Start Up Kit for Life

In the second part of this course, we are going to explore the topic of relationships from different perspectives. Let’s kick this topic off by looking into the question of what the basis of great relationships should be.

A big part of the unhappiness in the world is caused by relationship issues.

When we look at the conflicts between people, resulting in resentment, anger, fear, we can see that they originate from our individual behavioural traits, beliefs, points of view, trauma, stories, all the bits and pieces of our personality.

The relationship between people is basically the stage, where these individual patterns meet, trying to defeat each other and each intending to transform the other to meet their own expectations.

In this second part I’m going to further uncover the importance of continuous discovery of ourselves and of things that are true for us. Because the first step to great relationships is having a nurturing relationship with ourselves.

…How can we stop being the victims of our stories?

…Can life be taken with ease? Could it be that we all have this ability?

…How do the expectations directed towards us and projected by us kill our relationships?

…What if there is nothing wrong with you nor the other person, just the relationship is simply no longer true for either of you?

And many other thoughts are explored in this audio to facilitate you in finding out what would actually work for you regarding relationships now.

Did you know that one of the most common addictions is the judgment of self? Our deepest pattern is that we are not good enough.

In this audio we will dig down to the core of this issue. What if you don't have to live with the idea that you are wrong?

You are NOT wrong! You were covered with expectations, projections, and judgements. Aligning to these or resisting them solidifies them in your world and takes you further from your true self.

We will uncover the following questions:

- What can we do to stop judging ourselves?

- Why wanting to be right will not create great relationships?

- What can we do if we are being judged by others?

- What does the process of getting out of reaction look like?

Be the energy that shows, you are not a victim!

In this audio I would like to invite you to discover an American letting go technique, which is called the Sedona method.

It is worth knowing that letting go is a natural ability that we are all born with. However, the techniques of this method show us how to use this ability consciously and how to facilitate the process.

When we suppress our emotions, after some time, there will be too much pressure in our system, we can’t hold it back anymore and all our anger and grief just burst out, which is not something that creates great relationships for us.

When we list our grievances accompanied by heated emotions, there is an emotional response from the other person, which becomes a fight of proving who is right. So, inappropriate expression of emotions can often lead to greater disagreement and the escalation of conflict. This again is not something that would create great relationships or possibilities in our life.

So, what else can be done?

Letting go of an emotion doesn’t mean we dissipate that energy that we identified as a certain emotion.

When we let go of an emotion, we take away its ability to control us and thus we step into a different space, from where we can handle the situation with the elegance of calmness.

Allowance is a topic which is very much related to the subject of judgement.

We categorize things as good or bad, right or wrong. We form a conclusion about them and depending on this conclusion we hold on to that thing or we resist it. In both cases there is an emotional charge involved, which binds us, limits our choices, puts us in reaction mode.

Many reject this topic, because they think that becoming in allowance with others, their points of view or their behavior means allowing others to hurt them or means accepting those points of view as truth. These are misconceptions.

Allowance is not about letting others hurt us or anybody else, but about having no judgement of their choice.

In this audio you will get to know:

- how judgements are formed

- what allowance actually is

- whether we lose our uniqueness if we don’t define ourselves along judgments and fixed points of view about who we are and who we are not

- what we can do to get in allowance with others and with ourselves too

- why being in allowance with our current situation is key in being able to change it

Did you know that when we are in allowance with somebody, that person can even change suddenly, because our resentful pressure gets lifted off them, they get more space and thus the whole relationship can change for the better?

Gratitude is very close to my heart because all the changes in my life began with gratitude. No, it wasn’t about starting to list all the things I’m grateful for…

In this audio I would like to show you a different perspective on gratitude.

When you are being your true nature, gratitude appears naturally. It is not a strong heavy emotion, but a peaceful and elegant joy of being, of having, experiencing.

Gratitude has an amazing transformative power in relationships. In relationships with others and also in the relationship with ourselves. We will explore the How in this audio.

