Parenting Skills to Raise Responsible, Mature Children
What you'll learn
- Establish loving authority in your home
- Create conditions to open up communication and build trust
- Build an atmosphere of harmony rather than criticism, bickering, or putdowns
- Resolve disagreements and conflicts constructively and without power struggles
- Give up parenting habits that destroy self-esteem and weaken relationships
- Teach your children to assume responsibility for their feelings and actions
- Set limits and enforce discipline without being heavy-handed
Requirements
- You will want to have a pdf reader program to download the worksheets as well as new worksheets which will be added to this course in the days to come.
- Become familiar with the Udemy course interface (i.e. Notes Panel, Discussion Section, etc.)
Description
Here’s just a small sampling of what my students and other professionals are saying
"In my career as a specialist providing treatment to adolescents and their families, I have seen many parenting theories, models and books but nothing which rises to the stature of this work by Dr. Allen." Michael E. Berrett, Ph.D., Psychologist, nationally known clinical teacher, and CEO of Center for Change
“The best course ever... I do not regret to invest my time and money in this course. Absolutely clear and practical for parents.” Lammuansang Tombing
“Wow, I wish I had done this course before I had kids. My kids are teens now and I regret that I didn't have this knowledge and skills to raise my kids. This is super helpful and even though it seems too late for me, I still try to apply some of the concepts explained. Thank you!” Rosa Sam
“Incredible course! Highly recommend for parents AND teachers!” Yana Uvarova
“This course was so enlightening and well structured. I really liked all of the examples that were given. This really helped me apply the skill correctly as well as cement it in my knowledge. It was very helpful to be able to download the PDF's to go over again as many times as needed... I already see improvement as I work to apply one thing at a time.” Chandee Herrera
“You have done a masterful job and your work will be a great blessing to thousands of parents." Dr. Dennis Deaton, Award-winning Author: Ownership Spirit and Co-founder of Quma Learning Systems
“Roger Allen takes a difficult subject that is close to our hearts, and in an engaging manner, inspires us to become better parents and grandparents." Hyrum Smith, Co-Founder FranklinCovey
PARENTING MATTERS!
What happens between parents and children matters. Through our parenting we shape the lives of our children and prepare them to become happy and successful adults and positive contributors to society. Therefore, learning the skills of effective parenting will be one of the most worthwhile ventures you ever pursue.
Yet, doing this work is not easy
Although rewarding, there is frankly little that is as hard as raising children. Family life is chaotic. Children come into the world helpless and are totally dependent on their parents for all their care. The process of growing physically and emotionally is a slow journey that takes many years. In the meantime, children make incredible emotional and physical demands on their parents. These demands require an abundance of understanding, patience, perseverance, dedication, even emotional maturity.
During the course I’m going to talk about many of the challenges that come at us almost daily. For example, what do you say or do when?
Your kids bicker and fight.
They are unmotivated and don’t want to help around the house.
A child consistently lies.
Your son or daughter brings home a really bad report card.
A daughter is devastated by the remarks of some friends and becomes very depressed.
Your son pitches a major fit when his screen time is over.
These are just a few of the myriad of challenges that we face as parents every day.
The mistakes we make as parents
Such challenges set us up to do one of two things: We over-manage our children by controlling, directing, lecturing, forcing, telling, nagging, criticizing, threatening. Or, we overindulge them (make life easy) by sympathizing, giving in, rescuing, fixing or doing for our them what they ought to do for themselves. Either way, our children fail to learn from their experiences or grow in emotional maturity and self-responsibility.
COURSE PURPOSE
My overall purpose, in this parenting course, is to teach you principles and skills to create a nurturing climate in your home. This is a home which blends the qualities of love and compassion with clear expectations and accountability. Most parents are good at one or the other—creating a loving, responsive environment but not so good at setting expectations. Or the other way around. They’re good at setting expectations but not good at compassion and love. I’m going to teach you to do both—hold high standards and yet create a safe and loving environment.
HERE'S WHAT WE'LL DO
In the first part of the course, you'll learn a framework of successful parenting by helping you understand the basic principles or characteristics of a nurturing home. By understanding these principles you’ll become less reactive and become far more knowledgeable what to do and say to not only solve problems but help you children learn and grow.
Most of the course is about improving how you communicate and interact with your children. I’ll present a model to communicate in ways that are positive and strengthening to your children rather than weakening and harmful to them and your relationships.
The remaining lessons are all about specific strategies and communication skills. You’ll learn how to:
Establish loving authority within your home.
Open up communication and build trust.
Build an atmosphere of harmony rather than criticism, bickering and putdowns.
