
In this lesson you will learn what Social Anxiety is, the specific triggers and why you have a Social Anxiety so you can start to free up from its grip.
Here you will get an outline of the SA physical symptoms and an explanation about why avoidance doesn’t work. But more importantly, I will highlight why avoidance makes the situation worse and why your SA has, in all likelihood, been getting progressively worse over time.
A word of caution: Some people might feel blamed that they have kind of done it to themselves. But that isn't the case. The SA isn't your fault and you are also not to be blamed for making it worse. It is perfectly logical to seek avoidances. We do that with every sort of pain we may encounter. But with SA it just doesn't work, and there are far better ways to deal with SA, as you will see in future lessons, which is the purpose of this course:-)
In this lesson you will learn about the various SA triggers you might be confronted with.
The four tests are displayed in the slides with some basic instructions. Make sure you do this homework as it forms the basis for the rest of the modules.
Attached are the 4 tests which are also available in the public domain.
Common treatments for Social Anxiety
Some causes of SA are discussed.
We all have some sort of SA due to how helpless we are as children, and how we were educated. But that is not likely to be enough to create a real SA. Other environmental (and possibly genetic) causes further contribute to its development.
Parental and other caretakers' expectations have been established and your wish to please them too. Often the expectations will be in direct contrast with your own wishes - but as a helpless child, there is no way, other than suppressing them.
As you grow up, society's rules become evident, but many of them are surprisingly contradictory and the brain goes into conflict and chaos.
Eventually, you end up taking the path of least resistance and most approval. But this will automatically create negative core self beliefs (e.g. 'I'm weak', I'm worthless' etc.).
Once you have a negative self image, the stage is set for being socially anxious.
3 techniques to discover your individual negative belief(s).
Also have a look at the handout with a list of negative beliefs and mark down the one(s) that seem to fit you.
In the next module we will already start with techniques and interventions to bring about change in your beliefs and in your social anxiety.
See you there:-)
Aaron
In this lesson you will be building up your motivation and explore potential blocks before you actually start intervening.
In this lesson you will learn to categorise your experiences and think about the short and long term consequences your actions are having.
In this lesson you will start learning how to approach your thinking in a completely new way. There is also an accompanying audio that you can download to help you with this exercise. Enjoy:-)
In this lesson you will get more explanations on how to stay in the present and how to deal with interfering thoughts during the exercises.
In addition, another exercise is added, totalling to 3 times - 5min a day of working on your SA this week.
In this lesson you will be getting the final exercise for you to practise this module which is the FireStorm exercise. This you should be practicing at least once a day in a SA triggering situation.
Make sure that you allow yourself to have a SA lined up for every day. If necessary, check your tests from week 1 and expose yourself to such a situation.
Finally, keep track of all the exercises that you are practising in the Mindful Mind Chart attached in this lesson. The instructions for the FireStorm exercise are attached as well.
Welcome to module 3.
In this lesson you will start to see how fast and automatic our thoughts come to us and how difficult it is to shake them off.
In this lesson I highlight that a thinking trap basically means that we all have a bias in our thinking. This is especially true for those with SA.
In this lesson you will be guided to create your basic structure of experience.
Event - is the situation = what happened (just fact!)
Thought - (ask yourself, what is the problem with that?)
Feelings
This lesson covers 3 major thinking errors that are classic for people with SA.
Jumping to conclusions
Thinking the worst
Mind reading
Each of those is explained in detail and from now on, you want to take note (see next doc called 'practice with your thinking') and add the specific thinking error that you think is happening in your thoughts.
In this lesson, I'd like to add another 2 errors;
1) overestimation of danger
2) underestimation of your abilities to handle it
Aim to practice with your thinking by adding 'and I can handle it'.
In this lesson, the first part of a series of questions is discussed. Use the questions according to your circumstances and try to come up with answers to these questions.
Once you've identified your thoughts, analyse them through these questions as applicable.
The second list of questions you will find in this lesson.
Last set of questions
In this lesson you will apply the questions in a practical exercise.
I am giving you some guidance but I'd like to see how you make use of the questions and if you can add any to the ones that I've already mentioned.
Occasionally you might notice that you are doing the work and yet nothing much is shifting in terms of your emotions.
In this lesson I explore two options for that.
Core Beliefs and
Hidden Thoughts.
The Vertical Arrow will help you identify underlying core beliefs which are very important to work with in your overcoming SA.
Let me know how you are doing with working with the Vertical Arrow
This lesson concludes module 3. I hope that you have found it useful and that you are practicing intensely:-)
See you in module 4.
Aaron
Welcome to module 4
In this module you will start putting it all together.
In this lesson there is a recap on the types of avoidances and an elaboration on overcoming the urge to avoid and start seeing avoidances as your greatest enemy.
Which type of avoidance has been a part of your life?
In this lesson you are asked to share your short term gains and your long term prices that you have been paying.
In this lesson you will learn about exchanging emotional behaviours for alternative healthier ones.
In addition, you will learn about the Mountain effect.
See the document attached and please share in the comment section for feedback
In this lesson you will start focusing on reducing the physical sensations that are associated with social anxiety.
In this lesson you will be learning how to increase your physical sensations, measure it, and see them decrease over time.
Bringing it all together. Seek out what you have been avoiding and use the skills.
Use the forms to prepare for the exposures and evaluate it afterwards too.
In this lesson I will show you how to do Imaginal Exposures for when regular exposure is either too difficult or the situation isn't so easy to create.
This was the last lesson of the course. Remember to practice on a daily basis.
I really hope that you have enjoyed this course and that you have found it useful.
Make sure to re-evaluate your original assessment so you can see how much you have progressed.
Now have a look at the bonus lessons for some added powerful tools and techniques.
7 Powerful Techniques for Each day of Week that you can add to the Course Program.
In this bonus I cover the most common medications prescribed for SA
You've made it to the end - but let that be the beginning of a new life for you!
Let me know your final thoughts on the course and on how you are doing:-)
All the best to you,
Aaron
Someone suffering from social anxiety feels intensely worried about socialising and interacting with others, either in particular social situations or all social situations. They may feel a mixture of fear, apprehension, and panic about being rejected, misunderstood, embarrassed, or perceived negatively during social interactions.
Does this sound like you?
I feel dread or fear when I’m around people
I constantly scan my surroundings to check if people approve of me
I feel anxious about how I appear to other people in social situations
I find reasons and make excuses to not join gatherings with friends and family because I feel stressed and nervous about them
I get sweaty, nervous, dizzy, feel faint, or feel my heart pounding when I’m in a social situation
Now Imagine yourself....
Being able to attend events and parties and enjoy being there
Comfortably expressing your thoughts and opinions without any worry of judgement or disapproval
Reaching new heights in your career and personal relationships
Feeling relaxed and confident when attending interviews, meetings, and social gatherings
Enjoying every moment with your family, friends, and colleagues with no fear or anxiety impacting you
In this course you will learn every tool and technique you need in order to get there - taught by a Master Psychotherapist that will take you step-by-step through the process.