What kindness, gratitude, softness could you be with yourselves?

Would you be willing to look at yourself every day with fresh eyes, ready to discover your greatness?

We will also look at ways gratitude can be used in situations when you are worried about something or somebody.

In this audio we will examine how to deal with recurring situations in our life and how questions can help in this.

When we choose to change our life, we take steps in changing our habits, in letting go of emotions and points of view, it can be very discouraging to still bump into issues, into problems in our life. We might get very upset; we can start to judge ourselves.

“Oh, it is happening again”, “What I have done again…”, “Something is wrong with me, I screwed up again”, and so on… - sounds familiar, right?

We should understand that being conscious does not mean that we cover the problem or our feelings with pink icing and we force positive thinking. There is another way: when we are present with the problem, and we look for the possibilities beyond.

So, we will explore:

- what we can choose instead of going into self-judgement

- how questions, as the expressions of our openness, can expand our view

- which questions will work as a “wiper”, and which will keep us in judgement

- why it is essential to pause before we try to fix any situation

Would you be willing to pause in the rush of your life?

Be soft, be kind to yourself, give yourself time, you are not in a hurry.
Be the explorer each day, you are here to enjoy this adventure.

With the third part of this material, we embark on a journey of discovering the topic of creating a great future. We begin by looking into the subject of success and money in this chapter.

We compare our success based on common opinions, or by the expectations of others. But do these concepts actually make you feel good?

What if there was a different way to look at success?

I invite you to break down your points of view, your current concept of success and take a look at what energies you would like to have in your life.
What would make you feel grateful, what would make you feel joyful? What would make you feel that it is good to be you?

Then, we will also dive into some important questions around money:

- Why it is useful to become aware of our points of view regarding money before wishing for more of it.

- Can we actually love money, and do we truly allow ourselves to?

- Is money good or bad?

- Is it true that if we would like to advance in consciousness, we should reject money and the pleasures of life?

- Could it be that money is not the only solution, but it still has its role in the unfoldment of our consciousness and in creating more?

Mastering money requires knowing with absolute certainty that you are valuable, that you are a gift.

We tend to think that we are valuable only if we meet expectations. But what if others are not able to see your value through their tinted glasses – their distorted perception by points of view?

Would you be willing to see that greatness in yourself that others couldn't notice?

Have you heard about the observer effect? In science, the term observer effect means that the act of observing will influence the phenomenon being observed. It means that it is scientifically proven that we can change reality.

In this fun exercise I invite you to play and explore how your thoughts and intention can influence your body.

Regardless of whether money is involved in your picture of success or not, it is worth being in allowance and friends with this energy. To let go of the rejection and of the attachment to some fixed points of view regarding it. This is how we can be free and not triggered by this subject.

In this audio we will dive into some obstructions we might face in becoming friends with money, for example:

- Avoiding being judged for having a great life or the judgements we have about rich people. When you are in allowance with others' judgements about you choosing more, and with your own judgements about others choosing more in their own way, it is as if you would open a gate.

- We will look into the “I’m poor” mindset and you will get to know how you can become aware of the choices you make on a daily basis with which you reject having more money.

And finally, we’ll go through what small steps we could possibly take to “grow up” to the energy of our new self, to that self who lives in abundance.

In this audio I will summarize the process of changing things in our life, of creating what we desire, of creating a future that works for us. Many elements of this have been touched upon in previous topics, however in this audio we will go through the steps of the process one by one in more detail.

Is there an area in your life where it would be time for some change?

You should know that all those things you see around you in the world are available to you as well. Would it work for you to have them in your life? If yes, you can create them.

