Group/Personal questions for after the video:

  1. Do you think that you are presently the person that you are looking for is looking for?
  2. What might be some areas you need to change or improve?
  3. What do you think of Brett's comments on media?
  4. Any other thoughts you have from this section?


Am I ready to start dating?
07:31
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Question 4
2 Lectures 19:50

So how do I start dating? You go on a date. This is easy to say and harder to do. Lets look at ways we can start dating. 

Group/Personal questions for after the video:

  1. If you have dated before how did you meet that person?
  2. What are other places you might be able to meet people?
  3. What do you think of the statement that you are "Sexually compatible with far more people than you are relationally compatible with"?
  4. Do you think it is ok to date someone who is not a Christian? If so do you see any areas that this might be a problem as you get older? Children? 
  5. Any other thoughts on this section?


How do I start dating2
15:03

I don't think we treat singles fairly in the Christian Church world. We have made an idol out of family ministries at the expense of singles. Lets chat more about this and talk about what singleness is and is not. 

Group/Personal questions for after the video:

  1. What are your thoughts on singleness and the church world?
  2. Do you think we have made an idol out of family ministries at the expense of singles? 
  3. How can we support singles better in our churches?
Singleness
04:47
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Question 5
1 Lecture 05:35

What do you need to be aware of in your dating relationships that might be an issue looking towards your future?

Group/Personal questions for after the video:

  1. Do you agree with the red flags that Brett talked about?
  2. Do you have any other red flags that he did not mention?
  3. Do you think it is fine to date someone who listens to sexually explicit music?
  4. Do you think that we do life differently as Christians? How does music apply to this?
  5. How prevalent is sexting at your school or church? How can this be addressed better?
  6. Do you think pornography creates unrealistic expectations in dating relationships today?


What are Red Flags in a relationship?
05:35
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Question 6
1 Lecture 11:37

So how do you know if they are the one? You cannot tell by what they say. you have to see if they are living out the answers to the questions you ask. 

Group/Personal questions for after the video:

  1. Have you ever gone through some of the questions mentioned in a dating relationship?
  2. Do you find it easy to talk about tough topics in your relationship?
  3. If you cannot do you think this is a concern as you move forward in your relationship?
  4. There are tons of questions mentioned in this section. Any questions you think Brett missed that should be added?


How do I know if they are the one?
11:37
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Question 7
1 Lecture 04:47

There is little information on the subject of breaking up. If you are going to date you will most likely have to go through a breakup. Breakups hurt. So how do you break up?

Group/Personal questions for after the video:

  1. If you have dated before how did you breakup?
  2. Is there a way you could have broken up better?
  3. Any other thoughts you want to talk about 


Preview 04:47
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Question 8
1 Lecture 02:57

What happens when you finally find that person who IS the right person for you? What do you do next?

Group/Personal questions for after the video:

  1. What do you think of the next steps after you have found the right person?
  2. Do you have any other questions about this section?
What if they are the right person for me?
02:57
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Conclusion
1 Lecture 02:20

What do we do after this talk? Resources, and conclusion.

Group/Personal questions for after the video:

  1. So after going through all of the 8 questions what are your thoughts?
  2. Are there any areas in your own dating relationships you think you might need to work on? 


Remember for any talk that you are challenged on. John Maxwell says you have 3 days to begin to do something about what you were challenged on before you ... don't. So my challenge to you would be to write out a few things you want to implement in your own life and start working on them right away.


Where do we go from here?
02:20
About the Instructor
Brett Ullman
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2 Courses
Speaker Author Father Husband

Brett Ullman travels North America speaking to teens, young adults, leaders and parents on topics including sexuality, mental health, men, dating and media. Husband to Dawn, and father of Bennett and Zoe, Brett and his family make their home in Ajax, Ontario where Brett leads and directs Worlds Apart, a charity focused on empowering individuals to re-align their lives with Biblical core values often muddled by media but central to Christian living.

Brett was a teacher with the Toronto District School Board for 10 years before moving into speaking full-time back in 2005. Brett has a Masters degree in Evangelism and Leadership from Wheaton Grad School in Chicago and is also a graduate of the Arrow Leadership Program. He and his family are members of C4 Church in Ajax since 2004.