Social Intelligence- The Brand of You

‘Build yourself up..? You may be thinking, well I’m all grown up and yet I still feel like I have been broken down by the circumstances of life. I am now, who I am, and there’s no changing who I’ve become.

Well that is, thankfully, not the case. In fact, you can change or improve aspects of yourself by building new neural pathways in the brain, through repetition and practice.

And on the agenda today is reprogramming the ugly duckling inside of all of us and preparing it for the greatness that lies ahead. You see that little duckling needs to reframe who it is and what it’s worth because its whole life it was told it was ugly, or different, or not as good as everyone else.

Remember the ugly duckling that turned into the swan? (When it actually was a swan all the time) Ya, it's kinda like that. In fact, it’s exactly like that.

Let’s find out how to discover your swan!

By the end of this lesson you should feel empowered, motivated and ready to move yourself into a more real and confident space.

So what can you actually get out of this chapter?

Well let’s see some of the mindset changes you may achieve:

• More personal power to pursue what you want to do

• An “I can do whatever I set my mind to’ mentality

• I am capable and loved by people

• I deserve more and I will get more

• I know I can achieve more

• I know I can get this job

• I don't like the way I’m being treated and I won't stand for this any longer

• I am worth more

This lesson is going to give you the tools to build your Self-Esteem, after all without any self -esteem you really can’t achieve very much in your life. Every action or decision is fueled primarily by our belief in ourselves; whether we deserve something and whether we are capable enough to achieve it. The greatest gift you can give to yourself is to work on improving your self-esteem since all success follows on from there.

Keep a look out for the daily exercises to do every day to turn you into a dazzling swan.

Hey little duckling, you’re actually pretty great. Now let’s see what’s in store for you...

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Hey you, you’re looking pretty styling.

It must be all those mirror exercises and affirmations. Keep those exercises up daily and let’s see what reflects back at you in the mirror. (Something dazzling I’m sure)

In other news, we’re moving on to the Charismatic Conversationalist. You started out in the last chapter learning about how to build your self esteem so that you feel more confident and ready to take on new challenges. You learnt six exercises, some to do every day, and some to simply do every couple of months. Most of all, remember your daily mirror exercises and to review your daily victories.

Now let’s carry that confidence and readiness to pursue new challenges and focus on becoming the Charismatic Conversationalist.

Most people hate the thought of small talk (‘Small talk’ means the conversations you have with people you don't know very well). But here’s the thing, any friendship you’ve ever made has started with small talk on some level so really small talk creates the doorway to some of our most meaningful and important relationships in life. So instead of seeing it as a chore, rather see it as a potentially entertaining and exciting opportunity to meet the next most important person in your life.

Why is this chapter important to you?

• You will be able to walk into any environment and make friends

• Start a conversation with anyone

• Keep a conversation going for as long as you need it to

• Never run out of anything interesting to say

• Impress people with your warmth and easy-to-get-along-with nature

• Make friends and new connections much quicker

• Brighten the room with your energy

• Entertain people

• When people have left a conversation with you, they’ll be left thinking, ‘I so enjoyed that conversation with You!’

Look out for how to start a conversation with anyone, what to talk about and what ‘No-Go’ topics to avoid.

After this lesson you will feel confident to go to any event and start a conversation with anyone. Not only that but you’ll leave the event sparkling, knowing that you absolutely owned the event and that people were super-duper impressed with how charming and wonderful you were.

Okay Chatty Kathy, let’s get you started.

Hey Good looking! Yes, You. You’re looking goooood, something’s obviously working…

Maybe it’s that attractive confidence you’re starting to show.

Now that you’re officially a Chatty Kathy, the kind that people actually want to hang around. You've learnt how to start conversations, keep them going and what topics open people up to you. Let’s soar right into improving your connection skills. Yes, your conversations are part of that, but there are a couple of other mind boggling tools to help you dive even further down the rabbit hole of social connection. Connection starts with conversations but now there’s a couple of extra ‘help-alongs’ to ensure that you really do shine in that situation and build friendships and connections with all those people you choose to.

Look out for how your mirroring and matching the other person can unconsciously build a strong connection between you and your new ‘friend’. It’s so effective it’s actually kinda spooky.

Also keep an eye out for the point where it says, the easiest way to build connection is to build similarities, shared interest and connections with that person.

And finally listen out for the Monkey experiment and what the mirror neuron actually helps human beings with.

After you’ve finished this lesson, you will feel like a supersonic connection master. In fact you’re going to feel on top of the world since you will make friends with just about anyone.