We will delve into such steps as:

- The “AS IS” situation

• becoming aware of inner limitations

• how to turn our Will away from the current direction

- Becoming aware of what would work for you

• discovery with openness, the traps of the reasoning mind

• the 3 things we should check about our desires

- Launching your Will into the new direction

• how do we set off a command for energies using the power and ability of our Will principle

- Putting your Will into action

• start by looking into what you could change to become that person who lives that future already

• how can we notice the possibilities, how do we know what to choose/what calls for our attention, what is the economy of energies

- Letting go of control, worry and fear

• worries and judgment are like open sores, through which our willpower leaks away all the time

• how to handle worries, the fear from failure and the need of controlling the process

- Readiness to update/upgrade

• Be ready to change direction, and don’t get stuck in a choice that is not true for you anymore

• Key elements that we should consider along the way

Creating a life that is expanding to you is something that you are capable of by nature. What if it can be a playful adventure?

This exercise is related to the previous audio. We will play with energies, direct, and move them.

Let’s travel to your future, be that future self who lives the great life you desire. See yourself moving as that person, talking as that person.

Feel the emotions of your future.

Expand your awareness, move the energies of the Universe, be a vortex and have a date with your greatest future, inviting it to actualization.

I believe we can't live a joyful and harmonious life until our actions and choices are influenced by the fear of death. As long as we are occupied by the avoidance of death, we do not have complete capacity to choose life.

In this audio I’m going to show you what can be known about death based on the ancient wisdom that was preserved for us through various mystical, occult - meaning hidden - schools. This knowledge was then completed by the observations of clairvoyant teachers.

We will examine:

- Some of the reasons why death is needed

- What happens after the death of the physical body when our consciousness moves into our energy bodies

- What hell and heaven is

- How our new bodies are formed for our next life

- Why turning our grief into a kind and serene memory of the passed away loved one, will create more and greater for them as well

I think one of the most effective antidotes to fear is comprehension. If we understand the reasons, it helps us be in allowance with the subject.

I hope this information will facilitate you to look at this scary thing from a broader perspective.

Karma again is a topic with lots of fear and victimhood attached.

Some deny it exists. Some think they don't have a choice because their life is determined by fate anyway, which they call karma. Some think they have to pay back karmic debts, and karma is hunting them down. And there are many-many other ideas full of anxiety, fear and uncertainty.

If we would like to look ahead, at our future with trust, it is worth clarifying and understanding this subject too.

Karma does exist. We experience karma at every moment of our life, and we are still alive, so maybe it's not that dangerous ?

So, in this chapter we will explore:

- What karma actually is

- Why does getting to know the laws and cooperating with them create more than fighting against them?

- What are the results of the different components of our impact on the world?

- Are we really the victims of our past choices?

- What are the possible ways of modifying the effects of our past choices?

- Can fortune-tellers or birth horoscopes predict our future?

You should know that You are the one writing the book of your life now, you can make it a great one!

When we think about a life purpose, we tend to think that it is some kind of very special, very noble thing, and if we find it, then it will solve our struggles, we can feel that we have arrived, we can finally be happy.

Could it be that in this search for some noble target, we pass by the life that actually would be true for us, would work for us?

In this audio we will discover:

- how we can know whether we are in the right place and if what we are doing is part of our life-purpose

- is work really a struggle or can it be play as well?

- what works better than trying to figure out what would be the best work for you?

- Journaling in a different way

There are no two men with the same life-purpose, as we are all unique. We have unique skills and unique possibilities as well, so there are things that cannot be created any other way than by you. They will reflect your uniqueness.

What can manifest from Your uniqueness?

What makes You expanded, joyful, and playful?

As a summary, in this last audio of the course I highlight three focus areas which are worth paying attention to if you would like to have a great life that works for you (which were all discussed in previous chapters in detail).

These are:

1. The management of energies – “What energy do you want to be?”, “Where do you want to put your energy, direct your will?”

2. Discovering what energies you resist to be, you resist to receive

3. Living the state of being of gratitude

I encourage you to get your own experience about openness, about asking questions, following your knowing and all the other things I talked about in this course.

Don't believe anything blindly, think over what you heard and then use your knowing to check your mind. And always be open and ready to update and upgrade your view.

Keep in mind that you are the source of your life.
Nobody can create a life that works for you, but you. And you can!