The Groundwork | transforming your love life from within
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- Certificate of Completion
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- Many people who have taken part in the Groundwork have gone on to meeting someone who is really right for them
- People will notice a real shift in your confidence levels after taking part in the Groundwork
- All that is required of you is that you're willing to put in the time and effort to make this work
The Groundwork is an alternative way, a roadmap to reset your love life and propel you towards a new chapter.
You get to see what’s been blocking you, understand the patterns underlying your past and present experience. See your unique relationship blueprint so that you can dismantle your old habits.
Transform the aspects of yourself that have been holding you back. Get tools and support to trust more fully and really move on. Make different decisions with more confidence and clarity.
Connect to yourself in new ways - your needs, your feelings, your potential. Open up to the relationship you want, get ready. Discover practical tools to create a new story and live it.
The Groundwork is for you if you want to...
Access your confidence, increase self-awareness and compassion, so you can truly trust yourself and other people
Move on fully and get unstuck even if you feel a lack of confidence when it comes to relationships
Create healthy new habits, see why you’ve attracted certain 'types' - and make choices that work better for you
Know your own strength, find emotional independence, better communication and less drama!
Meet someone who's right for you and discover that certain glow that comes with clearing out the old and feeling different in yourself
- The course is for anyone who is ready to take a good look at themselves
- You don't need to be single, many couples have done this course together and seen positive changes in their love lives
- Whatever your gender and orientation, you are so welcome to join us
If you follow through with this, fully, to the end then we know that this course will shift things in your love life, for good.
It makes sense that our childhood experiences and our relationship experiences are so connected. And when we really want to change things in our love life, but we end up falling back into an old trap instead - it’s often because of how deeply ingrained those childhood patterns are.
The ‘shadow’ characteristics can come out in a big way when we’re dating or in a relationship. We think that being ‘in love’ with someone, or having chemistry with them makes everything easy. We somehow expect that the closer we get to someone, the more effortless that connection should be... You might have noticed that real life is a little bit different. For most of us, getting really close to someone means that our ‘worst’ sides come to the surface just as much as our best sides do!
Have you ever noticed that the same kind of characters and storylines seem to show up again and again in books and films? For example, you can probably see at least a few similarities in the life stories of Luke Skywalker, Katniss Everdeen and Harry Potter. They all represent that almost universal “hero” or “heroine” character, which could also be known as an “archetype”.
There’s nothing intrinsically wrong with any archetypes, they’re like different clothes or costumes we try on in different situations depending on the life experience we’ve had and what we’re looking for. It just gets to be an issue when a particular archetype gets out of balance in our life - if there’s too much emphasis on one of them, it can feel like we’re not in control anymore.
As you start to change your habits a bit and focus on what you’re feeling, you’ll be able to put emotions in perspective that might have previously seemed like more than you can handle. With a bit of practice, the tools we’re going to share with you will also help you feel your emotions as sensations in your body. You’ll be able to feel them without necessarily judging them as good or bad, or obsessing about what they "mean".
Try to do this exercise as often as you can - it’s a great antidote to any disconnection or numbness that tends to build up in this hectic world we live in. And, when you don’t have the time to do a longer meditation like this, you can also calm yourself and focus on your body by simply taking three deep breaths.
In this section, we’ll be sharing tools and ways of thinking that will support you as you meet new people, and help you keep your relationship strong and healthy - long-term - when you do get together with someone. We’ll be inviting you to challenge some of your beliefs and assumptions about relationships so that you can write a new story for your love life.
What can often happen when we’re triggered is that emotions run high and - from that emotional, triggered place we start jumping to conclusions about the other person. At the time, we feel like the judgement calls that we make about them are true. It’s hard for us to recognise that (a lot of the time) as they’re simply “stories” that we’ve made up to protect ourselves from getting hurt.
So many of us believe (deep down) that we’re not allowed to say how we really feel. It’s crazy, but it’s true. We avoid saying what we really want in case we get rejected or judged. We sometimes hide things about ourselves, trying to seem more confident or ‘sorted’ than we really feel. Doing the Groundwork means getting used to being really honest and upfront - with ourselves and other people!
Find a quiet place - somewhere where you’re not going to be disturbed. You’ll need a mirror and your Workbook to hand - and lighting a candle is a nice addition for this exercise too. Don’t skip this one, we know it sounds a bit weird with mirrors and candles and all that… but it’ll all be worth it!
Take a look at the things you wrote down in response to those last questions. Your take away exercise today is to use those notes and the experience you’ve just had, to decide on some self-loving actions. Things that you can do, every day - or as often as possible - to take care of you.
Now you have your clear intention, read it to yourself as often as you can - in a clear, loud voice. You could read it out to someone else too - if you’re feeling brave! And this evening - and every evening for the remainder of the week - as you get into bed, lie on your back and take a few minutes of deep and slow breathing - and imagine that you're with your new partner.