Verbal Defense
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Verbal Defense

Learn The Language Patterns of Self Defense And Never Be Insulted, Manipulated or Taken Advantage of Again
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Created by George Hutton
Last updated 9/2019
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What you'll learn
  • Verbal Skills to Defend Against and Defeat Insults
  • Techniques To Increase Self Confidence
  • Social and Communication Skills
  • Inner Game Skills
  • Humor Skills
  • Anti-Gaslighting Skills
  • Thinking Skills
  • Basic Command of English

When pick pockets go out looking for victims, they have a specific type.

When muggers go out looking for victims, they have a certain type.

They know who will put of a fight, and who won't.

They'll know who'll remember what they look like, and who won't.

But they also know who to stay away from.

They know who might leave them in a puddle of pain.

They know who might NOT be too scared to remember every detail of their face and clothing.

Deep Instincts

This is not any different from predators and prey.

When lions stalk a herd of gazelles, they don't go after the big ones that might kick them in the throat.

They go after the small ones. The weak ones. The ones that won't put up a fight.

Subconscious Manipulators

You may have attracted your share of creeps and losers.

Maybe you've got a friend or two who attracts the same gaslighters over and over.

Maybe you've even read a couple of pop psychology books that explain it's due to early childhood experiences.

Forget The Reasons

Sure, it might be intellectually stimulating to understand why we attract manipulators.

It may be insightful dig deep into our emotional histories to get the precise reasons why we may attract negative people into our lives.

But that would take too long.

If you were physically weak, and people picked on you because of it, you'd get to the gym.

You'd learn some things. How to block. How to duck. How to punch.

And once you learned these simple-to-learn techniques, something funny would happen.

Different Skills Different Energy

With a real knowledge inside your brain of these skills, you'd walk differently. You'd talk differently.

You'd look people in the eye differently.

Kind of weird how this works. You spend tons of time in the gym, building tons of memories of blocking punches.

Tons of memories of hitting the heavy bag with enough force to break bones.

I Could Kill You If I Wanted

Once you burn these experiences into your brain, it's as if part of you, a deep, powerful and ancient part, is sending a very strong message.

If you come at me with evil intentions, you won't remain conscious for long.

You don't say this. You don't even think this.

But your subconscious, non-verbal communication is projecting this to everybody around.

But more importantly, people get this.

Nice people. Mean people. Smart people. Dumb people.

They see you, and they know.

Non-Conscious Language

Most of our communication is non-verbal.

This is why A-list actors get paid millions of dollars and those pretenders in Netflix B movies don't.

It's not the words they are saying, it's how they say them. The non-verbal energy.

Fear Attracts Evil

If you fear insults from others, they will come.

They will come just as regularly as muggers and pickpockets.

This may be hard to accept, but whatever your deepest fears are, you are projecting them.

Just as plainly as a black belt projects his physical competence.

Killer Inner Game Repels Outer Evil

The first thing you'll learn in this course is how to build up an extremely strong inner state.

This will only require some thinking practice.

Thinking and mental focus techniques you can do in the safety of your own brain, and your own home.

Build Up Inner Game

The more you do these exercises, the stronger your inner game will be.

This will slowly shift that non-verbal energy you're sending out.

From whatever it is now, to a very clear, very distinct, DON'T MESS WITH ME.

You won't need to think it. It will just be there. You'll know it, and so will everybody else.

Energy Flipping Patterns

Some martial arts leverage the energy of the attacker against them.

Black belts in these arts only need to shift their energy very slightly, and the strongest attacker will be sent tumbling.

You'll learn some powerful and extremely simple verbal techniques that will do the same.

Insult Energy Back In Their Face

The reason people insult us, even when they pretend they aren't, is because they are bullies.

They want to demonstrate their higher social status than us.

The reason they insult us, almost always in front of our peers, is to show everybody that with a few words, they can easily knock us off balance.

But once you build up your inner state, and learn these insanely simple patterns, you'll take their insult energy, carefully fling it right back at them in a way they'll have no idea how to respond.

Everybody will be looking at you, and them, and wonder how in the hell you became so powerful.

Just The Beginning

Once you see how easy this is, the next step is understanding the very structure of thought itself.

You'll learn some extremely powerful techniques to take anything anybody says, and absolutely obliterate it.

You'll learn that no phrase, sentence or collection of words that comes out of anybody's mouth is beyond your skill of verbal assassination.

Let that sink in for a moment.

You'll develop the ability to take anything anybody says under any circumstance, and not only prove them wrong, but make them look like an inept buffoon.

Not Just Defensive Tactics

Most people don't think about how they think.

Most people don't think about how they speak.

