Mind On Fire - Mental Toughness Training For Youth Athletes

In this video lecture I give you my experiences as a parent and a coach. These are observations and may not apply to you but they may apply to you. Please view the video that I created as a resource for this lecture as it is a powerful affimation video that applies to this section and this course.

I call the parenting when I grew up the "Archie Bunker" style of parenting dad's didn't cry at a movie, or show how much they cared because they felt it was a sign of weakness. I feel like a lot of today's parents have done a 360 in reagards to this and tell our kids how special, talented and gifted they are because they are ours not realizing it creates a fixed mindset. Kids with a fixed mindset will not give effort at things they coud fail at because they feel like your opinion of them could change. The same things happens with coaches who reward talent not effort. effort is worth twice as much as talent. 

Sports mirror life. articipation trophies do not. Participation trophies create a false confidence that I believe works against us because the first time they get in a real world scenario and realize that life can be unfair and your not going to get a trophy just for showing up. It also creates a sense of entitlement.

Phones are one of the biggest detractors to productivity in our children today. No longer are our kids building relationships but they are following snaps, tweets and shares. Being in touch with the world has become more important than anything else in their lives. I truly believe that you can use the phone as a positive streaming device if you take the necessary steps in this course. Please view how this can be done in in section 3 lesson 8 under the resources tab. 

The story I tell in this lecture is the foundation to what i believe holds most of us back in life from reaching our full potential when I came across this material I knew it was the missing piece to the puzzle of everything that held me back in my life. It was the final piece to my coaching program but the single most important. You can't have extraordinary results in your life without changing your programming first because inherently you will always go back to your pre-condition thoughts, always. There is no exception to this rule! To get the results you want in life you must start by changing your programming.

The first step in positive transformation in your life is to become aware of your thoughts. Monitor what you say to yourself. I am dropping a PDF in this lecture, this is the hard way to battle your thoughts. In the next lecture under resources I will share the easiest and most effective way to thought replacement.

You must replace the negative or false program. Research has shown that up 77% of your is false and working against you. In the resources I give you the most effective way to replace that false programming. Whatever you think about the most in your life will manifest itself!

This is a guide to help you if you make this a habit you will change your life. However your mind will not make it easy for you because it does not like change but comfort. Trust me do this and it will change your life. Change your thoughts and you will change your life.

This is a natural chain reaction that determines either success or failure in our lives. Once you understand there is no exception to these rules and the order in which they happen. I came to this information when I became a certified self talk trainer under Dr. Shad Helmstetter the foremost expert in Neuroplasticity, the way the brain is wired and how the brain changes. So if you are looking for positive results in your life you must understand this natural progression. This is how the brain works. If you want to manage yourself in a better way, and change your results, you can do so at any time you choose. Start with the first step. Change your programming.

Your pre-conditioned program that stems from the neural pathways in the brain that have been repeated over time and time again. understand repitition, repitition, repitition is the way you were programmed and will be the way you reprogram your thoughts. Programming creates thought.

Belief are created by our thoughts, and they do not have to be true for you to believe them. this is a very powerful statement. This part of your brain doesn't know right from wrong, true from false. 

I use these terms when it comes to Attitude. The way you see the World and the way the world see's YOU.

Ultimately Action is your commitment to results. All of the other things learned will mean nothing if you don't take action.

This lecture has tremendous amount of value in creating your "WHY" or your long term vision in addition I am dropping a PDF to help you in Goal Setting. Goal setting is an extremely important part of your success in sports and life. 

Bonus Homework for this Lecture: 

Create a vision board for your long term Goal and short term Goals to get you there!

How many times have you heard a coach or parent yell to a kids the "you need to play with confidence" or "you need to overcome your Fear" this means absolutely nothing to that child because we are not teaching how to do that. well in this lecture I breakdown comnfidence and in the next lecture fear. 

In this lecture I breakdown Fear into it's simplest form and teach how to overcome it. However I left one out but I will give it to you here. If you fear something create an anchor thought for the fear in advance and then count down from 5 to 0, than think of your anchor thought and tell yourself how excited you are to do this thing you fear. So if you fear flying but you were going to visit your favorit uncle your anchor thought might be being on the beach in a warm climate with your uncle the end result of you flying. Countdown from 5 to 0 and tell yourself how excited you are to see your uncle and be on the beach, this will help you overcome your fear because the body acts the same from fear or excitement, it is the mind you must change.  

The most successful people on the planet look at failure as the opportunity to learn and grow. the reason we have so musch issues with this is we are creating kids witha fixed mindset because of the things we do. Failure must be looked at as the opportunity to learn and grow and is a crucial part in success. 

Kids are having an extremely difficult time with this, they get so defensive. Construsctive Criticism is from a good place and once they realize the power of agreement it will help them their entire lives.

In polling over 100 parents about what they seen in our kids the number one thing they said was that todays kids lacked empathy. I couldn't disagree with them so I added a section to this course. 

Average Action is for losers, and today most only do average action. everyone wants to be a beast but they are not willing to take the action necessary to be a beast or they underestimate the amount of effort to get there. It is so easy to be great now because everyone else is average. 

This is an extremely valuable asset. As a parent and a coach I can tell you these are some of the most important things to know the coolest thing is in the resources I am sharing an additional 10 things for parents to stop doing to create mental toughness. These as well are extremely valuable things that I believe parents who really want success for their kids will embrace and see how important they are for the results they want in sports and life.

In developing this course I used these actionable steps in a marketing group where I do mindset calls. I could have probably came up with more however here is what I know most kids and parents are spending 2-4 hours on their phones if you take out exercise and the spiritual piece in regards to time you could reasonably do all the others on the list in a little over 1 hour total time daily and if you did this until they became a habit I can assure extraordinary results in your life. The question is " How committed are you to Success in your Life?

One of my mentors Grant Cardone taught me this along time ago and it always stuck with me. If you want success in anything in Life you will first get Attention, then Criticism, if you are not being criticized you are not doing enough! Haters, Haters are going to Hate, it is almost as important to have Haters as it is people who like you because again it means you are doing something right.Finally the haters will become Admirers if you have success long enough.

I totally believe that all of us would love to have the most powerful motivation on earth and that is intrinsic motivation. You see 90% of motivation is garbage, it's external and when the motivational speaker leaves the stage so does the motivation. However the 10% of motivation that is valuable is the intrinsic motivation that which you create within yourself which is your "WHY" and the goals that motivate you to get there. My job in this course is to create your compelling vision, give you the map and support and information in order to get there. Now it is up to you to "Make Your Own Luck" and " Be Your Own Hero!" For participating in this course you can tune in to my daily livestream at https://www.twitch.tv/cegtv