And remember if many people perceive you as a friend, you’re going to get a lot more help and meaningful relationships out of life. Let’s just say that this lesson is going to make you feel invincible.

Why is this chapter important you might ask? Well:

• If people like you, they will help you, support you, go the extra mile for you, date you, marry you, hire you, promote you and/or choose your company's contract over someone else’s purley because they like you.

• Your most meaningful moments come from the relationships you have with people (or animals, but this is not an animal psychology course - who knows - maybe by 2022?) so learning how to better connect with people, will certainly give you more joy and fulfillment.

• People are more likely to agree with you when they like you (That makes dinner plans and restaurant choices much easier).

• You’ll be more widely liked.

• People will seek you out for advice, trust you more emphatically and invite you to more events.

• You’ll make friends more easily.

• You will establish your own community much quicker and strong communities have been proven to improve people’s health and help people live longer.

• You will make more money.

Shew that’s a whole lot of positive factors.

Okay friend, let’s go...

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It seems we’ve got a potential peacock on our hands - all these soon-to-be-learnt smooth moves may just get you there...

We’re moving on to how you can build your physical appeal. We’ve just finished the chapter on how to build connection through finding similarities, mirroring and matching and complimenting people. This chapter however has to be complimented by your non-verbal language, in other words, body language.

Did you know that when you communicate, 55% is conveyed just through your body language. Crazy right? Also pretty scary when you think about what kind of information you’ve been giving away to people (Blush!). So whilst we’ve learnt how to build connection through body language and mirroring and matching, it is now time that we take this one more wing flap further and look at your physical appeal.

Today’s lesson is going to help you:

• Understand why your body language is so important

• Stop giving away personal thoughts that you actually don’t want people to know

• Assume more attractive body language positions that actually attract people towards instead of repelling people away from you

• Make you feel more confident in high pressure moments

• Give you something to do with your hands when you’re at a party or event

• Sit in some pretty cool positions as opposed to positions that make you look dorky, scared or just downright unattractive.

Look out for the positions that are most attractive to other people and how to stand when you don’t know what to do with your hands.

After this lesson you will understand other people’s body language better and you will feel confident enough to go to an event and know what you are doing with your body.

Did I mention that there’s word on the street that a dazzling peacock is on the loose and it’s just about to make its debut?

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Today’s lesson is about turning the Great Depression into a Great first Impression.

Did you know that people judge you within five seconds of laying eyes on you?

Yeah, ‘Don’t judge a book by its cover’ is a really sweet sentiment but one that most people don’t follow.

People take one look at you and decide whether they are going to give you a chance or if they are going to outright ignore you. Most of the time when you walk into a room, you’re still trying to pluck up the courage to greet everyone let alone give off an award winning performance.

In the last chapter you learnt how to stand and sit to give off a positive and attractive impression, you are now going to use those positions when making your entrance into a room to control your first absolutely-outstanding-magnificent first impression

Well today’s lesson is going to teach how to do both at the same time and still get an awe struck response from new people.

Why is this chapter important for you?

• First impressions are lasting impressions

• People will like you much quicker

• You will feel confident and excited to walk into events

• You will reduce your social anxiety

• You will immediately brighten the room from the second you walk in

• People will feel wonderful in your presence

• You do not run the risk of insulting people at the beginning of a potential friendship

• If people like you they will go the extra mile for you

• All future interactions will be much easier

• People will look at you approvingly

By the end of this lesson you’re going to be practising walking through the door and pausing giving off the best dam impression ever given. Not only that but you’ll feel excited to go somewhere just to show off this new skill. It’s one of my favorites and one of my best parts is to watch the responses that other people have towards me when I make this entrance.

Great Impression engage!

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Have you ever watched someone feeding birds, ducks or seagulls? These birds surround the “bird feeder”, orbiting her or him like she/he is the centre of their universe. In fact, they almost have the birds eating out of the palm of their hands, they are magnetic in those moments.

Well consider that you, too, will become this magnetic force. After today’s lesson you will have the confidence to walk into any event and exude that very same magnetism, should you want to. Obviously there are days when you may want to be magnetic and charismatic, and other days when you don’t want to be either of those things. That’s okay, but it’s definitely nice to know how to turn it on when the time is right.

In the last chapter we discussed how to make a powerful entrance to ensure you gave off a powerful first impression, you learnt about pausing and surveying the room. Well that pause is useful for two things:

1. So everyone can see you in the pose you wanted them to see you in.

2. You can decide where you are going to start networking the room, where you should head to, who you should talk to and perhaps whether you just pick up a drink.