A random thought pops into their brain, and they put a few words to it and spit it out.

Once you learn how incredibly it easy it is to make mince meat out of anything anybody ever says, you will be a walking wizard.

Party Hero

Take any idea anybody spits out and turn it into a non-stop comedy routine with you the center of attention.

You'll be the king or queen of any social situation.

Conversational Super Star

Since you'll be able to take anything anybody says and make it into one of the most wonderful conversations they've ever had, any time there are people and spoken words, you can become the most wonderful person they've ever met.

Deadpan Assassinations

You'll learn a technique to take even the most vicious insult and reply with a short phrase, deadpan delivery, without even needing eye contact to send your attacker fleeing, never ever to insult you again.

Why Don't You Pick On Somebody Your Own Size?

See somebody on the receiving end and like to help out?

Lean in, drop a few words into the conversation and flip it around anyway you like.

Make the attacker look like an idiot. Make the victim look like a hero.

Lean back on your bar stool and carefully scan the room, daring anybody else.

Inner Power

Learn exercises that will obliterate all social fears, so they will never come true.

Learn how to project power.

Enemies will fear you, friends will love you.

Strangers will want to get to know you.

Outer Skills

On top of your massively powerful inner game you'll have the verbal skills of a wizard.

Magic words to spin their minds any way you want to.

Deep fear and terror. Uproarious laughter. Good times they'll remember forever.

Search and Destroy Limiting Beliefs

Those old beliefs that have been holding you back?

Their days are numbered.

You will learn a very powerful and systematic technique that will obliterate them.

One by one, hunt them, identify them, and assassinate them.

Yours or anybody else's.

Lifetime of Skills

The techniques and skills you'll learn in this course have no upper limit.

The more you practice them, the better you'll get.

And since few people even think about stuff like this, this means the more you practice these, the more of an advantage you'll have.

Over everybody else. On Earth.

Destroy All Enemies

Subconscious power, deadpan delivery or a non-stop verbal smackdown.

Choose whichever you want and send them packing. Get this course now and never fear anybody ever again.

Party Hero

Toned down and playful insights are the perfect party tricks.

Take any statement anybody says and twist into a pretzel of side splitting laughter.

Get this course now and be a social super star.

Become A Master Of Thought

Learn the structure of thought and obliterate any ideas you don't like.

Out-argue anybody on Earth. Get this guide now and become a communication super hero.

Who this course is for:
  • Anybody Who Wants To Improve Confidence and Communication
Course content
Expand all 30 lectures 03:36:33
+ Human Communication
3 lectures 24:06

Introduction and Course Goals.

Similarities Between Verbal Defense and Physical Defense

Verbal and Non Verbal Communication

Basic Structure of Verbal Attacks

Basic Strategies of Verbal Defense

Preview 08:06

Non Verbal Communication

A List Actors vs. Wooden Actors

Social Status Implications

Social Hierarchy Experiments

Non Verbal Communication and Social Hierarchy

Determining Your Place Within Social Hierarchies

Mechanics of Non Verbal Communication

Non Verbally Projecting and Measuring Social Status

ROI Instinct

Inner Game vs. Outer Game

Interactions Between Inter Game and Outer Game

Why Inner Game Leads Outer Game

Form and Function

Form Leading Function

Function Leading Form

Social Status Science
+ Building Strong Inner States
3 lectures 21:40

Step By Step Process For Building Strong Inner States

Start as young as you can possible remember. The idea is to find any memories, as early as you can remember, where you felt safe and secure because of your own actions.

Not when you were protected by an adult or a physical barrier.

When you defended yourself verbally against any verbal attack or insult. Any time you spoke up and defended yourself using words.

When somebody wanted you to do something, and you refused, and they backed down.

Any time you got into a shouting match and won, not due to the loudness of your words, but the words themselves.

Any time you said something to somebody, that somebody couldn't come up with a response and they left you alone.

One Memory Per Day

This exercise will take a few weeks. The first few days may be difficult.

But the more you write, the more you'll find more of these same memories.

Write out five or six lines of each, just enough so you can set it up, write out what you did, and how you felt.

A few sentences to a short paragraph is fine. Keep writing at least one experience every day, starting as early as you can, until you come up to the present time.

Once you start to find more and more, you can write more per day if you can. Do not rush this.

Take your time to find as many of these memories as you can.

Decide on The Five Strongest

Find the five memories that represent your best personal memories of verbal defense.

The ones you enjoy remembering the most. The ones that make you feel the most confident and proud of yourself as you remember them.

Take your time until you've chosen the five best ones.

You will be spending quite a bit of time on these memories, so make sure you choose the very best.

