
Introduction to the skill of Using Their (Clients') Own Words.
Learn how to build rapport and trust with a coachee by using their own words, illustrated with negative examples of what not to do to maintain safety.
Compare examples where using clients' own words contrasts with using different words and highlight irritation and negative outcomes when code words aren’t used. Debriefing with precision prevents backtracking and confusion.
Practice debriefing by using clients' own words, sometimes quoting exactly, and pausing to let their words come out, so you uncover what all the words are.
Debriefing with clients relies on mirroring their words and asking clarifying questions, not paraphrasing or proposing premature solutions. Repeating key phrases verbatim helps clients stay present and share details.
Explore how to use backlog grooming and refinement to prioritize weekend and work tasks, breaking work into smaller activities and balancing personal plans with backlogged items.
Explore ICF competencies and markers for coaching with the client's own words, emphasizing active listening, accurate reflection, and cultivating trust to reduce friction and clarifying meaning.
A very powerful aspect of coaching is helping people see themselves. Often, when people see themselves, they gain insight into what is important to them, what they want to do, and their part in an ongoing situation that they want to change. In order for us to help a person, team, or organization to see themselves, they need to accept that whatever comes from us that refers to them is a true reflection of them rather than a distorted or biased interpretation. That’s where the skill of using their own words comes in. It offers the gift of listening to the coachees and creates a space for them to truly gain a deeper level of awareness to what they say and what they really mean. It’s a simple skill yet it’s not easy to master.
In this mini-course, you will gain a better understanding of the skill of using their (clients') own words in order to build rapport, safety, and trust. You will learn the benefits of this skill and you will be able to see a demonstration of what not to do and what to do. Finally, you will learn about the ICF competencies and makers that align with this powerful skill.