Soft Skills: The Complete Guide to Become a Respected Leader
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Soft Skills: The Complete Guide to Become a Respected Leader

How to Reach Your Leadership Potential and Gain Respect As A True Leader by Drawing People Toward Your Genuine Self.
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Created by Jason Teteak
Last updated 11/2019
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  • 5 hours on-demand video
  • 1 article
  • 20 downloadable resources
  • Full lifetime access
  • Access on mobile and TV
  • Certificate of Completion
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What you'll learn
  • Solve your own anxiety and frustrations by tracking what you feel obligated to do and identifying when you can’t turn your mind off…
  • The secret benefits to create a gratitude journal so you can ask yourself what is so great about this happening to you…
  • How to solve your own frustrations with “the work”, and identify where you’re getting esteem from others…
  • Identify where you’re looking for attention or for the “trophy mentality” and how getting worth from others is counterfeit…
  • The steps to distinguish true leaders from false leaders, earn your title with daily tests and finish the races you run…
  • Identify intrinsic wins in your life so you can replace worth from others with worth from yourself and keep the promises you make…
  • Develop a listening action plan to put on your curiosity hat for planned interactions and ad hoc interactions…
  • Get your why for meeting with each and every person you meet with…
  • Free up time to do things you really want to do by stopping being a people pleaser…
  • Set and enforce assertive expectations and boundaries for yourself and others while getting them to paraphrase original expectations and boundaries…
  • Learn new things about others by asking a question to see where they are at, asking about their progress and complementing their body language with yours…
  • Check in with others on a regular basis to identify their wants and needs and score how they’re currently feeling about their role…
  • Distinguish between things people can or can’t handle and help them solve it on their own or with guidance…
  • Identify what the person needs and get their buy in up front to fill the gap with external resources…
  • Conduct a risk audit and a safety net for yourself to determine if it’s a viable risk, create safety parameters and execute on the risk…
  • Create an accountability game plan with a partner to help be really honest with yourself and deal with the crabs in your life…
  • And much, much more…
Requirements
  • Download the Respect Workbook that accompanies this course so that you can follow along perfectly with what is being said.
  • Stop the video when Jason says to do each of the many activities that are in this program so that you can get the entire "Respect" experience.
  • Apply each of the Your turns that occur in each of the major section descriptions to your training so that you can see dramatic differences in your soft skills and leadership skills!
Description

I want to share with you our 6-module step-by-step system to gain respect as a true leader in your organization…

…by mastering the Six Most Common situations that can earn you respect and help you develop and reach your true leadership potential. 

There’s an age-old question…

Is it better to be a “nice” leader to get your staff to like you?

Or to be “tough” and inspire respect and hard work?

Fact: A Harvard Business review study shows that, contrary to what many believe, “nice guys (and gals!)” can actually finish first, as long as they use the right strategies that prevent others from taking advantage of them…

In other words…leaders with respect finish first…

I have one very important question for you…

  • Do you have the respect of other people?

Are you 100% sure?

If you’re like hundreds of leaders we interviewed, you probably worry about ten key things when it comes to gaining respect…

  1. “I have to watch all my employees.”

  2. “People are taking advantage of me.”

  3. “I have to use my power to get respect.”

  4. “People are scared of me.”

  5. “I dread confrontational conversations.”

  6. “I have to micromanage people to get things done.”

  7. “My staff members don’t respect me.”

  8. “I have to be guarded to be successful.”

  9. “I must command respect.”

  10. “I have to make people like me.”

So, what does respect look like?

Fact: Another Harvard study shows that when leaders are fair to the members of their team, the team members display more citizenship behavior and are more productive, both individually and as a team.

Fact: Jon Haidt at New York University Stern School of Business shows in his research that when leaders are self-sacrificing, their employees experience being moved and inspired. 

As a result, the employees feel more loyal and committed and are more likely to go out of their way to be helpful and friendly to other employees.  

Fact: Research on “paying it forward” shows that when you work with people who help you, in turn you will be more likely to help others (and not necessarily just those who helped you).

In other words…

Respect and Leadership go together…

You can’t have one without the other…

There’s a value loop of first respect, then leadership, then more respect, and on and on and on…

Fact: A Gallup’s Workplace Poll shows that employees actually prefer happiness to high pay…something that may come as a surprise to many HR directors…

Happier employees have better customer service.  

Without respect, leaders become tyrants. 

Most of the research suggests that a compassionate workplace fosters engagement not so much through material goods but through the qualities of the organizations’ leaders, such as a sincere commitment to values and ethics, genuine interpersonal kindness, and self-sacrifice.

To get respect, you’ve got to show respect…

Earning respect is one of the most crucial skills needed to become a successful business leader.