Write Out One Memory Per Day

Once you've got the five chosen, write out one per day.

When you write these five, write as much as you can.

Write in as much detail as you can.

Don't worry too much about being accurate. These memories will serve to give you strong inner power whenever you need it.

The only requirement is that when you recall these memories, you feel strong, assertive and safe within your own mind, needing only your words to defend yourself.

Try to write at least a page each day on one memory.

Find A Trigger Event

Once you've written each memory out in detail, find one trigger event or idea within each memory.

It can be a word you said.

It can be a visualization from the memory. It can anything.

The only rule is it must be short, and it immediately recalls the full memory, and all the confidence it brings.

Practice the Triggers

If you need to write each memory out several times, write it out several times.

The goal is to be able to simply think of the trigger and bring back the confidence as strongly and as powerfully as you can.

Don't expect this to happen on its own.

Mentally fire the trigger, and then mentally force the memory and the feelings of confidence to flood your entire being.

Start off doing this alone at home.

Do it sitting down, do it standing up. Close your eyes, mentally fire the trigger and consciously and deliberately bring back the flood of memories as strongly as you can.

Put A Trigger on Each Finger

Take one trigger each and put one on one finger each of your dominant hand.

Practice firing five in sequence.

Then practice firing all five at once by making a brief fist.

Give this plenty of time. This is something that will require consistent practice after enough set up.

Practice Firing in Many Situations

Once you can repeatedly recall the emotions at home, practice outside.

Practice in your car. Practice while walking around. Practice while in relaxing conversations with your friends.

Fire your triggers just before you order from wait staff.

Not A Quick Fix

This will take quite a long time to build.

Think of this just like martial arts. Those who train to a high level of skill don't think in terms of training "enough" until the results are "permanent."

Think of this exercise very much like physical exercise.

It will take time to create, and you will need to do daily work to maintain your ability to fire up a strong feeling of confidence in any situation.

For the few minutes per day this will take, the rewards will be enormous.

Preview 07:51

How To Deal With Sudden and Unexpected Attacks

The Necessity of Remaining Neutral

The Brain Fade Response

Neutrally Asked, "What Do You Mean?"

How To Practice With TV Characters

How To Practice With Friends

Sudden Attacks

How To Prepare For Expected Attacks

Practicing Worst Feared Insults

Creating A Daily Practice Habit

Physical Injury Metaphor

Why Ignored Fears Tend To Come True

Why Practiced Fears Tend To Not Come True

+ Beginning Verbal Defensive Strategies
4 lectures 30:44

The Need for Vague Language

How To Get More Specific Information

Using Meta Model To Defeat Insult Energy

Combining Meta Model with Brain Fade

Putting The Spotlight On The Insulter

Preview 07:20

Seeing Structures In Vague Language

Common Illogical Thought Patterns

Common Insult Structures

Simple Cause Effect Statements

How To Defeat All Cause Effect Statements

Defeating The, "X is Y" Insult Pattern

The Subjective Human

Evolutionary Origins of Cause Effect Thinking

Mathematical Implications of Cause Effect Instincts

Why Skeptics Love Asking For Proof

Exposing Cause Effect Fallacies

Asking Simple Questions To Destroy Unwanted Ideas

Cause Effect

How To Use Every Conversation To Prepare For The Next


Step One

The first step is to just practice asking for more information.

Ask simple questions like "Why do you think that?" Or simply, "What do you mean?" and simply remember what they said.

Most of the time simply asking that question, "What do you mean" will do a lot to diffuse their insult energy.

But whatever reply they give you, so long as it's verbal, remember it, and write it down.

Step Two

Once you write it down, try to create as many cause-effect statements as you can. For example, if they walk into the elevator, and say:

Those pants are lame!

To which you may reply:

What it is it about my pants that makes them lame?

And they reply:

Just look at them!

At this point, you may feel too off balance to come up with anything.

That's perfectly fine. Just remember what they said so you can write it down later.

When you train for a boxing match, you need to train the movements into your muscle memory.

But when figuring out how train in better verbal responses, you need to train them into your brain memory.

You can train your brain memory later, so long as you remember what was said.

So now you are safely at home, feeling calmer and more creative, and you can get to work. You have this to work with:

Your pants are lame!


Look at them!

Now you can take some time to guess any cause-effect linkages that you can.

You don't need to guess correctly, because when asked for clarification, your attacker said, "Look at them!"

This is meaningless because they literally couldn't think of an objective reason.

The first level of interactive defense is to take whatever cause-effect they throw out, take it at face value, and continue to ask them to explain it.

This will take time and practice because it is very difficult to think clearly when you are unexpectedly insulted, even playfully, even by friends, in front of others.

