Performance Parent

We all want our kids to get the same life lessons from sports that we did.  We have to remember that these lessons are all part of the process of playing sports.  Many parents want their children to come away with the lessons from sports but they get in the way of them going through the process.  The lessons we learned come from the process of growing and becoming better at something.  As parents we want our kids to gain the valuable lessons that sports teach us but we often get in the way of the process.  Sometimes we need to get out of the way and support. 

I am Dr. George Hanshaw, most importantly I am a parent as well.  I am the last person who is going to tell anyone how to parent.  When it comes to sports and our children there is no perfect way of doing things.  Because I am a big believer in focusing on what you can control I want to share my experiences with you on those lessons that we teach our kids through our actions. 

The purpose of this course is to outline ways we can support our children as they go through the process of learning those life lessons.  I am not telling you how to parent.  I am highlighting the lessons we inadvertently teach our children through our actions.   Thankfully children are resilient.  If you haven't made a mistake as a parent then you haven't been a parent or your not telling the truth right now:)

There are a few videos below where I will talk about a topic.  For this to be a conversation where we all grow in perspective there has to be more people than myself engaged.  We are going to do this by using the Q&A section.  I ask you to write your perspective in the Q&A section.  In the description of the different short videos I ask you to give your perspective on a certain topic.

Let's start a conversation.  We all want the best for our children.  We want them to learn the fantastic lessons we learned from sports.  The most powerful lessons I know of are the lessons that stick with us and create our character.  Let's start the discussion with grit, resilience, decision making skills, and finding joy.  The video points out why these are important.

There are many other attributes that are important.  Go ahead and post in the comments section other attributes or why you think grit, resilience, decision making and joy are important. The conversation is where we all gain perspective and context so let's start!

Best Regards

George

We inadvertently teach our children lessons through our actions.  This is a normal part of life.  Now that we know this we can focus our effort on helping them to grow.  This short video discusses how we inadvertently teach our children some lessons that don't help them grow or perform.  We can actually get in the way of the process.

This video talks about some of those actions.  I don't jump in and tell you what's right or wrong.  I do want to start a conversation.  After watching the video post your perspective on what you can do to help your child grow in any of the 4 areas we are talking about: grit, resilience, decision making, and finding joy. 

What do we do after the game?  If it is a tough loss how can we have the greatest impact on our child.  After watching the video let us know how you start or not start the conversation about the game.  Use the Q&A section to chime in.

Grit and Resilience are critical components of success.  Building grit and resilience is definitely a process.  There are things that we can do to help our children build grit and resilience.

The difference between good and great is purpose.  What will you do to help your child focus their efforts?  Having a mission or purpose is the bedrock.  To become better at something the gold standard is deliberate practice.  Share your comments.

Yes.  Just be a fan.  Your support is what your child needs.  Remember Maya Angelou's word's "I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel."  - Maya Angelou.

At the end of the day your child will remember how they felt that day.  That is what they will remember long after that day has passed.  You influence that feeling they have so be purposeful.  Let us know in the comments section what you will do.