So, to help you transform how you earn respect and work with nearly everyone in your life, including yourself, we created RespectHow to Reach Your Leadership Potential and Gain Respect As A True Leader

It’s a six module system – one for each key “respectful” leadership situation to help you show respect to earn respect and become an effective leader at your organization  by drawing people towards you and do it by being more of your genuine self …

Here’s how it works…

In modules 1 and 2, you will learn how to become a grounded leader people want to follow and build a culture of self-esteem that others want to emulate…

In Modules 1 – 2, you will learn how to…

  • Solve your own anxiety and frustrations by tracking what you feel obligated to do and identifying when you can’t turn your mind off…

  • The secret benefits to create a gratitude journal so you can ask yourself what is so great about this happening to you…

  • How to solve your own frustrations with “the work”, and identify where you’re getting esteem from others…

  • Identify where you’re looking for attention or for the “trophy mentality” and how getting worth from others is counterfeit…

  • The steps to distinguish true leaders from false leaders, earn your title with daily tests and finish the races you run…

  • Identify intrinsic wins in your life so you can replace worth from others with worth from yourself and keep the promises you make

In modules 3 and 4, you will learn how to get people to follow you by becoming an exceptional listener and how to free up time to do things you really want to do by stopping being a people pleaser…

In modules 3 – 4, you will learn how to…

  • Develop a listening action plan to put on your curiosity hat for planned interactions and ad hoc interactions…

  • Get your why for meeting with each and every person you meet with…

  • Free up time to do things you really want to do by stopping being a people pleaser…

  • Set and enforce assertive expectations and boundaries for yourself and others while getting them to paraphrase original expectations and boundaries…

  • Learn new things about others by asking a question to see where they are at, asking about their progress and complementing their body language with yours…

In modules 5 and 6, you will learn how to get joy by building a base of people in your life who feel served by serving others’ needs and then grow yourself and your business faster and stronger by taking risks and creating a safety net for yourself…

In Modules 5 – 6, you will learn how to…

  • Check in with others on a regular basis to identify their wants and needs and score how they’re currently feeling about their role…

  • Distinguish between things people can or can’t handle and help them solve it on their own or with guidance

  • Identify what the person needs and get their buy in up front to fill the gap with external resources…

  • Conduct a risk audit and a safety net for yourself to determine if it’s a viable risk, create safety parameters and execute on the risk…

  • Create an accountability game plan with a partner to help be really honest with yourself and deal with the crabs in your life…

  • And much, much more…

If you haven’t experienced this before, it’s an amazing feeling…to carry around fewer burdens because you busted through the clutter of thoughts you’re saddling yourself with...

…to unchain yourself from that burden and draw people towards you.  

This program is going to transform how you earn respect and work with nearly everyone in your life…including yourself.

If this 6-module program sounds thorough it is.  If it sounds difficult, it isn’t.  Because we make everything simple, easy to understand, and quick to learn...

In fact, you can complete the entire training in just 6 hours! 

Which means that by this time tomorrow, you’ll be able to say with confidence:

“I know EXACTLY how to gain respect as a true leader by being more of my genuine self..”

Instead of anxiety and frustrations, you’ll have greater self-esteem, better expectations and stronger boundaries that allow you to listen well, take risks and serve others’ needs.

With a proven system for the 6 Most Common situations that can earn you respect and help you reach your leadership potential. 

#1: Solve Your Own Anxiety and Frustrations

#2: Get Your Self-Esteem Solely From Yourself

#3: Learn to Listen Well

#4: Stop Being a People Pleaser

#5: Serve Others’ Needs

#6: Take a Risk

We know this system works, because it’s the same system that hundreds of our clients in leadership helped us create as we helped them gain respect in valuable leadership communication situations. 

…and you’ll get to see me model exactly how to do it with a real live audiences of leaders…

So you’ll get there MUCH faster and with LESS work because you’ll know exactly how and when to apply each technique…

“There is no respect for others without humility in one’s self.” -  –Henri Frederic Amiel   

Click the button to gain respect as a true leader TODAY…

And like all our Rule the Room trainings, this one is protected by our 30-day, no-questions-asked guarantee…so if you aren’t happy for any reason, just let us know and we’ll give you your money back…no questions asked.


About Your Instructor

International Public Speaking Coach, TEDx Speaker and Best Selling author Jason Teteak has taught more than one million people how to flawlessly command attention and connect with audiences in their unique style.

He’s won praise and a wide following for his original methods, his engaging style, and his knack for transferring communications skills via practical, simple, universal and immediately actionable techniques.

Or as he puts it “No theoretical fluff”.

Jason gained recognition at EPIC Systems in the medical software industry, where he was known as “trainer of trainers of trainers.”

