
In this SETSA topic we touch on
- Why self-awareness?
- Why self-empowerment?
We also outline of the SETSA program: The journey of self-discovery, using the butterfly as an example, open ourselves to 'transformation', away from our rigid mind-sets and self-imposed cocoons.
Commence the investment in one's self. Look ahead, look beyond and enjoy devising your very own Slogan (for YOUR life)
In this SETSA topic we
· summarise the differences between Data/ Information/ Knowledge and WISDOM
· consider our respective learning styles and obstacles to learning: UNLEARNING.
· discuss why unlearning is more difficult than learning
· discuss why learning is a lifelong journey
· discuss our respective "roles" together in SETSA
· with the 80/20 rule (Pareto Principle)-urge you be selective: choose what will serve you, "park" the rest
We discuss the importance of the principle, "Learning = Behaviour Change"
We are blessed with 100 billion neurons that CAN be “programmed’ merely by thinking!
Given that "Self Mastery is Based on Self Awareness", we explore
· Why is our thinking and thoughts important?
· How many thoughts do we have per day?
· What is the nature of our thoughts (80% negative)?
· Whether one could change one's thoughts patterns and how?
We encourage you to recognise or at least acknowledge your enormous power and potential.
Given: “As you think, so shall you Be”, commence the journey to what you choose to be.
In this SETSA topic we summarise
• What is Trust, Confidentiality, Respect and Contract
• Why are these principles are so important in our lives and relationships
We encourage you to reflect on how these principles were applied to you, positively and negatively? How does it feel?
What about your application of these principles towards others, good or bad? How does it feel? How might they have felt?
You are encouraged to consider changes, if any, in these important areas
RECAP
In this topic, we first encourage you to reflect on what might be different in your level of awareness, in your thinking or behaviour since commencing the SETSA program. Did you progress with your personal slogan?
We then discuss Maslow's hierarchy of needs and encourage you to consider where you are at in your life: Physiological? Safety? Self Esteem? Also, what does Inner Fulfilment mean to you?
We discuss the Personal Consciousness Chart which also depicts the transition from 'self' to 'serving/service. You are invited to consider "where you might be" and where you would like to be positioned.
In this topic, we invite you to consider what might be YOUR Purpose (to help in making (conscious) choices in your life, moving forward.
In this topic we
-outline Johari's Window
-discuss how each pane (Open, Blind, Hidden, Unknown) could be "adjusted'
-invite you to consider appropriate shifts, if you so decide, to further grow the "open" pan.
As part of the learning, we invite you to consider feedback from loved ones about yourself. How do you come across? It’s a way of identifying areas for improvement but also, could help enhance one's relationship/s, if the exercise is done with sincerity and consideration.
Ultimately, it’s about being AWARE of where one is operating from and being mindful of where one wishes to operate from. Its personal. Its situational. There's no right or wrong answer. By acting through AWARENESS, one is EMPOWERING one's self.
In this SETSA topic we invite you to consider what might be your Personality and Character attributes and discuss the importance of character over personality.
We also discuss how we might have ‘drifted’ into the personality ethic from the 1920s.
We encourage you to consider what might be the desired shifts (if any) in your personality and character attributes.
We invite you to 'experiment': select and apply desired character attributes and if it does not feel right, choose another attribute that better resonates. Why not?
In this topic, to illustrate the ‘power’ of feelings, we ask you to consider your understanding of feelings, to recount (and perhaps share) a life experience, take note of past and present feelings associated with the experience.
As a learning exercise we compare the reaction of a child, a lady and a man to given situations to better understand the different perspectives. This could also serve as a point of self-contemplation.
We discuss reasons why many do not express their feelings (suppression).
We reinforce the message that how we choose to feel is a personal CHOICE.
We also explore the differences between sympathy, empathy and apathy with Empathy also being self-care.
In this topic, participants are first encouraged to consider, personal realisations, shifts in thinking and behaviour, shifts in their level of self-awareness, progress with their personal slogan and 'purpose' thus far in the SETSA journey.
Participants are encouraged to draw a 'my life now' picture, to also contemplate if they are OK with that they see and feel.).
The fishbone diagram also completed in this topic is a reflection point, to acknowledge the positives and negatives and perhaps identify what (issues) need to be worked and perhaps, 'let go'.
The fishbone diagram is an important input to the "Grief" topic.
