Advanced Mental Wealth NLP Training with Dr. Wyatt Woodsmall

In this video, Wyatt Woodsmall overviews the Presuppositions of NLP and explains Well Formedness Conditions.

2 Downloads Available:

1. Well Formedness Conditions (Exercise)

Note: You can type on the PDF worksheet.

2. Presuppositions of NLP (Handout)

In this less, Wyatt Woodsmall overviews and explains the "4 worlds we live in" and representational systems.

Home Play:

Begin listening to the predicates (and the 4 languages) other people use when communicating.

Today you will learn about Calibration: The process of reading a subject`s internal responses in an ongoing interaction by pairing them with observable behavioral cues.

The handout is here to download as a PDF.

HOME PLAY:

1. Ask a partner to think of someone they dislike. Notice their facial expressions, I’ve movements, breathing, any postural changes.

2. Now ask your partner to think of someone they really like, and observe them again. You will probably notice some differences.

3. Now, ask them to think of one or the other, without telling you which. See which set of cues you observe and tell them which one they are thinking of. You may be surprised at easily you can seemingly ‘read their mind.’ If your reading was inaccurate, go back to calibrating.

What did you discover?

In this lesson, Wyatt Woodsmall explains emotions come from the:

• PICTURES IN YOUR HEAD

• WHAT YOU’RE SAYING TO YOURSELF

• TONALITY OF INTERNAL DIALOGUE

• SENSATIONS IN YOUR BODY

We discuss association/dissociation and SUBMODALITIES, the specific sensory-qualities perceived by each of the five senses. See attached handouts for today's lesson.

A person's chronic emotional tone gives you an indication of how they will behave in business and in life, and whether they will keep agreements or not.

In this lesson, you received an introduction to internal conflict resolution.

A parts conflict is often revealed through the words you use. These can be phrases such as "on the one hand," "I feel torn about this," or "a part of me agrees with you." Your behaviors may suggest different attitudes, and those attitudes may vary in different contexts.

Emotional experiences throughout life, and especially during the early imprint years can result in the creation of “Parts” in the unconscious mind.

These ‘Parts’ generate their own values and beliefs and are responsible for certain behaviors.

Overwhelming feelings and reactions, as well as out of control behaviors are the result of ‘Conflicting Parts’.

You also heard an introduction to dealing with incongruence.

Sometimes you may have an internal conflict or incongruence about some aspect of yourself and feel as it you are of "two minds" on the issue.

It is important to realize that when a person is experiencing incongruence, there sometimes are feelings of some kind of pain.

When pain is felt while a person communicates there are characteristic patterns of behavior that emerge.

The acronym BAWL represents four of these patterns:

1. Blaming

2. Avoiding

3. Whining

4. Labeling

EXERCISE:

Resolving Internal Conflict (The Visual Squash Technique)

1. Make an image of the two conflicting ideas/parts and place one in each hand. Create a mental image for each. Feel the weight of each image in each hand.

2. What is the positive intention of each element of the conflict? What are they doing for you e.g making you feel relaxed/productive, earning more money/enjoying time with friends? Create an image for each of the positive intentions and replace the existing images in your hands with these images. Again feel the weight or lightness of these images in your hands.

3. Now create a third image, which combines the good intention of the other two images and imagine it hovering above your two hands.

4. Now let your two hands join together and merge (squash) the two images in your hands into this third image.

5. When you feel ready to make a change, bring your two hands towards your chest and absorb the third image into your body. Let that useful change occur in exactly the right way for you.

6.When you’ve fully noticed that change, come back to full consciousness, ready to enjoy the rest of your day.

More Information:

SATIR CATEGORIES

The great family therapist Virginia Satir identified five communication categories (or stances), 4 of which people adopt under stress and 1 to help resolve conflict. Each of these "Satir Categories" are characterized by a particular body posture, set of gestures, accompanying body sensations, and syntax.

1. Blamer

Blamer behavior finds fault — never accepting responsibility themselves, always blaming someone or something else. The Blamer hides a feeling of alienation and loneliness behind a tough and complacent mask. Blamers are more likely to initiate conflict.

2. Placater (Non-assertive)

Placaters are out to please, non-assertive, never disagreeing, and always seeking approval. They avoid conflict. Their main concern is how other people perceive them.

3. Computer

Computer behavior is very correct and proper but displaying no emotion, masking a feeling of vulnerability. They often appear cold or unfeeling. A computer can be a firework of emotions inside while appearing very calm and super-rational on the outside. They often say things that are value judgments without indicating who could have made the judgment, which implies that everyone would agree.

4. Distractor

Distractors seek attention to compensate for their feelings of loneliness or inadequacy. Rather than positive action, Distractors use a range of emotions from anger to guilt to either avoid an issue or manipulate how others feel.

Distractors use a range of behavior from Blamer, Computer and Distractor.

5. Leveler (Assertive)

Levelers have emotional balance and can relate to all kinds of people. They are assertive. The goal of leveling is mutual problem solving.

Levelers have few threats to their self-esteem.

Words, voice tone, body movements and facial expressions all give the same message.