The goal is to think clearly and keep asking for more clarification on any cause-effect reasons they have behind the insult.

With only a few simple and calm questions designed to get more clarification, their reasons will soon look silly and foolish.

But that won't happen until you take the time to post-game-journal as many insults as possible.

Ones you hear, either directed at you or directed at others, ones on TV, and most importantly, the ones you fear the most.

The point of this video course is not to give you a list of ready-made comebacks.

That would be as useless as trying to prepare for a boxing match against an unknown opponent by reading a book on boxing strategies.

The best defensive linguistic moves will come from your own brain.

And you must put them there yourself by taking the time to write out as many cause-effect linkages you can.

Building up your own robust set of comebacks, as well as the calm demeanor to deliver them with deadly effect will take time.

What follows is an example of how one might respond or journal to the above statements.

Your pants are lame because look at them.

What do you mean? Are my pants lame because you can see them?

What do you mean? Are my pants lame because you are looking at them?

What do you mean? Are my pants lame because they are visible?

What do you mean? Are my pants lame because they are not invisible?

Practice with Friends

As with many of these techniques, what can be used as a quick and deadly defense against genuine insults can be used playfully and positively with friends.

With friends, you'll most likely be more relaxed, so you can playfully expand the implied cause-effect, take them to extreme and hysterical levels.

That same insult (your pants are lame) can be devastating when coming from the office bully in front of some strangers in an elevator.

But that exact same insult, when coming from a friend, can be a seed for a long, friendly, and enjoyable competition.

All these linguistic patterns can and should be practiced as much as possible with friends.

Even if you receive an insult from an enemy, a great way to practice would be to later imagine that the same insult came from a friend.

This will put in you in a more resourceful state of mind. In that state of mind, you might extend the cause-effect assumptions as follows:

Your pants are lame!

What is it about my pants that make you think they're lame?

Because, dude, look at them!

What do you mean? Are my pants lame because you can see them? If I poked your eyes out would they stop being lame?

What do you mean? Are my pants lame because you are looking at them? Were they not lame until you showed up and could see them?

Why would you make my pants turn lame like that? How long have you had that superpower?

What do you mean? Are my pants lame because they are visible?

So, you're saying if my pants were invisible, and everybody could see my junk, that would be less lame? Are you some kind of a secret nudist or something?

Is this your way of asking me to take my pants off? Dude, really?

What do you mean? Are my pants lame because they are not invisible? Would you like me to take them off?

Is that what you're saying? Are you saying you want to see my junk?

Post Journaling Practice
+ Going On The Offensive
3 lectures 20:51

Contradicting Implied Cause Effect Insults

The Deadpan Re Frame

Building The Deadpan Response With Daily Journaling

Practicing Deadpan Replies With Friends

Post Journaling Practice Technique

Step One

Write out the insult in cause-effect form.

Your pants are lame because look at them.

Step Two

Write out all the goofy ways you can extend the cause-effect idea.

What do you mean? Are my pants lame because you can see them?

What do you mean? Are my pants lame because you are looking at them?

What do you mean? Are my pants lame because they are visible?

What do you mean? Are my pants lame because they are not invisible?

Step Three

Extend all the goofy ideas to insulting ideas about the attacker.

You want to see me naked.

You want me out of these pants.

Step Four

Turn these into a simple question to your attacker.

Do you want to see me naked?

Do you want to see me out of these pants?

Step Five

Practice delivering these questions with deadpan delivery.

Step Six

Imagine they respond to your deadpan delivery with the worst possible reply imaginable.

Then go through the same process.

Practice with Friends

As always, practice these techniques playfully with friends.

This will allow you to practice in real time to several layers deep.

They'll insult you, you will reframe them, they'll reframe that reframe, and so on.

Fighting Fire With Fire

How To Obliterate Any Statement, Belief or Idea

Eighteen Powerful Reframing Patterns

Examples - "This Meeting Is Stupid"

Pattern One - Meta Frame

This is when you look at a very big picture and see the argument from a different perspective.

This meeting is stupid because I have something better to do.

In the big scheme of things, the company's bottom line is the most important thing.

Pattern Two - Change Frame Size

This is you look at a different perspective, but not as big as before.

This meeting is stupid because I have something better to do.

Yeah, but we all got to be here till five no matter what.

Pattern Three - Apply to Self; A to A

This is when you take one side of the argument and apply it to itself.

This meeting is stupid because I have something better to do.

This meeting thinks that complaint is stupid.

Pattern Four - Apply to Self; B to B

Same as the above but applied to the other side.

This meeting is stupid because I have something better to do.

Well, unfortunately for us this meeting has nothing better to do that keep us here.

