Shut Up! Experience the Power
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- …gain leverage at work and home.
- …use the strategy of the Shut-Up principle any time you choose.
- …transform the chatter inside your head into supporting support.
- You have the tools required if you can listen and make application.
Don't be a door mat for people to wipe their feet on.
This course grew from my work with inmates in the state prison system. They needed a simple and yet powerful way to take more control in their lives. I am delighted to bring this experience to Udemy and share it with you.
● Is gruff but loving.
● Provides a free PDF copy of the book: Over 101 Ways to Shut Up and Make Your World a Better Place
● Shows you how not to take the bait and get drawn into a pointless argument.
● Shows you how to turn inner chatter into inner support.
● Shows you how to appear much wiser than you might be (cool trick).
● Reveals a simple way to improve relationships.
● Supports you as a Life Coach, Counselor, or Minister.
● Can be downloaded for offline use.
● Provides downloads in both PDF and RTF formats so that you may edit and use as you desire.
● Does NOT promise to magically cure all the problems of life (I'm not that good, sorry).
● Believes that together we can make a difference.
If you desire to gain leverage in your life, then this course has something worth looking into. I'm not promising that it is a fit for your personally, so watch the previews and then you will know if there if value here for you.
Wishing You the Best
Clarence W. Fell
- You, if you desire more control over your life.
Relationships excel when you take charge and refuse to waste time on non-issues. Family becomes more of the dream you desire when you simply learn to shut-up and pick our battles. You can know when to choose silence and simply take control by walking away. Don't take the bait. Exercise your right to keep your mouth shut. I know it sounds counter intuitive, but it is extremely powerful.
Relationships grow and flourish when people feel rested and refreshed. You have the power to make that happen. Don't unintentionally bring discomfort and pain into your life; shut-up and ask yourself if your next move is truly empowering. Specifically ask if you need to pester and aggravate someone when they are taking a break and enjoying a little "healing" time. The shut-up principle teaches us that if an emergency does not exist, then shut-up and let people relax for a while. It's a powerful strategy to set the stage for deeper love.
If people were perfect, then nitpicking and nagging would be tough games to play, but thanks to our common imperfections, these are easy games to play. Shut-up! Don't play those games. If you do not enjoy being the victim of constant, incessant, never ending, droning on and on and on nagging, then don't be a bully. Shut-up already!
Your victory is both an inner and outer game. Your inner game is the most important. If you are not on your own side, then you will struggle even though you have great people around you. This lecture helps you excel at supporting yourself.
This application of the shut-up principle tells you to stop complaining about the difficulties of life. Yes, you are correct that the difficulties exist, but does complaining make them go away? Does complaining lead to quick success? No, so don't waste your time and energy complaining about obstacles. The bumps are what you climb on. Either ignore them or make them work for you.
Many of us could not count the times we opened our mouth and put our ignorance on display. If only we had had the foresight to shut up and spare ourselves the agony. Unfortunately, we just couldn't keep quiet. In a fit of enthusiasm, we just threw-up our ignorance all over everybody. We opened our mouth and proudly spewed our ignorance everywhere; and no one appreciated, except for your competition in the work place. They love seeing you crash and burn.
Sometimes people suggest an idea at work as though they are making a joke. If others don't like the idea, then they back off claiming, "oh, I was just kidding." This might work once or twice, but it won’t work for long. Shut up! Don’t hide behind humor. Boldly put your ideas out for others to consider. If you want people to take you serious then be serious. There is nothing wrong with a little humor, but don't hide behind humor. Don't be a coward.
Our next application of the shut-up principle is to shut-up and stop trying to make others think that you are superman or superwoman. You are not. You never will be, and that is a wonderful blessing. It takes a lot of pressure off you. If you have been living in that fantasy world, then it is time to come back to reality.
Our next application of the shut-up principle is to shut-up, stop complicating things. Keep things as simple and reasonably possible. Remember the K.I.S.S. principle. Keep it simple, stupid; someone did not like the bluntness of that and chose to say, keep it sweetly simply. Either way, there is power for the person that will keep it simple.
Our next application of the shut-up principle is to shut up and stop your bootlicking and kissing up. Any power that you get from this practice is quite shallow and limited. Sure, it works a little in some situations, but most careers are not going to advance based on such nonsense, it takes something more to build a really satisfying career. And, I have to wonder if the bootlicker is really enjoying a deep level of satisfaction or if he feels like he has betrayed himself.
Our next application of the shut-up principle is to shut-up and stop playing the one-up game. You know the game. You are sitting around with your coworkers telling a story, and there is that one guy that always, always, has a better story. You know it’s coming, and then you hear, "Well, I have one better than that," then he tells his story, ugh, don’t be that person. He is not gaining any power in the workplace with that behavior. All he is doing is isolating himself and hindering his career.
Our next application of the shut-up principle is shut-up the empty promises. You know the coworker, the one that always tells you that he is “on top of the situation,” but you know he is not. And he always has some lame excuse. I’m sure he is on his way to the top of his career field—only in his dreams.
Stop fishing for applause and approval. People know an outstanding performance when they see one and will applaud it. If they are not applauding, then your performance must not be that great. If you have to go fishing for applause, then something isn't right. Shut-up and turn your focus inward. Reevaluate your performance. Apparently, your greatness is not that obvious to other people, or maybe you have other behaviors that cause people to ignore your success.
Shut-up and stop resisting criticism. Be quiet and listen for a moment. You just might learn something. You and I are not perfect. We need input from other people. So, sift through the critical comments. Pick the parts you will reject and the parts that you will consider further. When you listen and improve your game, then you improve your career.
Stop whining and belly aching about your job, you are getting a paycheck, aren’t you? Do you know how many people are out of work and would love to have your job? Many people are funny in a way, they moan about not having a job, bust their back to find a job, and then do nothing but complain about the job. That's not a happy way to live.