The Leveler communication category of behavior can be used resolve conflict and bring people together. The distinction of the leveler is that the leveler has real-time, congruent responses. All the other responses are the result of negative internal feelings causing words and actions to be incongruent.

Attributes of a Leveler

The Leveler response is the most effective behavior for solving problems creatively. Their body posture communicates the idea that they are being to true to what they think.

They come across as ‘on the level’, centered and factual.

Molden and Hutchinson characterize Levelers with the following attributes

1. look for solutions.

2. have a conscious positive intention behind everything they do.

3. hold strong positive beliefs about themselves and others.

4. operate from strong personal values.

5. store positive mind images.

6. have flexibility of behavior when communicating with others.

7. establish rapport before trying to influence.

You can use NLP to learn leveler behavior and acquire leveler attributes.

Incongruent Behavior

Virginia Satir used the communication categories to help individual family members become aware of their incongruent behavior.

Incongruent behavior is when your mind thinks one thing, but your body does another (e.g. such as faking a smile.)

While you might try and mask your problems, your body gives signals to other people.

People intuitively sense something is incongruent and this creates conflict.

In this lesson, we learned "Values" are what we are willing to invest time, energy, capital and resources to achieve or avoid.

Wyatt Woodsmall walks you through a transformational exercise to help you get clear on values and the role they play in our lives.

In this lesson, we learned how we are motivated and how to recognize it in ourselves and with others.

We learned about motives, which are different than needs and values, and specifically, we learned the 6 types of motives.

We encourage you to challenge yourself to do the exercises here in the downloads section.

Exercise 1: Motivate Yourself With Words

Exercise 2: The Godiva Chocolate Pattern to Create Motivation

Exercise 3: What's Your Motivation Strategy

Note: I've also attached here a "submodalities list" to aid you in the exercises.

In this lesson, we learned that Beliefs can be positive and empowering, or limiting and disempowering.

There are 2 exercises and it's important to do them in order.

Exercise 1 you'll list out your limiting beliefs and your desired enabling belief.

Exercise 2 you'll explore how to change your beliefs by choosing one of your limiting beliefs. You'll want to also use the accompanying submodality checklist for this exercise. *Note, version 2 of this exercise is now available in the downloads.

In this session, Wyatt Woodsmall walks you through, step-by-step, his "Better Belief Change" exercise (see Day 9 Exercises and Submodality Checklist) and shares exactly how to do it so you can maximize your results. We also open it up for Q & A.

The meta-model is a set of questions designed to specify information, challenge and expand the limits to your model of the world. It responds to the distortions, generalizations, and deletions in your language.

When you gather information, you usually ask questions. There are six questions in English: What? Which? Who? When? Where? And Why?

“Why?” is the only one that doesn’t ask for specific detail. The answer to “Why?” is usually “Because…” and a historical or theoretical explanation. You may get specific detail in response to “Why?” but that will only be a lucky accident.

This is why the question “Why?” does not appear in the Meta Model. These information-gathering questions are often called “challenges”; if you don’t like that word, use another one that you like better.

In the handout, we have included several information-gathering questions as an example so you can challenge your (and other people's) meta-model violations.

In this lesson, Wyatt Woodsmall shares his expert insight on Timelines. This is an experiential lesson.

A Timeline is a visual, linear experience of how someone codes and stores time. In NLP timeline is a term used to describe the way we internally represent time.

We internally represent the past, present and future differently. Our ability to determine whether an event has happened in the past, is happening in the present, or is a future projection comes by matching the experience to our unique timeline.

In today's lesson, Wyatt Woodsmall continues his lesson on Timelines and Time Codes. He shares his insights on the kinesthetic timeline, changing the direction and submodalities of the timeline, and more.

In this lesson, Wyatt Woodsmall continues the lesson on Timelines guides you on a journey for "changing personal history" that can only be explained through experiencing it.

Q&A Session with Wyatt Woodsmall.

In this lesson, Wyatt shares the popular NLP technique of anchoring, and more importantly, how to create a resource anchor in yourself so you can manage your state at will.

The Disney Strategy was originally devised by Robert Dilts. They modeled the method used by Walt Disney to turn his ideas into reality, especially in the form of his animated films. In this video, Wyatt Woodsmall simplifies the process so you can easily apply it in your every day life and in your business.

In this lesson, Wyatt Woodsmall gives an introduction to "Strategies" and in particular, Decision Making Strategies and how to make better decisions.

A “strategy” is a sequence of representational accesses that a person goes through in order to achieve a certain outcome. The key parts of a strategy are the representational systems accessed and the outcome achieved by accessing those representational systems in that order.

How well do you respond to criticism? Sometimes, you may actually need the criticism and it can help you improve, and sometimes, the criticism is unwarranted and it’s more about them than you.

Being able to take control of a situation where you're on the receiving end of criticism and feedback, can be life-changing and life-enhancing when you apply the techniques shared in this lesson.

In this lesson, Wyatt guides you on a journey into your future and assists you in creating the new you as you go forward taking your newly learned skills into the future.