Pattern Five - Reality Strategy

This is when you question the actual reality of the statement.

This meeting is stupid because I have something better to do.

How do you know it's better until the meeting is over?

Pattern Six - Model of The World

This attacks the belief as only being one opinion out of several.

This meeting is stupid because I have something better to do.

Well, our shareholders who depend on our profitability would disagree.

Pattern Seven - Intent

This is when you attack the intention beneath the statement. Why they are saying that.

This meeting is stupid because I have something better to do.

You're only saying that because you are hungover, and you don't want anybody to know.

Pattern Eight - Redefine - A not equal to B

This is when you agree with one half but link it to something else.

This meeting is stupid because I have something better to do.

No, this meeting is stupid because we have to listen to you complain.

Pattern Nine - Redefine - B not equal to A

Same as above, but to the other side.

This meeting is stupid because I have something better to do.

You'll have plenty better to do once you get fired for missing too many meetings.

Pattern Ten - Counter Example

Find any example that disproves the belief or statement.

This meeting is stupid because I have something better to do.

Have you ever skipped a meeting and later wish you didn't?

Pattern Eleven - Chunk Up

This is when you take either side of the belief (rather than the whole belief) and make it bigger.

This meeting is stupid because I have something better to do.

It won't seem stupid this weekend when you've already forgotten about it.

That thing you think is better won't seem so important in a week.

Pattern Twelve - Chunk Down

Same as above but go down in size instead of up.

This meeting is stupid because I have something better to do.

What exactly do you think is stupid about this meeting?

Why exactly do you think what you have planned is so important?

Pattern Thirteen - Metaphor

Take any reframe and put it into a metaphor or anecdote.

This meeting is stupid because I have something better to do.

I'll bet unemployed people wish they had unimportant meetings to attend.

Pattern Fourteen - Another Outcome

Take the cause-effect statement and make it irrelevant by placing it within a larger context.

This meeting is stupid because I have something better to do.

Probably, but either way we need to discuss some things.

Pattern Fifteen - Consequences

Explain what will happen if their belief is taken to its logical conclusion.

This meeting is stupid because I have something better to do.

Keep skipping meetings and you'll never get that promotion.

Pattern Sixteen - Hierarchy of Criteria

Use an example of something more important that makes the statement irrelevant.

This meeting is stupid because I have something better to do.

That's how a job works. They pay you to do things you wouldn't do otherwise.

Pattern Seventeen - Take It to The Threshold

Take it to an extreme extension. To silly levels.

This meeting is stupid because I have something better to do.

Maybe you should never go to another meeting again. Ever. For any reason. Even something like a court date or your daughter's wedding.

Since you've got so much important stuff to do.

Pattern Eighteen - Reverse Presuppositions

Flip the belief around and see if it sounds better.

This meeting is stupid because I have something better to do.

How can what you have to do be much less important than this meeting?

How can this meeting turn out to be way more important than that other stuff?

Cause Effect KIllers

Ways To Practice

Practicing Dead Pan Delivery

Practicing Humorous Responses

Reframe Patterns To Build Social Status

Reframe Patterns To Build Attraction

How To Practice
+ Advanced Thinking Skills
4 lectures 27:51

How To Reframe Any Statement Or Idea

Creating Chains of Reframes

Uplifting Friends

Example: "John likes Mary."

Pattern One - Meta Frame

Everybody likes somebody.

Pattern Two - Change Frame Size

What specifically does he like about her?

Pattern Three - Apply to Self; A to A

John likes a lot of people.

Pattern Four - Apply to Self; B to B

Mary doesn't like you telling me this.

Pattern Five - Reality Strategy

How do you know?

Pattern Six - Model of The World

Unrequited love is the oldest story in the book.

Pattern Seven - Intent

You're only telling me that because you like idle gossip.

Pattern Eight - Redefine - A not equal to B

He doesn't like Mary. He likes what he's heard about Mary.

Pattern Nine - Redefine - B not equal to A

John doesn't like Mary. I think you like Mary.

Pattern Ten - Counter Example

He didn't seem to like her the other night when he was with Lisa.

Pattern Eleven - Chunk Up

For how long?

Pattern Twelve - Chunk Down

Is that who he likes this week?

Thirteen - Metaphor

Everybody likes somebody.

Fourteen - Another Outcome

Yeah, but he should focus on his homework or he'll get kicked out of school and then nobody will like him.

Fifteen - Consequences

Yeah, I'll bet Mary's boyfriend won't be happy to hear that.

Sixteen - Hierarchy of Criteria

Yeah, maybe now, but isn't she shipping out overseas tomorrow?

Seventeen - Take It to The Threshold

So, they going to get married? Like tomorrow?

