How to avoid screwing up your kids
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How to avoid screwing up your kids

Four lessons to use when your kids are growing up to teach them resilience and make them feel loved.
4.3 (30 ratings)
Course Ratings are calculated from individual students’ ratings and a variety of other signals, like age of rating and reliability, to ensure that they reflect course quality fairly and accurately.
1,210 students enrolled
Created by Dawn Walton
Last updated 8/2013
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This course includes
  • 39 mins on-demand video
  • 2 downloadable resources
  • Full lifetime access
  • Access on mobile and TV
  • Certificate of Completion
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What you'll learn
  • Practical techniques for parents to help children grow up feeling safe and loved but at the same time teach their kids the resilience to survive in the big wide world.
Requirements
  • You will need sound enabled. Otherwise there are no prerequisites for completing this course
Description

  While we are under parental care we are driven to learn behaviours  that give us the best chance of survival. It’s a very primitive drive  based on the caveman days where if our parents didn’t bond with us we  would die. 

  These days it’s more complex of course. 

  As a  therapist and a person who experienced an abusive childhood, I am very  aware how easy it is to screw up our kids – without even trying! I  certainly know that I was very worried about the effect my upbringing  would have when I had to be a parent myself.
 
  There is no right  or wrong answer to parenting. We all do our best. It's just that  sometimes we aren't aware of the consequences of what we do.
 
  Through my role as a therapist I get to see the consequences.
 
  In  this course what I have tried to do is give you some simple and  practical techniques to bring up your kids in a way that makes them  resilient enough to cope with whatever life throws at them
 
  What I  hope is that through these techniques you can do as much as possible to  stop your kids ending up on a couch to seek help from someone like me  one day! 

Who this course is for:
  • Parents of kids up to 8 years old
Course content
Expand 6 lectures 38:43
+ 4 lessons to bring up resilient kids in a safe, loving environment
6 lectures 38:43
As adults our subconscious is in control for up to 90% of our day.

How does it control us?

Well it's job is protection so it uses the stored memories of our childhood to constantly calculate how we need to behave to stay safe.

In this short video you will get an understanding of why that sometimes goes wrong.

In this course you will learn some techniques that you can apply when raising your kids to help you avoid behaviours that make these mistakes have even more of an impact on your kids than they should.
Preview 02:56

In this module you will learn why we seek to be loved as children.

You will learn how we make a connection between moments in our childhood and what they mean. Particularly moments that are connected to love.

You will then learn how you can influence the meaning of those moments in a positive way so that they don't become unnecessarily connected to love and impact on our behaviours and beliefs as adults.

Preview 05:34

In this module you will learn about what a fear is and what the point of it is

We will cover why it is important that you don't try to rationalise the fear away with your kid

We will then cover some simple techniques you can use to help your kids overcome any fears they might have. These techniques will give them resilience to deal with their own fears and will help right through into their adult life


Preview 06:16

In this module we learn the sort of behaviours that kids get stuck in

We will then cover how to turn it around on them to change their perspective and their behaviour without anyone losing their temper


Lesson 3: What are your kids teaching you?
06:00

In this module we will spend some time understanding how we see the world as adults and what informs that.

From that we will look some behaviours that limit us as adults and how they are formed by looking at a couple of case studies

Then we will cover the big thing – how do you teach your kids resilient behaviour when you might not be able to do it yourself!

When you have completed this lesson, grab the MP3 download from the supplementary material. This download will help you get better at the "Flip it" exercise which you can then teach to your kids. Listen to it every day, preferably at a time where you are able to relax. Don't listen while driving or doing anything that requires concentration.


Lesson 4: It's not all about them
13:01

A summary of the course

Conclusion
04:56