
I'm now going to teach you a different way of looking at life.
I think if you just learn this way of looking at life, it's going to help you: First, to appreciate your past more, and, second, to do a better job of planning your future.
We all make mistakes in life.
I'm often asked a question. “How did you get into this field? What led you to be in this leadership development or coaching world, anyway?”
Well, I'll tell you part of the story.
When I coach people, one of the things I'm very sensitive about is when anyone ever says, "I'm no good at this," or "I can't do this," or "This is just the way I am."
Half the people who start doing this quit within two weeks, and they do not quit because it does not work – they quit because it does work.
It can be difficult to put things in perspective. It can be difficult to remember, for most of us, how lucky we really are.
Everyone I coach is not only a successful person — these people are mega successful people.
The Bhagavad Gita, perhaps, the most widely read poem in the history of the world, makes a profound point: Never become attached to results.
I've got some good news. People that do this stuff, guess what? They get better. And the people who don't, well, they don't get worse. They stay about the same.
A referent group is who we compare ourselves to. A referent group has people we want to be like. If we truly understand the concept of a referent group, a lot of behavior that may not seem to make sense, starts making perfect sense. In my case, it's not too hard to figure out my referent group.
Make a list of the most important people in your life. Friends, family, direct reports, coworker, whoever it is that you want to do a good job of giving positive recognition to.
When You See Problems in Others, Look in the Mirror.
Whoever has the power to make the decision is going to make the decision.
I'm not an expert on brain dynamics, but from what I've read, once we get angry, our IQ goes down about 20 points. And when you get angry, your odds on saying something stupid skyrocket.
I'm going to give you two examples of ego and pride, a negative and a positive.
What matters in life? If we look at life, what is really important?
You can fall into a terrible trap when you just have to do a perfect job. Here’s an example.
The time we waste on making excuses is time that is stolen from getting better.
What are the variables that are going to be associated with you achieving whatever you want to achieve in life?
The next step is to involve people.
Look at your own life and ask yourself this question, "Where am I trying to prove myself?"
That's a very great way to look at life.
Where is one place you can practice team-building without time-wasting? If you get at all a chance, give it a try.
Our blindside is made up of those parts of our life where other people can see things in us that we do not see in ourselves. And we all have a blindside.
As we journey through life we often believe choice is good: I have options, I can do what I want to, choice is great.
Well, maybe not.
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