Being a mom is h.a.r.d. And that's an understatement. I’ve spent 26 years trying to figure out how to parent three kids. I’ve made terrible mistakes, I’ve lost my sh%$&t, I’ve brewed a stomach ulcer twice out of fear and worry, I’ve battled mental illness in the midst of mothering, I’ve suffered the consequences of unruly mom guilt, and I’ve been an expert at beating myself up internally… among other not so great things. But one thing I've come to trust through all the mess is that I was doing my absolute best with what I knew.
Mommas, doing our best is ENOUGH. As the late and wise Maya Angelou said, “We do the best we can until we know better, and then when we know better, we do better.” THIS is the hope we cling to as we find our way.
And this hope is what spurred me on to grow as a mom. To face my fears, overcome my insecurities, build confidence, say NO to mom guilt, make amends with my kids for less than moments, and nurture deep connection with them. This hope is what gave me the courage to see motherhood from a new perspective, see my kids and our family circumstances differently—all of which began with seeing myself with a fresh pair of lenses.
I want you to cling to the same hope and experience similar transformation if you are struggling as a mom. We deal with big emotions in our motherly role—emotions that are hard to manage sometimes. But since we all feel them because the emotions of motherhood are universal even if our circumstances are unique, we can encourage one another forward.
This course is full of the practices, mindset shifts, and tools I use that help me love myself better, build confidence, worry less, stop feeling guilty, build connection with my kids, and more. I want all these things for YOU!
None of us enjoy second-guessing all of our mothering decisions or feeling stress from fear and worry--especially during these challenging times with COVID-19. We definitely don't function well when we allow mom guilt or the sense that we are not enough to weigh us down. But if we love ourselves the way we love our kids—offering ourselves the grace to learn and evolve right alongside them, then the entire experience of motherhood can be a beautiful and more peaceful journey even amidst the tough stuff we deal with.
If you are a mom who
Feels overwhelmed, wrestles with mom guilt, or believes you are not enough
Second-guesses decisions and feels like you are alone on an island some days
Pretends to have it all together despite feeling lost, confused, and desperate for help
Longs for better communication and a deeper connection with your kids
Has a hard time letting go and worries about your kid's future
then this course is for you. These practices are meant to help you manage the universal struggles of motherhood and feel healthier mentally and emotionally in the process.
Videos with authentic personal stories and insight about 10 mindful mothering practices
25 downloadable resources & 16 links to outside resources
Printable self-reflection worksheets for you to dive deep into your motherhood journey
Book recommendations and other resources to help broaden your mindfulness practices
Bonus session with access to 3 FREE chapters of How Are You Feeling, Momma? (You don't need to say, "I'm fine.")
What will you learn?
How to change the way you look at things so the things you look at change:
Mindful Self-Care cultivates a healthy mind and heart and deep self-love to manage the big emotions around motherhood
Mindful Self-Compassion reminds you that being perfectly imperfect is enough
Mindful Letting Go provides freedom from fear, worry, and the need to control
Mindful Vulnerability brings peace and encouragement from knowing you aren't alone in how you feel
Mindful Presence bends time in your favor, which reduces anxiety and overwhelm
Mindful Allowing provides relief from trying to carry the weight of your kid's world
Mindful Observing gives you a head start on what to expect with your kids down the road
Mindful Connection creates an environment where your kids feel safe opening up to you
Mindful Non-reaction reduces stress and frustration, making room for more joy
Mindful Mission ensures a wholehearted motherhood experience
How is the course structured?
Each session includes a 10 min video with real and raw personal stories about how changing our perspective and implementing mindful practices helps us have a healthier mom life. The self-reflection worksheets in each session build on what is shared in the video and help guide you through areas you are looking to transform in your mothering journey.
The sessions also include book recommendations and links to outside resources that will enrich and expand your experience with the mindful practices.
How will you benefit?
This course is designed to help you find healing in mind, body, and spirit, build confidence, and lessen mom guilt. The lessons encourage you to be intentional about self-care, be okay with letting go of what you can't control, build trust and connection with your kids, and have an overall healthy and enjoyable experience raising your children. The course is set up for you to do at your own pace. There is great value in taking the time to sit with the reflection questions and process your emotions along the way.
Shelby Spear is an empty nest mom of three kids in their 20s. She is an author, blogger, speaker, and freelance writer sharing stories about motherhood all over the web and in print at Guidepost magazine. You can find her articles at places like Her View From Home, For Every Mom, Scary Mommy, Parenting Teens & Tweens, Love What Matters, Today, Blunt Moms, and others. Her recent book, co-written with Lisa Leshaw, is called, How Are You Feeling, Momma? (You don't need to say, "I'm fine.")
What People Are Saying
"Shelby Spear is a wise and deeply compassionate mother with well-worn experience, and she has created an INCREDIBLE resource to help moms through their parenting journey, no matter what age our kids are or what season we are in. Her course will guide you through important steps full of valuable insights and practical advice on parenting and our mental well-being. Shelby has a way of reaching deep into every mom's heart and revealing all the challenges and struggles we face while raising our kids. She is real, she is vulnerable, and everything she shares in each "Practice" helped me grow into a more mindful mom, a healthier person, and a wiser woman, too. We all need encouragement and support because motherhood is HARD. This resource she created is a gift every mother needs to have, now more than ever. I've learned so much from her and I know you will too." - Christine Carter themomcafe(dot)com