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Personal Development Happiness Self-Acceptance

Be free – drop your bad conscience and your guilt

How you understand and dissolve personal guilt
Rating: 5.0 out of 55.0 (17 ratings)
169 students
Created by Bertold Ulsamer
Last updated 12/2017
English
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What you'll learn

  • You diminish your inner pressure You unburden yourself You learn to forgive yourself You transform your guilt in positive action You understand essential connections in human life You get essential insights of my German book “The eight faces of guilt”

Requirements

  • Openess Engagement and courage Readiness to explore unknown corners of yourself

Description

So many are tortured by their bad conscience! About things they did, they should do or things they did not or they should not do. Sounds familiar to you? Then this course is for you: It will help you to overcome your feelings of guilt!

But guilt does not have only one reason, it is not an unity. Sometimes you feel guilty because you act against your inner standards, sometimes you feel guilty because you hurt someone. Sometimes guilt serves as a protection against feeling pain and helplessness, sometimes it shows you the deep connection you have with the misery of other human beings.   

The solutions for these diverse types are totally different! In this course you will discover and differentiate the most important types of guilt in your life and in the life of others. And with this understanding you can transform your guilt or – sometimes - forgive yourself.   In order to have a happier and peaceful live!  

Feedback on udemy

“It’s an eyeopener”

“Gosh Bertold, he has this gentle lovely voice that is so deeply soothing. For that alone, even if the content wasn’t rich, I would say get the course if your are suffering. The content though is rich and full of wise observations, ie about our inner rebel who contradicts what we set out to do and then sabotages our efforts which then of course produces guilt. The only flaw is not his, I don’t know if I am missing a feature but I have to keep pressing the screen to move to the next part which is v annoying because I can’t ever multi task etc. Anyway though, thank you B, for a lovely voice, a thoughtful course and soothing my guilty insides.”

“It’s really very helpful. simple practices but very powerful.”

Who this course is for:

  • People who are troubled by feeling often guilty People who cannot fulfil always their high inner standards People who carry an old burden of guilt People who want to understand better themselves People who want support others to unburden

Course content

10 sections • 55 lectures • 3h 39m total length

  • Preview01:31
  • Preview01:47
  • Preview02:06
  • Practice: The search for you own personal feelings of guilt
    05:49

  • Guilt as the consequence of imbalance
    05:02
  • Practice: Understanding the necessity of balance in a relationship
    01:51

  • Preview03:12
  • The demands for both men and women - The traps and deadfalls of today’s society
    03:22
  • The dynamics of a bad conscience: Your inner drive, critic and judge
    03:34
  • Your inner child who adapts
    03:04
  • Your inner rebel
    04:41
  • Practice: Getting to know more about your own inner world
    08:58

  • Introduction: Each part has its good intentions
    01:19
  • Better understanding of your inner critic
    05:26
  • Practice: Getting to know your inner critic
    08:08
  • Understanding the purpose of the submission and the rebellious side
    02:38
  • Practice: Meeting your inner rebel
    05:09
  • Preview03:41
  • Ending the inner schism
    05:02
  • An example: Someone who wants to change
    06:31
  • Final thoughts
    01:43

  • Introduction: The consequences of hurting somebody else
    01:12
  • Practice: Facing someone you have hurt
    03:22
  • An example: a murderer in a London
    05:56
  • The core of guilt: hurting somebody else also hurts you
    03:56
  • An example: the systemic constellation of an abortion
    05:12
  • No grown up can completely avoid hurting others
    05:01
  • Practice: How to avoid feeling guilty
    04:06
  • An example: a therapist who has hurt a client
    04:37
  • When the two forms of guilt mix
    01:43
  • ”Forgive me” or “I am sorry”?
    06:12
  • A bad conscience is counterproductive
    03:42

  • Introduction: How can the victim reach a state of balance?
    01:18
  • The balancing of small wounds
    04:00
  • Bigger wounds: the wish for revenge
    02:28
  • You can forgive – but you do not have to.
    04:47
  • The dark side of the victim
    04:13
  • Practice: Facing a situation where you continue to feel like a victim
    08:39
  • The humanity of both victim and perpetrator
    04:51

