Say NO: Do less, Achieve More

The first step in learning to say No is to build up the right instincts that will let you recognise No as an appropriate response, and how it can improve your life.

After this lecture you will be able to recognise the nature of a request as one of four types of activity. Two of these demand a No, while two are worthwhile and permit a Yes.

A short lecture listing examples of things to say No to and things to say Yes to. I bet none will really come as a surprise, but what may surprise you is how many things you should say No to, you have, until now, said Yes to.

This lecture will give you the seven criteria that you can use to determine Yes or No. After this, you wll no longer have the excuse of not knowing what was right.

When someone asks you to do something, you could say Yes, or you could say No. But you have more choices than that, and a lot will depend on the timing. So, even if it is not a straight No, you will now have more choices than a plain Yes.

Relationships start to go sour and create one of the biggest Yes/No dilemmas many of us will have to face. After this lecture, you will have the resources to assess a relationship and make the right decision for you: 'should I stay, or should I go'. (This lecture is equally about workplace, social and romantic relationships)

This is the lecture that will transform your understanding of No, from a negative word that upsets people to a positive statement of control.

Special time - a time to say yes to the right things.

There are two types of people: those who tend to be happy with their choices and those who tend to worry that there was a better option somewhere. After this lecture you will be able to feel happy with your choices and therefore with your decision to say No to its alternatives.

This lecture gives you a range of decision-making tools, to improve your Yes/No choices.

You've had six tools for making a decision (the last video).

Now I'll give you six different ways of thinking about a problem, or making a decision.

You are getting very close to learning the technique for saying No, so after this lecture you will start to find No a little easier to say.

This is it; now it's time for you to learn the four step approach to a confident, assertive, No.

After this, you will never again feel like you don't know how to say No, and nor will you feel guilty when you do say No.

They tend to be the toughest of all, so tThis short lecture offers you additional hints and tips for when you want (or even need) to say No to friends and loved ones.

Some say you should never say No to customers and clients. What do you think?

I think you need to, sometimes, and this short lecture offers you additional hints and tips for when you want (or even need) to do it.

After this lecture you will be able to spot some of the common sources for faulty thinking and false assumptions, and make sure that you say Yes to the right things, by avoiding misleading or weak arguments.

Oscar Wilde said "The only way to get rid of temptation is to yield to it... I can resist everything but temptation."

This short lecture offers you additional hints and tips for when you want to resist, and say No to treats and temptations.

A short lecture with some tips on saying no at work.

Procrastination is one the major frustrations for most people - your tendency to put off what matters and do other, less demanding things instead. After this lecture you will be able to say No to procrastination, and just get on with it, using one or more of the ten simple techniques I show you.

Negotiations are something many people are nervous about, so if you are one of them, this extra introductory lecture will leave you better equipped to handle negotiations - from a family dinner to a business deal.

When I got to the end of the lectures for this section, I realised I still had a few more short tips to offer you. So here they are.

It's all very well saying No, but what if they reject it? This lecture examines the three levels of that resistance and offers you strategies to deal with each.

Life is not all No. What if you want to say Yes?

This short lecture gives you two valuable techniques:

• first, the way to say Yes on your own terms, and
• second, an introduction to the master principle for planning your day or week.

Yes still gives you choices. These four 'what if?' questions will expose them.

What will you get if you follow the advice in this lecture course? And what will you get if you don't?

Whether you take my advice or not is your choice, but whatever happens, I wish you well.