Eighteen - Reverse Presuppositions

How can the more he chases her the less he'll like her?

Deeper Than You Imagine

Using Patterns To Help Friends

Using Patterns To Help Strangers

Using Patterns To Create Humor

Understanding World Famous Comedians

Meta Model Plus Reframe Patterns

Swiss Army Brain

How To Eliminate Negative Beliefs

Sentence Completion To Find Limiting Beliefs

How To Slowly Obliterate Negative Thinking

Identifying and Eliminating Self Sabotage

Step By Step Belief Elimination Process

Step One

Identify something you want, but you feel is associated with either of those two feelings.

That you are not allowed to get that, or you are not adjective enough to get that.

Step Two

This is going to be painful, there's no way around it.

In order to find the exact grammatical structure of the negative belief, you've got to sort through some of your imagined shortcomings.

This won't feel good, but it's necessary. First think of the thing you want.

We'll use a million dollars as an example. Then write the sentence stem:

I can't get a million dollars because...

Step Three

This is the painful part.

Write down all the ways you can complete the sentence.

Many of your answers will externalize. Meaning you'll put the responsibility outside of you.

These won't help. The ones that will help are the statements about you.

About your capability. About your sense of deserving.

When you write these out, it should hurt. It should feel like an emotional sucker punch.

It may even conjure up horrible memories from our childhood.

If you start to feel a lump in your throat and water streaming down your face, you're pretty close.

For example, you might write down:

I don't deserve money.

I'm not smart enough.

I'm not educated enough.

I'm not clever enough.

Or, you might come up with statements like this:

I'm too dumb.

I'm too ugly.

I'm too adjective.

Either way, write down a few that seem to be true.

Step Four

Go through all the patterns, one through eighteen and pulverize the previous statements.

First write down a reframe, and then keep going until you get to a SILLY or humorous result.

Negative Belief Destruction

How To Use Situations To Create Strong Inner and Outer Game

Use Reframe Patterns to Prepare For Specific Arguments

Playing Chess Against Yourself

Predict and Reframe All Expected Objections

The Paradox Of Fear

How To Pre-Frame Fear Itself

Worst Case Scenario Planning
+ All Out Verbal Assaults
7 lectures 46:58

Understanding Common Human Emotional Weaknesses

Understanding FOMO - Fear Of Missing Out

Understanding Worst Imagined Social Fears

Understanding Worst Imagined Authority Based Fears

Common High School Movie Horror Tropes

Human Soft Spots

How To Hide Ideas Of Horror

Trick Them Into Discovering The Hidden Verbal Assaults

Leveraging Copywriting Techniques To Deliver Emotional Pain

The Reverse Dale Carnegie Technique

Common Ways People Hide Insights

Linguistic Presuppositions - Theory

Using Linguistic Presuppositions To Help Friends

Deadly Language - Theory

Step By Step Description of Deadly Presuppositions

Advertising Examples

Pseudo Cleft Sentences

What is X about Y is....

This is when you create a label (X is Y) and put it inside another label.

And Y can be an idea on its own, or a cause - effect statement.

What is fantastic about this toothpaste is it makes your teeth much whiter.


This is the form of the hidden jerk sentence.

When asking a question, the listener is somewhat involuntarily tricked into trying to answer it.

Who is the first person you'd like to impress with your whiter teeth once you start using this toothpaste?

Ordinal Numbers

First, second, third, etc.

Whenever we hear any ordinal number, even if we only hear one, we immediately start to assume there are whole bunch of other items on the list.

Even though this is primarily a whitening toothpaste, the second thing people realize about it is how effective it is at fighting tooth decay!

Rhetorical Questions

These are much like direct questions, but a little worse.

Instead of tricking the listener into trying to come up with a specific answer, they trick the listener into simply pondering the meta answer.

How many people can benefit, and in how many ways from whiter teeth?

Change of State Verbs

These are words like change, transform, turn into, etc.

These verbs imply process.

When we sense a process, it's like a kind of idea movement, which makes it hard to take apart and examine parts of the process.

This whitening toothpaste will transform what you think is possible!

Relative Clauses

Noun + who, which, that

These is useful for implying social proof.

It's often used in advertising to imply a positive trait about a product along with social proof.

Many people who use this toothpaste have found their teeth two shades whiter, on average.

Change of Time Verbs and Adverbs

Begin, stop, continue, etc.

These are like the change of state verbs.

Any time you describe a process that is already ongoing, it's hard to stop and question some of the elements.

This particular pattern is used to describe processes in time, which can't be reversed in reality and are equally hard to reverse mentally.