He has developed more than fifty presentation and communication training programs ranging in length from one hour to three days that serve as the basis for The Rule the Room Method.

In 2014-2020 he was named #1 Best Selling coach on Public Speaking for his on-demand video teaching tools that quickly took off for over 1,000,000 online students around the world.

Teteak has flipped the model and changed the approach to great Public Speaking for even the most seasoned veterans.

Who this course is for:
  • Managers & Team Leads: There’s nothing harder than managing a team that does't respect you on the job. So let us fix that for you.
  • Employees and Business Professionals: Grow in your career, soft skills and leadership development in a training with fun and engaging learning techniques that guides you through a learning process that sticks.
  • Directors, Administrators & VP’s: Give yourself, your managers and your employees the training they need, so you can stay focused on strategy and execution, not on costly errors or injuries.
  • Trainers and Instructional Designers: Infuse your classes and lessons with respect, fun and excitement to fully engage your audience and maximize learning with meaningful metrics along the way.
  • Founders and CEO's: Running a business is hard enough without also having to worry about soft skills and leadership skills training, so let us worry about it, instead, saving the company tons of time and money.
Course content
Expand all 20 lectures 05:10:45
+ Introduction and Welcome
1 lecture 19:59

This program is going to transform how you earn respect and work with nearly everyone in your life, including yourself. You’ll learn new techniques for improving your self-esteem, solving your anxiety and frustrations, listening well, setting good expectations and boundaries, serving others’ needs, and taking risks.

Preview 19:59
+ Solve Your Own Anxiety and Frustrations
3 lectures 46:51

Learn the difference between anxiety and frustration. The first step to identifying what gives you anxiety and frustrations is to assume that you don’t even know what it means to be grounded. You need to start by assuming you don’t know what being grounded feels like and you don’t know what being grounded even means.

Part 1
16:37

Track what you feel obligated to do, identify when you can't turn your mind off, and solve your anxiety with gratitude. If you’re open to growth in your life, this section of the chapter is one of the easiest things to implement right away. That’s because it is impossible to have anxiety when you have gratitude. That is a very powerful statement. You can harness that power by asking yourself one of the best questions you could ever ask yourself.

Part 2
16:14

Solve your frustrations with "the work." Do you have any negative thoughts that cause you frustration in your life? These frustrations often represent things that are not realistic or even healthy to do all the time. What if you could create space for curiosity that would allow you to explore another way of viewing each of your negative, frustrating thoughts?

Part 3
14:00
+ Get Your Self-Esteem Solely From Yourself
3 lectures 38:56

Identify where you're getting self-esteem from others. Are you looking to get attention from other people? If you are, then you may be trying to get self-esteem from others. This is a trap that a lot of leaders easily fall into, and it all starts with attention.

Part 1
12:53

Show how getting worth from others in counterfeit. Getting worth from others is not always counterfeit, but most of the time, it is. You can tell if something is counterfeit if it made you feel good, but you didn’t actually grow. The legitimate areas in your life that help you grow are the areas that will increase your self-esteem. The others are counterfeit.

Part 2
14:39

Replace worth from others with worth from yourself. Are you struggling to replace worth from others with worth from yourself? You may have been stuck on this for a long time. What can you do tomorrow to go replace worth from others with worth from yourself?

Getting your self-esteem solely from yourself is the only way to truly get self-esteem. You have to build the self-esteem within yourself. You must constantly challenge yourself to grow realistically. It could be little things, but you have to follow through, and you have to do what you challenged yourself to do.

Part 3
11:24
+ Learn to Listen Well
4 lectures 55:28

Get out of survival mode. When you’re in survival mode, you simply cannot listen very well. Whether you are a new leader or have been in a leadership role for a long time, you can probably remember that time in your life when you were just trying to make ends meet or get your career or business off the ground. That’s survival mode.

Part 1
14:54

Put on your curiosity hat. What makes somebody feel like he is working with a great leader? If your staff members say they love working for you, there’s likely a strong sense of loyalty there. The real question may be, what makes people loyal? The answer is that people feel loyal when they feel understood.

How do we help people feel like we understand them? The answer is we listen to them. We learn from them. We connect with them. Are you going to be loyal to someone you don’t feel really cares about you? That’s not going to bring loyalty. Are you going to be loyal to someone you don’t feel understands you? That’s not going to bring loyalty either.

Part 2
13:25

Develop a listening action plan. You know you need to listen well to be a great leader. Let’s say you’re now out of survival mode; you’re relaxed and ready to listen. You’ve got your curiosity hat on. You know why you want to listen to someone. You’ve walked into the room, and you’re focused on one person. You’ve even complemented the person’s body language.