Resolve disagreements and conflicts constructively and without power struggles.
Give up parenting habits that destroy self-esteem and weaken relationships.
Teach your children to assume responsibility for their feelings and actions.
Set limits and enforce discipline without being heavy handed.
Concrete skills
This course is not theory. I teach very concrete skills (what to do and say when such and such an event occurs in your home) and then demonstrate the skills with examples of communication between parents and their children.
The skills not only work but are immediately useful. By learning and practicing them you will improve the way you parent so you can enjoy your children and positively influence their development. I have been teaching these principles and skills for many years and I am pleased to make them more widely available in this course.
I also want you to know that I give you lots of handouts to go with the lessons which you can download to remember and practice the concepts. I am also giving you exercises to apply what you learn. My intent is to make the concepts usable. I want you to come away from the course empowered mentally and equipped with skills that you can begin using immediately.
Who Am I?
My name is Roger Allen. I’m a psychologist, author, coach, consultant, teacher, and more importantly, a father and grandfather. I’ve studied parenting and family relationships for 30 plus years and have developed a set of basic principles and skills to help you create loving relationships with your children and empower them to become responsible, emotionally mature children and adults. The principles and skills I will teach you have been tested with thousands of people throughout the world.
So join the thousands of parents who have learned skills to bring greater joy to their homes by raising responsible, emotionally mature children.
Who this course is for:
- This course is for parents (toddlers to teens) who need tools and skills to build happier relationships and emotionally healthy children.
- Any parent who needs new strategies for appropriately dealing with a child or teenager.
- New parents who want to raise successful, responsible children.
Instructor
Welcome to my instructor page!
I’m a husband to Judy, father of 4 married adult children and 15 grandchildren (7 boys and 8 girls). In addition to creating content in leadership, personal development and relationships, I love spending time outdoors hiking, skiing and running, especially mountain trails.
I'm pleased to say that most of my courses are highly rated and best sellers in their respective categories on Udemy. That's because I have many years of professional experience and I care about quality and thoroughly research to understand a topic before I create a course.
Plus, I really care about you, my students. I want you to have the best experience possible as you go through my courses.
My Professional Journey
In 1992, I co-founded the Center for Organizational Design and worked with worked with top Fortune 500 companies, including AT&T Capital, Coach Leatherware, The US Forest Service, Corporation for Public Broadcasting, Merck Pharmaceuticals, Honeywell, Proctor & Gamble, and Hewlett Packard, as well as many small and medium-sized businesses.
We helped companies improve their leadership, clarify their business strategy, streamline their design (processes, structure and systems) and change corporate cultures by implementing high performance teams in which employees could “feel and act like partners in the business.”
Through the Center, my partner and I trained and certified over 1,500 trainers and consultants from around the world, providing them with access to our extensive library of over 70 leadership and team development modules. These programs have now been taught thousands of times, touching the lives of countless individuals across the globe.
Prior to consulting, I co-founded (with my father, the late C. Kay Allen) the Human Development Institute, where I spent a decade providing individual and marriage counseling. In addition, I also created and taught in-depth programs for the general public to help people move beyond limitations and lead more fulfilling lives.
Here are just few testimonials of people who have been through my curriculum:
"Literally thousands of professionals are exposed each year to Roger Allen’s material and the ripple effect has changed people's lives, made work easy, faster and better. Almost weekly I get rave reviews on his material. I cannot say enough about this man and his writings. I have purchased cases of his books and material to share with others." Jim Ullery, President, Center for Organizational Energy
"In my career as a specialist providing treatment to adolescents and their families, I have seen many parenting theories, models and books but nothing which rises to the stature of this work by Dr. Allen." Michael E. Berrett, Ph.D., Psychologist, nationally known clinical teacher, and CEO of Center for Change
“As a counselor, I found the insights and strategies to be incredibly valuable. The knowledge and skills have not only deepened my understanding…and enriched my ability to support other families in navigating the challenges they face. I was particularly impressed by your emphasis on fostering open communication and building strong relationships within families. Your strategies for effective communication, active listening, and conflict resolution are not only applicable but also transformative. With utmost enthusiasm, I wholeheartedly recommend this course to fellow counselors, parents, and anyone invested in fostering positive family dynamics.” Najiha Khan, Student Counselor AKES program
“I want so much to express my deepest love and gratitude for teaching me in such a beautiful way those principles of truth that literally changed my life overnight. I have never been happier. The things I learned from you have set me free because I have learned to love myself and to be completely open and honest. It’s amazing that I have lived my whole life for others approval but I’m so excited to have the rest of my life to do it my way.” Sally Hollingshead, student in Roger’s personal development program.