When you begin to see how immediately effective this whitening toothpaste is, you'll be excited about smiling!

Factive Verbs and Adjectives

These used to describe a sense of knowing or realizing.

You connect the idea you want to be believed to a process of knowing or realizing, and it's much harder to disagree with. 

Once you realize how effective this toothpaste is, you'll never go back.

Commentary Adjectives and Adverbs

These are words like happily, unhappily, luckily, unfortunately.

Whatever word or phrases that comes after these are generally much harder to argue with than if you said them directly.

Luckily, once people find out how much this toothpaste whitens their teeth, they never go back!

Subordinate Clause of Time

Before, after, since, etc.

These are linked to the idea of cause-effect. This makes them very hard to disagree with.

After people start using this whitening toothpaste, their social lives are so much more exciting.

Generic Noun Phrases

These are very flexible and very powerful, as you can use them to reference a powerful social group. Academic experts, learned professionals, etc.

They generally need to be used with other patterns.

This whitening formula was created by a very advanced group of scientists.

Vague Patterns

Linguistic presuppositions are designed to secretly implant ideas in their minds.

The following patterns are used to describe vague ideas.

But since they are vague, the listener will have to come up with their own specific meaning.

If used correctly, these can be put together to create the Carnegie effect, where they discover and take ownership of an idea you've hidden for them to find.

Single Binds

The more you X the more you Y....

The more you use this toothpaste, the more you'll find out how wonderful it is.

Tag Questions

Put a simple tag question at the end of the sentence.

This will trick the listener into searching for an answer, rather than questioning what was just said.

You do realize how important it is to have whiter teeth, don't you?

Mind Reading

This is when you purport to know what your target is thinking about.

This isn't really mind reading, but very accurate guessing.

But when you accurately guess about common things, it can seem very accurate.

I know you have people in your life you'd like to use these patterns on.

Unspecified Verbs

These are sentences where you allude that something is happening, but you don't say exactly how.

You will learn to use these techniques with amazing results.


These are used to reference people without your target knowing who you are talking about.

Normally a pronoun comes after a proper noun. Consider:

John and I are going to lunch, and he said you might like to go.

That makes sense. But consider this:

We are going to lunch and she told me she doesn't want you going, so please stay here.

Deadly Language - Practice

Combining Presuppositions and Human Soft Spots

Several Vague Examples Of Deadly Language

Generic Noun Phrase

People are already talking about you and not in a good way.

Subordinate Clause of Time

After you hear what people are saying about you, you might want to update your resume.

Once word gets around about what some people really think about you, you might want to start looking for a new set of friends.

Commentary Adjectives and Adverbs

Fortunately, they've already found a replacement for you. Have they told you yet?

Unfortunately, you haven't heard what some people have been saying about you.

I don't like to participate in gossip, but what she told me was pretty painful if only half of it is true.

Change of State Verbs

After you hear what they've been saying, it might be too late to change their mind.

Factive Verbs and Adjectives

After you realize what so many people have been saying about you, I don't think much can be done.

I hadn't realized so many people feel the same way about you. I thought she was the only one.

I hadn't realized that they'd already decided what to do with you. Obviously, you don't know yet.

Change of Time Verbs and Adverbs

When you stop and realize what's being said behind your back, you might want to take some time to plan how you're going to respond.

But if you continue to pretend you don't know, it's probably already too late.

Relative Clauses

People that I've talked to think that some of the things others have been saying about you are too harsh, but I try to stay out of things like this.

Rhetorical Questions

Do you even care about all the negative things being said about you behind your back?

Ordinal Numbers

The second thing you might consider is to figure out why somebody would start such ugly rumors about you.


Why do you think they've been saying that about your productivity reports?

Pseudo Cleft Sentences

What is amazing to me is that you still have friends after all the things I've heard from them.

Single Binds

The more I hear about you the more I realize those original rumors are true.

Tag Questions

You do realize that most of the people that are friendly to your face say vicious things behind your back, don't you?

Mind Reading

I know what you are so worried about, especially in light of the recent news about that negative thing that happened.

Unspecified Verbs

Those things that people are saying about you are going to originally spiral out of control.

Maybe you should do something about it before it's too late? Or maybe it already is too late.


She told me that they were discussing what to do about your, uh, issue, and she said it wasn't a very pleasant discussion.

I'm sure glad I'm not you, and both he and she feel the same way.