This lesson will focus on teaching you what to do after you’ve made your super-duper-amazing entrance.

So what will you take out of this lesson?

• How to confidently walk over to a group of strangers and join their conversation

• How to choose groups where people don’t mind you joining

• What to say to people when you want to join their group

• How to make sure you make friends early on in the event

• Reduce your social anxiety and rock your next event like a socialising pro

• Become the most magnetic and attractive person in the room

• Learn how to get out of a boring conversation

Keep an eye out for which groups actually want you to join and what your first words should be to the group you are joining.

Let’s throw those bread crumbs like confetti and dance underneath them.

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Congratulations, you have crossed the finish line!!

Arms in the air like you just don’t care. Air Punch! Power Kick!

Infinity and beyond is waiting for you!

Congratulations, you have completed your course! You are in the top 15 percentile of people who start an online course and actually finish it. You should give yourself a high five.

Not only have you proved to yourself that you are disciplined, proactive and ahead of the curve but by now you should be on your way to becoming a master socialiser.

Now that you have finished your course you should start to feel more confident in your everyday interactions. Remember that you are the master of your destiny, you are the master of people’s judgements and you have the power to decide where you end up.

These skills that you have learnt are the skills that you will use every single day of your life to lead a more fulfilled and content life.

Our greatest treasures in life often come from our relationships and this course has given you the tools to build new relationships and strengthen existing ones. Whether you’re moving to a new city, job, school, university or club, these skills will help you adjust far more readily.

Remember that if you do feel anxious, this is absolutely normal, in fact I still feel anxious sometimes but I just make use of these social tools and before I know it I am settled into the new environment and having a great time. In fact, often I reframe my anxiety as an excess of energy which I give to people in my conversations. After all, a happy and energetic person is extremely magnetic.

Remember the more you practise, the better you will get. It takes 3 weeks to start a behavioural pattern and 3 months for a behaviour to become automatic. So practise away and teach away! Research shows that when you teach someone you actually retain the information far quicker, so teach your friends, kids, parents, colleagues and anyone willing to listen.

Also if you haven't signed up for the Strategic Body Language Masterclass or the Professional Brand of You course, you’re missing out on an epic opportunity and a perfect accoutrement to your Social Brand of You course. Remember your body language section? Well that only scraped the surface and the Professional Brand of You course, well, that will help you climb that ladder much faster, hit your sales targets sooner, earn more, get on better with your colleagues and clients and ensure you feel totally confident in the varying professional environments you will find yourself in. Sing up sign up sign up!

The Strategic Body Language Masterclass will help you decode the riddles of human behaviour. People lie on average 200 times a day so we are very good at saying what we don’t really mean, this course will help you read what people are thinking and not saying. Why does that help you? Well you’ll be able to get straight to the problem, you will have more meaningful conversations, you will close more business deals, you’ll get along with people better, you’ll understand if that person really is keen on dating you or if you’re wasting time.

Remember that 55% of how you communicate is through your body language, you will understand so much more than the 7% that words give us. Not only that but you will learn what your body language is conveying, what secrets you’re giving away, what information you maybe shouldn’t be sharing and how to convey strong messages without having to utter a word.

These two other courses are two of the most powerful courses to be released on to the internet. Use the code MOVEFREELY to receive your 15% discount, this offer will remain valid for 48 hours, grab life by the horns and sign up today.

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So here it is ladies and gentlemen, remember when people like you, they will help you, go the extra mile for you, support you, hire you, promote you, choose your company’s contract over someone else’s and stick up for you.

Not only that, but there is no better feeling in the world then being surrounded by friends and people who know, like and love you. It is one of life’s greatest gifts.

So if you feel nervous about putting yourself out there, remember that in the short/long run, these people will make your life more meaningful and fulfilling.

And one more thing: if it doesn’t feel uncomfortable, you’re not trying hard enough. The greatest habits in life come from pushing yourself little by little into an uncomfortable space until that space becomes familiar and comfortable.

And one more tip for those socially anxious individuals out there: The key to breaking through these anxiety ridden moments is to remember social interactions are not all about you and how you are feeling but rather how you are making the other person feel.

Focus on making the other person feel special and interestingly enough, you will forget about yourself and your own insecurities.

We wish you the best of luck on your new path to stardom. May you continue to grow and move freely in all aspects of your life.