
HOUSEKEEPING:
Prepare to take notes of any points/strategies with your pen/pencil & paper/journal/phone/tablet, etc.
Remember to download any PDFs for additional resources & assignments
Join GET YOUR LIFE BACK ACADEMY Group
Remember you can go at your own pace, pause, forward & rewind
Most importantly, DO THE WORK!
Make sure to come prepared to take notes during the session, whether it's with a pen and paper, a journal, or on your electronic device. Additionally, download any provided PDFs to access additional resources and assignments. Join the GET YOUR LIFE BACK ACADEMY Group to connect with others on the same journey. Remember that you have complete control over your learning pace, so feel free to pause, fast-forward, or rewind as needed. And most importantly, put in the effort and do the work required to achieve your goals.
HOUSEKEEPING:
*Prepare to take notes of any points/strategies with your pen/pencil & paper/journal/phone/tablet, etc.
*Remember to download any pdf's for additional resources & assignments
*Join GET YOUR LIFE BACK ACADEMY FB Group
*Remember you can go at your own pace, pause, forward & rewind
*Most importantly, DO THE WORK!
This is my welcome and introductory about what pre-engaged and engaged couples need to know about each other and how to grow as a couple before saying "I do."
Philosophy & Biblical Support
What is Premarital Counseling
Explore the benefits of premarital and pre-engaged counseling, digest week one lessons, and progress at your own pace through week two, applying what you’ve learned.
Explore how proactivity and co-action (coactivity) strengthen intimacy, love languages, and honest histories with expectations through shared planning to build a strong premarital foundation.
Lesson Summary
Love languages are the ways people show and receive love. By learning your partner's love language and helping them learn yours, you will be better able to communicate and share positive feelings. The five love languages are: Acts of Service, Gifts, Physical Touch, Quality Time, and Words of Affirmation.
In another activity, you can identify your partner's greatest strengths from a list provided, and share memories that highlight those strengths.
Love languages are ways people show and receive love.
By learning your partner's love language, you can better communicate and share positive feelings.
The five love languages are: Acts of Service, Gifts, Physical Touch, Quality Time, and Words of Affirmation.
In another activity, you can identify your partner's greatest strengths from a list provided, and share memories that highlight those strengths.
Other Assignments:
*REFLECT on each other's Love Languages: Discover and Learn the best ways to practice their way of interpreting and/or feeling/expressing love.
*READ helpful strategies below for practicing how to love each other and DOWNLOAD worksheet on identifying your strength as a couple.
Love Triangle Explained
Why is that your love expression aka love language? - Love Language! Which love language is yours? How do I communicate my love language?
- Life Purpose Coach Cheryl Y. Howard prompts group members to examine if they believe they have a love language and why does that language communicate love to them.
- Engaging You as well, in this self-discovery exercise which will ultimately help you to communicate your needs and desires to others you're in a relationship with.
Spiritual Significance & Investment | Learn From Ruth, Naomi and Boaz |He That Finds a Wife Podcast Talk
HW: after this presentation, Take the recommended test, discuss your responses with your loved-one/significant other and pop in this eGuide when ready.
Below is a link to the Ultimate Marriage Test, which consists of 25 quick questions. After going through the test, it is recommended to discuss your responses with your loved one or significant other. To access the test, you can click on the following link: Ultimate Marriage Test (25 Quick Questions).
Link to THE ULTIMATE MARRIAGE TEST (25 QUICK QUESTIONS) attached:
Coactivity is often lost due to the busyiness and living in a society with advanced technology that many of us have allowed to create more isolation and separatism. We have to be intentional about establishing intimacy and maintaining healthy relationships.
With all of the following assessments, you can play, pause, ask the question for each.
Use a compatibility questionnaire for engaged couples to discuss responses and reveal expectations, beliefs, values, and histories, guiding premarital conversations on finances, family, and future goals.
Continue the assessment of family history and compatibility by exploring values, expectations, love languages, health histories, and future goals to align life plans.
Building healthy boundaries is important in relationships, and there are several strategies to develop empathy and listening skills. Here are some tips:
Know your limits and be specific about what is acceptable to you.
Identify your values and set boundaries that align with them.
Listen to your emotions and pay attention to feelings of discomfort or resentment.
Show self-respect by not always giving in to others and elevating their needs above your own.
Have respect for others and consider what is fair in interactions and relationships.
Be assertive when setting boundaries, saying "no" respectfully and without ambiguity.
Consider the long-term view of relationships, recognizing when there may be an imbalance of giving or taking.
Practice active listening to recognize and understand others' emotions.
Share in others' feelings by stepping into their shoes and adopting their emotions.
Make yourself vulnerable by sharing your own challenging emotions and experiences.
Take action and offer help when empathy leads to the recognition of others' needs.
Developing empathy can enhance relationships, increase cooperation and forgiveness, and improve mental and physical health. By practicing these strategies regularly, empathy and understanding for others can become stronger.