Recap of the 9 topics covered thus far and updating of personal action plan
A quick recap of the SETSA topics covered thus far, update your personal action plan and do a (personal) SWOT analysis
In this topic
We first discuss reflections, if any. Any observable changes in thinking, behaviour, thinking, awareness? Any progress with the slogan and purpose statements?
We discuss the ‘underlying’ structure of the SETSA action plan (page 3 of SETSA workbook)
We then replay the summary slides from the 9 SETSA topics covered thus far
We encourage you to do a SWOT analysis (Strengths, Weaknesses, Opportunities and Threats)
We encourage you to update the Action Plan for topics covered thus far
The SETSA(Self-Empowerment through Self-Awareness) program encourages Participants to introspect i.e. to take stock of 'where they are’ in their lives, identifying as far as possible how they got there, be it due to past underlying issues, wavering relationships and/or experiences of grief but to also
-accept and acknowledge how they got there
-look ahead instead of using the review mirror to the past
-consider their purpose in life,
-look at their desired values and beliefs that they now wish to live by define measurable and sustainable goals that they will adhere to take responsibility
-INVEST IN THEMSELVES by realising that it’s their lives, their time and about their (conscious) choices in order moving forward positively.
The program is NOT about providing more information, more knowledge or intellectual stimulation but rather one of searching within to find either one or two aspects that could really help one to take that step towards making a change in ones’ life. It’s an experiential process (and not a "quick-fix")
There's no compulsion and no need to accept or remember all the topics in the material provided. There’s no formal ‘testing'.
As facilitators of change we have no interest in testing one’s intelligence, one’s memory, recall or even net worth. The focus is simply on defining and applying per the principle:
“Learning = Behaviour change”
WHY SELF AWARENESS?
Aristotle once said that "Knowing yourself is the beginning of all Wisdom".
Being self-aware is about knowing yourself. That is being aware of every given moment is the essence of being alive, being 'present' in one's own life, and by taking charge rather than being constantly stuck in the past or fearful of the future.
Being aware of one's feelings, of one’s emotions is the first step to taking charge and 'control' in making conscious decisions as opposed to having life pass you by, living in a daze, being on 'auto pilot' or even reacting blindly.
The old habits of reacting defensively and retaliating without thinking, without assessing the situation leads to the turmoil and pain.
To be grateful for another day of opportunity, to make better choices, ultimately leads to a better quality of life
WHY SELF EMPOWERMENT?
"People who empower themselves don’t see the world as the source of their problems" (Jayrenan)
At the core of every being is the deep need to belong, to be accepted and connected with the ability to contribute. When one feels ‘less’ or over-extended, the zest for living fully, slowly diminishes.
Through the SETSA program we encourage individuals to "pause" and take stock of where they are and what they believe they need to do to fulfil their potential, however they define it; to acknowledge where they want to be. In so doing, we encourage individuals to deal with unresolved past issues, emotions (current and past) and current and past relationships, no matter how difficult or painful it may be. Recognise what you truly want for yourself, empower yourself to achieve accordingly.
We aim to create an understanding of the false notions of freedom and happiness through materiality. We seek to help participants define the foundational pillars for their lives and define ultimately their life’s purpose, all with the intention in assisting to free people from the burdens of the past, to recognise and value their worth and gifts and feel truly empowered to live life their best life, God Willing.
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Here is a list of the topics covered in SETSA
1. Introduction. What is Self-Empowerment, Self-Awareness?
2. Knowledge / Wisdom/ Learning
3. Thoughts/Cognitive Behavior Theory (CBT)
4. Trust/Confidentiality/Respect/ Contract
5. Maslows Hierarchy / My Purpose
6. Joharis Window / My Transparency
7. Personality and Character
8. Feelings. Sympathy and Empathy
9. My Life Now / Personal Timeline
10. Recap/Review
11. Time
12. Prejudice and Labels
13. Role Models and Legacy
14. Values and Beliefs
15. Relationships Parts A and B (Love / Partner)
16. Heart versus Head
17. Ego versus Soul
18. Emotions
19. Grief (Part A)
20. Grief (Part B) – Personal Story
21. Emotional Intelligence
22. Power
23. Recap/Review
24. Communication
25. Anger (management)
26. Conflict management
27. Generation Gap (and Narcissism)
28. My “Struggle”
29. Freedom
30. Happiness
31. (a) Self Esteem (b) Self Discipline
32. Goals and Risks
33. Wrap up