Part 3
16:54

Develop a listening plan for ad-hoc interactions. There are other listening situations that just sort of happen. You may have gotten thrown into the situation, and you need to use listening skills to get through it with grace. For example, you may be on a plane, at a restaurant, or having cocktails at a networking event. All of the sudden, you’re in an unplanned conversation with a “Mr. Big.”

Part 4
10:15
+ Stop Being a People Pleaser
3 lectures 57:04

Leaders who struggle to earn respect also struggle with people pleasing. When we talk about people pleasing, we’re talking about spending time in other people’s business. It’s worrying about how they feel, how they’re going to react to things.

People pleasers take other people’s power away to make their own decisions and to stand on their own two feet. People pleasers actually hinder people. If you are hindering people, guess who the burden falls on? The burden falls on you as a people pleaser. By contrast, non-people pleasers empower people.

Part 1
18:21

Set assertive expectations activity. Set assertive boundaries. Once you learn how to detach yourself from the end result and not be in other people’s business, how do you actually set and enforce boundaries to stop being a people pleaser? Remember, expectations are what you expect others to do. Boundaries are what you are going to do with them.

Part 2
20:00

Set assertive boundaries activity. Enforce expectations and boundaries. We’ve now gone through all these expectations and boundaries, and now it’s time to enforce them. Hopefully, your staff and others would be proactive and come to you. However, they may not. When that happens, you will need to enforce the boundaries and expectation.

Part 3
18:43
+ Serve Others Needs
2 lectures 34:59

Identify what the other person needs. What if you were instrumental in helping the people around you identify what it is they want or need to feel like they’re living a life of purpose? You can do this by asking them questions that they have never been asked before, or even thought of before, to help them get more comfortable, build a trusting environment, and discover what they need.

Part 1
18:21

Identify what the other person wants or needs activity. Distinguish things they can and can't handle. Once you have found out where the gap is between their current reality and their most-amazing future, you can start to look at those things in the gap that you can handle internally and the gaps you need to fill with external resources.

Help them solve it on their own or with guidance. We’re now to the point where we need to help the other person either solve the problem on his own or give him guidance. In Lisa’s case, she’s given three things that are causing her score and energy to fall lower:

  • She’s not feeling energized running from appointment to appointment.
  • She’s not liking the preparation timeline for each meeting.
  • She’s struggling to understand what the systems are.


Part 2
16:38
+ Take a Risk
4 lectures 57:27

Create a safety net for yourself. A successful entrepreneur once said that to be a success in any business, you have to be willing to fall backwards, knowing there might be a net below you, but not knowing how far off the ground the net is. Have you ever felt that way in your business when you take risks? By creating a safety net, we’re creating a safe environment for you to take a risk.

Part 1
18:18

Conduct a risk audit. In the first section of this chapter, we dealt with the more intangible risk items. This section will help you make the decision to make a risk more tangible. For example, suppose after the first section of this chapter, you now feel like if you hire a new staff member for nine thousand dollars for three months and you lose the money, that you’ll be OK. Now, you’re proving it to yourself.

Execute on the risk. It’s not that people don’t know they should stay in shape, eat healthy food, and save money; it’s just that they don’t do it. Executing on the risk falls under that same category. It’s the accountability piece to actually make it happen.

Part 2
18:59

Execute on the risk. Create an accountability plan with your partner. Your job as a human being is not to change. Your job is to stay the same. You’re going to naturally want to let yourself off the hook on this whole idea. You wouldn’t be creating an accountability plan with an accountability partner if you weren’t susceptible to this.

For you to make changes and set yourself up for success, you don’t want to leave it to chance. Therefore, as soon as you have made the commitment and have come up with your execution plan, you need to have a time frame to execute that plan.

Part 3
18:36

It’s not enough to get great information on how to gain the respect of a true leader. You need to make it stick. To really understand this, you need to understand the five stages of adult learning:

• At the first stage, a person is skeptical: “What are they talking about?”

• At the second, he is receptive: “I can see what they’re doing.”

• At the third stage, he is engaged: “I can do it with help.”

• At the fourth stage, the person is sold: “I can do it by myself!”

• And at the fifth stage, he has mastered it: “I can teach this to others.”

It feels amazing when you get to levels three, four, and five in your practice. There are a number of activities, readings, your-turns, examples, role-plays, and much more to go along with this program to help get you to the point where you can do this on your own. The real results happen back at your office with your own clients and prospects. Once you have mastered the material, and committed it to your long-term memory, then you will start to see results. To help you get there, we have designed a comprehensive review (and Q&A session) for each section of the program. It’s time for you to recall and synthesize information to take your practice to another level.

Review and Your Turn Activity
01:34

Test your knowledge with the Respect exam.

Respect Exam
10 questions