Other Assignment: Download helpful pdf's attached below with strategies for building empathy and listening skills
Counseling and Coaching Services are helpful for Couples to Grow and Maintain a Healthy Relationship
Identifying and Becoming a High-Value Man or Woman. Let's explore characteristics, traits, beliefs and personalities that adds to your value
Develop self-awareness and emotional regulation to become a high-value partner who is mindful of others. Learn coping strategies, mindfulness, and insight to regulate emotions and make wiser relationship-building decisions.
Learn how dating and accountability thrive when couples invite the Holy Spirit to lead, consult God before decisions, and build each other up through a threefold, spirit-led relationship.
ASSIGNMENT: TAKE THE BIBLE TEST ABOUT SEX (18 QUICK QUESTIONS) Following the link below.
REVIEW AND DISCUSS/REFLECT OVER RESULTS/RESPONSES THEN POP BACK TO THIS eGUIDE/COURSE to continue...
Lesson Summary
There is a Bible test about sex available at the following link: Bible Test. After taking the test, it is recommended to review and discuss the results before continuing with the eGuide/course.
Test and Answers Link below in Resources
Take the test about sex
Review and discuss the results
Pop back to the eGuide/course to continue
Additionally, there is a discussion on sexual boundaries. Let's quickly explore it below.
Learn how to Repair & Overcome Blockages, Schisms, Separation, Discord, Dispersion, Disagreement & Broken Harmony
Explore optimism versus negativity in premarital relationships, guided by Philippians and Romans to renew the mind and practice grace and empathy. Use positive affirmations to counter negative self-talk.
Renew your mind by adopting positive self-talk to combat negative interpretations, and practice grace, empathy, and optimistic conflict resolution guided by Philippians for premarital relationship growth.
Explore and discuss these RELATIONSHIP GREEN FLAGS & Identify where you or you and your significant other fall... It's important to express and explain your own triggers and boundaries with your significant other/spouse.
*This help you understand each other better and creates a safer space.
*This discussion also help you identify/know each other's triggers and why
The worksheets included, act as guides for Discovering & Discussing Triggers and Personal Boundaries in Your Relationship:
*Every relationship has its own norms, rules, and limits. These are the boundaries that tell us what’s okay, and what’s not okay, in the relationship. The Boundaries Discussion Worksheet will encourage in-depth dialogue, insight, understanding and exploration about each other's triggers and personal boundaries.
Explore healthy communication, empathy, and commitment in relationship building for premarital and pre-engaged couples, and learn to listen actively, discuss expectations, and reduce divorce risk through hopeful, grace-filled approaches.
Explore the cognitive origins of thought, recognize internal and external noise, and practice attuned, empathetic, and intentional communication to understand your partner and reduce listening barriers.
Discuss and align healthy realistic expectations after questionnaires to reduce guessing and increase clarity between partners, and create a vision board journal to document marriage goals and future.
Men's Journey of Emotional Healing & Maturity, Self-Awareness & Building Healthy Relationships
Review and discuss the downloadable worksheet on your money beliefs, habits and behaviors surrounding money
Explore how premarital couples decide on responsibilities and finances after the wedding, covering budgeting, debt, assets, and whether to use joint, separate, or both accounts.
Here are Eight Easy strategies for identifying your purpose partner for marriage before saysing I Do
Explore how settling for less stems from identity crisis and the wrong crowd. Learn to pursue peaceful, purposeful living through vision boards and journaling.
Settle for the right partner for premarital and pre-engaged couples by aligning values, growth, and support, and move away from dysfunctional relationships toward purposeful, meaningful connections.
Priest of the Home Part I & II
Here's my take on husbands being priest/leaders of their families based on what scripture teaches.
Just some spill and chat about men being Priest of their Home
So wrap it up, take deep breaths, reflect, pray and share thoughts, feelings and concerns.
This Eight Week PREMARITAL & PRE-ENGAGED eGuide:
encourages couples to fireproof their relationship. This eGuide aka masterclass takes a "let's lay everything out on the table" approach. It will be your guide with discussions on marriage preparation, topics such as; love and passion, dating and accountability, family-financial-household planning, marriage and having a Kingdom mindset, of single-heart in Christ, not settling for less, exploration of each other's expectations, the ministry in marriage, power of premarital and marital counseling, handling conflict with grace, hope and empathy, commitment, healthy communication, parenting history and styles, and more.
This faith-based premarital eGuide/Course/Masterclass was formulated to help couples who are courting, been dating for a while, contemplating marriage, plan to get married, and for individuals who want to prepare themselves for marriage. Let's do the work by laying it all out on the table before jumping into this thang called Marriage/Covenant/Life Partnership! See what's included below.
Leaders, Counselors, Life Coaches, Pastors, Marriage Enrichment and life groups can use this as a premarital/marital empowerment course and guide in their practice, ministry, sessions and forums as well.
This is an instrumental tool with questionnaires about values, love, intimacy & sexual intimacy, finances, family history and more for couples contemplating marriage, getting married and even for strengthening married couples.