Relational Life Couples Therapy and Communication Tips

Name: Relational Life Couples Therapy and Communication Tips
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Leran how to be a couple's therapist and communication coach.

Created bySaskia Kalwinek

Last updated 5/2024

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What you'll learn

Couples communication types.
Good communication in relationships.
Self-regulation techniques.
Couples counselling skills.
Recognising and addressing toxic communication patterns.

Course content

1 section • 30 lectures • 3h 11m total length

Introduction2:21
Learn about various types of couples therapy and gain new RESOURCES for your couples and your practice. The main focus will be Relational Life Therapy (RLT) for couples but I am also including resources from Gottman Institute, Emotional Focused Therapy and Sexual Therapy.
What is Relational Life Therapy?11:36
In this video, we talk about the basics of Relational Life Therapy (RLT).
What is Relational Life Tharpy?
Brain and Communication Skills9:38
In this lecture, I talk about how our brains work during difficult conversations and situations. We get to know concepts such as "Adaptive Child Brain" and "Functional Adult Brain". We also discuss how to analyze your Adaptive Child mode.
Brain and Communication
Creating Leverage with Your Clients10:19
In this lecture we talk about creating leverage with your clients. How to convince them that what you are teaching is the best way forward and why should they commit to change? Through this leverage, you get them on board when it comes to treatment.
Losing Communication Strategies18:17
In this lecture, we talk about dysfunctional Adaptive Child Strategies.
Dysfunctional Communiation Strategies.
Relational Grid - Analyzing Communication Styles15:29
In this lecture, we are analyzing different communication styles that come from either inferiority or superiority and from withdrawing or having no boundaries. We talk about how to recognize symptoms of those styles in yourself and others.
Relational Grid.
Healthy Communication Strategies13:18
In this lecture, we talk about other functional strategies that are the substitute for the dysfunctional ones.
Talking to Your Adaptive Child14:19
Identify and name your adaptive inner child, trace its origins, and dialogue with it using internal family systems techniques to set boundaries and improve relationship communication.
Emotional Regulation3:06
In this lecture we go over some general rules for emotional regulation needed for good communication.
Time-Out Procedure6:49
Use a structured timeout to self-regulate during fights, signal when needed, take an hour away to breathe and walk, not to retaliate, inform your partner, and reconnect later.
Time Out Procedure
STOP Exercise6:02
In this lecture, we go over STOPP exercise that will help you calm down during difficult discussions.
General Tips for Communication7:26
In this lecture, I present you with some general tips. I am also attaching some useful resources that you can share with your couples as a therapist or use them with your partner.
Structuring Your Discussions8:51
In this lecture, we are talking about structuring your conversations and how to go back each time to this structure when you get lost in the argument.
Additional Activities for Couples11:56
In this lecture, we talk about more homework and activities for couples. Please find more resources attached.
TIPS: How to functionally say "I need more contact"2:48
Learn to ask for more contact by negotiating a realistic weekly schedule that balances work, personal time, and time with your partner to stay connected.
TIPS: How to functionally say "I need more physical touch"2:33
TIPS: What to say if you can't make good on your promise3:01
TIPS: What to do and say when you catch your partner on a lie?1:43
TIPS: Coming back to your partner after they cheated.6:20
Learn how to navigate cheating, rebuild trust with safety actions and ongoing communication, and decide whether to stay or leave while reducing the likelihood of cheating.
TIPS: How to functionally say "I need you to text me more often"?2:10
TIPS: How to functionally say "I'm not that into you anymore"?3:59
Learn to tell your partner in a functional, compassionate way that you're not that into them anymore, using words of affirmation, addressing grooming, and offering support to preserve the relationship.
TIPS: Asking about the type of intimacy that you prefer.2:46
TIPS: How to functionally say "I need more space"?3:11
TIPS: How to create a positive conversational space?3:41
Create a positive conversational space by using non-blaming language, inviting partner input, and comparing stories rather than blaming, while avoiding always or never and inviting negotiation.
TIPS: How to give your partner mini interventions?2:45
Learn how to give your partner mini interventions with love and concern, using calm, curious conversations rather than attack, and adjust the conversation based on impact.
TIPS: How to functionally say "I need you to contribute more around the house"?3:29
Learn practical communication tips from relational life therapy to request shared household contributions without blame, using clear task lists, timelines, and accountability to prevent resentment and strengthen connection.
TIPS: How to functionally say "I need more sex"3:15
Learn to functionally express a desire for more sex by staying curious, acknowledging current intimacy, and inquiring what can be changed with good communication, love, and affection.
TIPS: How to functionally say "I need more connection"2:45
Clarify the specific connection you want, present concrete behaviors and a timeline, invite your partner's input, and negotiate a supportive plan to increase daily expressions of love or time together.
TIPS: How to functionally say "I want to open up our relationship"?3:55
Explore how to discuss opening a relationship with your partner, starting with broad questions about polyamory and moving toward boundaries, contracts, and clarifying expectations.
TIPS: How to functionally communicate about parenting.3:33
Learn to co-parent effectively by planning together, avoiding good cop–bad cop dynamics, reinforcing boundaries with kindness, and presenting a united front to your children.
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Requirements

No requirement
No prior experience or qualifications needed.

Description

In this course, you will learn how to be a great couple's therapist. We will discuss how to approach your clients and how to conduct a session using the Relational Life Therapy model. I also bring in lessons from approaches such as the Gottman method and the Emotion-Focused Couple's Therapy model. You will explore various communication styles and toxic strategies when it comes to communicating to be able to recognize them. You will also learn what are the functional strategies that can replace the dysfunctional ways of communication. You will also find out what are some great self-regulation exercises and strategies that can help you and your clients to self-soothe to be able to make this wonderful change in life. We will also delve into communicating with your inner child who is running all our poor behavioral strategies. To achieve the best possible communication you will need to soothe that inner child, analyze how it was hurt in the past, and actively change your behavioral and thought patterns to achieve personal equilibrium which in turn will allow you to be the best possible communicator. We will discuss how to take the perspective of another person and how to create a safe and positive emotional space for conversations.

Who this course is for:

Counsellors, Psychologists
Beginners