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Optimizing Our Relationships
Rating: 4.7 out of 5(7 ratings)
79 students

Optimizing Our Relationships

Healing Our Attachment Trauma
Created byJ. Eric Gentry, PhD
Last updated 10/2021
English
English [Auto],

What you'll learn

  • How past painful experiences in relationships (including developmental trauma) intrude into and significantly impair our relational functioning;
  • How to interrupt the physiological threat response in our bodies that are compelling us to act in self-defense instead of acting with compassion and love;
  • What commitment and hard work is not enough—healing relationships requires more working smart than working hard;
  • Learn the secrets of co-regulation so that you can become an instrument of health, healing and safety for the people you love and care about;
  • How to use the Forward-Facing process as a discipline to become the person you choose to be instead of how your painful past experiences have programmed you
  • How to immediately find satisfaction and hope in even the most contentious of relationships

Course content

1 section • 11 lectures • 1h 2m total length

  • Introduction4:38

    Explore forward facing trauma therapy to resolve historical trauma with present-day tools, without reliving painful memories, and enable intentional engagement in relationships and renewed self-efficacy.

  • It's Not Your Fault...2:35

    Embrace responsibility for your recovery from addiction, not blame for the past, and learn to heal attachment and intergenerational trauma, reducing amygdala-encoded pain and future triggers.

  • ACEs6:16

    Explore adverse childhood experiences (ACEs), the Kaiser study linking higher ACE scores to increased risks and a 20-year life expectancy gap. See how secure attachment buffers the autonomic nervous system.

  • Painful Past Learning4:04

    Explore how painful past learning triggers threat responses in the body to perceived cues, and how beekeepers’ desensitization reduces this threat perception in relationships.

  • Associational Learning & Reciprocal Inhibition5:47

    Explore how trauma shapes perception via sensory memories and demonstrate adebo exposure, a forward-facing method using relaxation to gradually reduce threat in relationships.

  • Viktor Frankl4:40

    Explore Viktor Frankl's resilience in Nazi death camps to understand how a deliberate space between stimulus and response enables choosing growth, meaning, and love in daily relationships.

  • No Danger-No Self Defense7:18

    Observe how relaxed eyes and soft prosody invite engagement and safety; constricted muscles and voice trigger threat responses, prompting avoidance or aggression.

  • Self-Regulation11:04

    Identify when fear is not real danger, relax the body to release muscle tension, and shift from threat responses to intentional, compassionate action, healing personal and inter-generational trauma.

  • Intentionality5:15

    Develop intentionality in relationships by choosing how you want to be, interrupting threat responses, relaxing your body, and acting with integrity instead of past programming-driven self-defense.

  • Resources2:09

    Explore resources on how the autonomic nervous system shapes perceived threat and the practical skills to interrupt it, linked to intentional living and facial trauma therapy.

  • Q&A8:44

    Learn how the sympathetic nervous system primes us for real danger in 15–30 seconds, guiding instinctive run or fight, and how replacing hypervigilance with relaxed vigilance improves safety.

Requirements

  • No Prerequisites

Description

How frequently do you find yourself acting in ways that you do not like and that lower your self-respect within the important relationships of your life? How frequently do you fail to act in the ways that you want to act with these people?


Would you like look back on your day and feel good about the way you behaved with the people you care about...instead of blaming everyone else for your discomfort. Becoming intentional with your words and actions in relationships is possible. Feeling safe, connected, loving and hopeful in relationships requires just a few simple tools...and then a whole lot of practice putting these tools to work.


Not knowing how our developmental experiences of attachment trauma can impact us in our adult relationships can leave us feeling ashamed and hopeless as we find ourselves habitually engaging in the same patterns of self-defense with our partners, our children, our co-workers and ourselves.


This course will give you the insight and tools to begin to gain traction in becoming the person you choose to be in all the relationships in your life. The more you are able to achieve and sustain intentional behavior in these relationships, the more you are diminishing the power that past trauma and painful experiences have in your present life.

Who this course is for:

  • Individuals who want more out of life
  • Learners who want a more fulfilling life
  • Those looking to become the best they can be
  • Educators
  • Parents
  • Friends
  • Family

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