Deadly Language - Examples

How To Prepare Against Specific Enemies

Collect Their Authority References

Collect Their Social References

Collect Their Subordinate References

Create Specific Horror Situations

Turn Specific Situations Into Vague Statements

Book Of The Dead

How To Collect Intel On Your Enemies

Leveraging Sun Tzu - Know Your Enemy Like Yourself

How To Speak With Total Congruence

How To Drop Vague Statements With Deadly Effects

The Whisper of Death

Enemies Closer

How To Build Up A Strong Inner Offensive State

Friendly On The Outside - Deadly On The Inside

Creating Powerful Non - Verbal Energy

Five Trigger Fingers of Doom

Stare Of Death
+ Advanced Tactics
5 lectures 37:15

How To Differentiate Friends From Enemies

How To Find Hidden Ideas

The Tommy Devito Technique

How To Meta Model Your Enemies Into Submission

How To Use The Meta Model With Extreme Viciousness

Defense Against The Dark Arts

How To Train Linguistic Presuppositions For Unconscious Competence

Build In Positive Beliefs About Yourself

Comparative As

Nothing is as powerful as presuppositions.


er, more, less...

Understanding presuppositions is much better.

Selection Restriction

Doing X precludes Y

When you start practicing these, your life will never be the same.

Proper Names

Using any name presupposes that it exists.

King Phillip II of Macedonia knew important secrets we should learn.

Definite Description

Any description presupposes it is true.

This pattern will increase your communication skills by 15.45%.

Stressed Sentences

Whenever any word is stressed, spoken or written.

These patterns are VERY important.

Cleft Sentences

It is... It was....

It is your dreams of a better future that will make learning these so easy.

Counterfactual Conditional Clauses

Talking about something that didn't happen before as if it did.

If you had learned these five years ago, you'd already be a millionaire by now.

Change of Place Verbs

Come, go, arrive, depart

When you start practicing these every day, you'll leave behind all social anxiety.


only, even, just

These aren't just for defending against insults, these are for making money.

Negative Questions

Are these patterns not the best ones in the world?

Repetitive Verbs and Adverbs

Repeatedly, return, replace, etc.

You'll repeatedly be glad you learned these when you see how much money and sex they get you.

Spurious Not

I wonder if you are not already wondering how much sex and money you'll get with these patterns.

Some Quantifiers

some, each, every, few,

Some people who learn these use a few of them to create financial empires.

Repetitive Cue Words

Too, also, either, again, back

You'll come back again and again to the power of these, every time you practice them.

Complex Adjectives

New, old, former, present

Any new insults you get after you start practicing these will be a source of endless laughter.

Contrary to Expectation

Should you not realize just how powerful these are, try them out for a few days and prepare to be amazed.

Generic Noun Phrases

People who study these patterns make a hundred times as much as people who don't.

Subordinate Clause of Time

Before, after, during, since, etc.

After you've practiced writing these out, you'll have X-ray vision into people's brains.

Commentary Adjectives and Adverbs

Luckily, fortunately, happily, etc.

Luckily, you are learning these now, so they'll come in handy the rest of your life.

Change of State Verbs

Change, transform, turn into, become, etc.

You'll transform your entire life with these patterns into a rock and roll sex money party.

Factive Verbs and Adjectives

Odd, aware, know, realize

Once you truly realize the power of these, you'll never want to leave home without them.

Change of Time Adverbs

Begin, stop, start, etc.

When you start practicing these every day, every aspect of your life will change.

Relative Clauses

Noun + Who, which, that

People that study these are much smarter than those who know nothing about them.

Rhetorical Questions

Who cares how long it takes to practice these? You'll enjoy it when your income doubles.

Ordinal Numbers

First, second, third, etc.

The second thing you'll be able to do with these is secretly implant thoughts into people's brains.


Who do you think will be the first person whose insults you you'll obliterate with these tools?

Pseudo Cleft Sentences

What is X about Y is...

What is fantastic about these patterns is you'll see them everywhere once you practice them.


He, she, they

He uses these patterns to make money and she uses them to brainwash people into singing about bananas.

Training For Presuppositions

How Presuppositions Reveal Problem States in Friends

Using Meta Model Questions To Elicit Problem States

Carefully Peeling Back Onion Layers

How To Covertly Help Friends

Gray Area Transitions

How To Use Blunt Force Metaphors

Create Interpersonal Horror Feelings

Finding Movie Villains To Match Targets

How To Introduce Horror Stories

Keeping The Horror References Subconscious

Deadly Metaphors

How To Lead Enemy Behavior With Metaphors

How To Give Warnings With Metaphors

Finding Fictional Examples

Keeping A List of Metaphorical Examples

The Trifecta of Metaphorical Communication

Metaphorical Pacing
+ Final Words and Recommendations
1 lecture 07:08

The Power Of Language

Socrates and Marcus Aurelius

Why Everything Is Opinion

How To Be A Master of Opinion

Developing A Daily Practice Routine

Final Words