  • Introduction: Guilt as protection against unbearable emotions
    01:05
  • The shield against pain and helplessness
    04:38
  • The suicide of a person close to you
    04:08
  • The mixture of feelings of dismay, guilt and anger upon a close one’s suicide
    04:59
  • An example of the aftereffects of aggressive thoughts
    02:27
  • Blame and feelings of guilt upon a couple’s separation
    03:29
  • The protection against pain and helplessness on a collective ground
    03:36

  • When does survivor guilt occur?
    00:57
  • Examples of survivor guilt
    03:31
  • The roots of survivor guilt
    05:10
  • How to heal survivor guilt
    04:56

  • Forgiveness: a fruit of the lessons you did
    03:47
  • Practice: Forgiving yourself against the opposition of your inner judge
    08:24

  • Looking back
    03:55
  • Family: the other realm of guilt
    03:17
  • Goodbye
    01:00

Instructor

Bertold Ulsamer
Therapeut, Trainer und Coach
Bertold Ulsamer
  • 4.5 Instructor Rating
  • 2,054 Reviews
  • 33,854 Students
  • 38 Courses

~* German Version below *~

PhD in law, certified clinical psychologist, NLP-trainer, trauma therapist (Peter Levine), originally from Germany. My strength is: Putting complicated psychological issues in a nutshell. Understandable for everyone - because the essence is simple! Moreover, I want my participants not only to get ahead theoretically, but also practically. Thus I set great value on them making new experiences and gaining new personal insights.

After graduating in law I also studied psychology. I quickly noticed that I way prefer working with humans to working with paragraphs. So I started to practice as a psychologist - initially with individuals, then mainly with groups. Together with a colleague I founded an institute for NLP in management trainin~* German Version below *~g. We developed and held many seminars about leadership, self-management and communication for customers like BMW, Siemens and Lufthansa.

In the 90’s I discovered the great influence of your own family of origin through the method of “family constellations”. Using this instrument I returned to working as a therapist and held seminars and trainings all over the world (e.g. in Australia, India, South Africa, Russia and the US).

Today I integrate everything I have learned working as a coach and therapist, for the last 9 years, oftentimes in China. I am the author of more than 20 books in the field of professional communication, self-management, family constellations and personal growth that have been translated into 10 languages.

If you are interested in the work I am doing then you may want to get information about my new courses and books. Inscribe you for my newsletter! And you will get reductions of some courses. You can do that on my website.


Dr. jur., Dipl.-Psychologe, NLP-Trainer, Traumatherapeut (Peter Levine). Meine Stärke ist: komplizierte psychologische Sachverhalte verständlich auf den Punkt bringen. Denn das Wesentliche ist im Grunde einfach! Und dann ist mir vor allem wichtig, dass Teilnehmerinnen und Teilnehmer eigene Erfahrungen machen und neue Einsichten gewinnen statt nur in der Theorie schlauer zu werden!

Nach dem Jurastudium habe ich noch Psychologie studiert. Schnell habe ich gemerkt, dass mir Menschen lieber sind als Paragraphen. Habe dann mit einer kleinen Praxis angefangen, aber vor allem immer mit Gruppen gearbeitet. Ein Kollege und ich gründeten dann ein Institut für Management-Training, wo ich viele Seminare zu Führung, Kommunikation und Selbst-management durchführte für Kunden wie BMW, Lufthansa und Siemens. Mitte der 90er Jahre entdeckte ich die große Auswirkung der eigenen Familie im Hintergrund über die Methode Familienaufstellungen. Damit ging ich noch einmal in die therapeutische Richtung und führte Seminare und Fortbildungen in der ganzen Welt durchgeführt (z. B. in Australien, Indien, Südafrika, USA, Russland) Heute integriere ich all das, was ich bisher gelernt habe, und arbeite als Seminarleiter, Therapeut und Coach, seit zehn Jahren häufig in China. Ich bin Autor von 24 Büchern zu den Themen Kommunikation, Selbstmanagement und Aufstellungsarbeit, von denen es Übersetzungen in zehn Sprachen gibt. 



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