In this opening lecture, you will discover a plan to gain and understand the facts of the affair (who, what, when, and why) as well as how to obtain key information that will shed light on the how the affair developed in the first place. But more importantly, you will come to understand that the journey before you is indeed manageable, and that reason can prevail over your situation. Even though you may feel a sense of disorientation at the moment, by the end of this lecture you will have a new sense of hope and ability to control the situation.

An introduction to the Let's Talk course supplements that the student will use for each lecture.

A step-by-step guide on how to locate, download and print the Let's Talk course supplements.

An early goal in recovery is rebuilding trust, and this will require much time. To achieve that goal, this lecture lays out a plan so that all secrets can be removed and full disclosure (past, present, and future) is acquired.

Since the affair was driven in part by an “I deserve” mentality, a strategy is provided for what is truly required for restoration as well as developing a genuine focus on empathy and contrition that can be implemented immediately.

In the recent aftermath of an affair’s discovery there is a high probability that the third party will be on the scene in some capacity. This lecture equips an individual or couple with appropriate methods of cessation insuring that communication or contact with the third-party is successfully terminated in such a way as to bring closure to that association.

Because trust and loyalty are central to marital success, feelings of loss, agony, rage, numbness, and confusion can run rampant, hindering any hope of effectively dealing with the crisis. This lecture guides the offended and offender in such as way as to make room for such emotions while promoting an environment that keeps negative feelings from becoming overwhelming and thereby sabotaging the ability to successfully progress through the affair.

When a partner has been caught cheating, it can be tempting to put that person figuratively inside a fortified wall with a giant padlock on the gate. Yet, such an effort can never lead to confidence since healthy relationships are not built upon coercion, but upon freedom. In this lecture, you will discover a strategies that promote core values over mandatory regulations in such a way that nurture genuine recovery.

The partner having the affair was looking outwardly for affirmation, implying inner neediness. The partner who was cheated on has reason to question if he or she is labeled as undesirable. In either case, this lecture provides a framework for working through the nature and focus of self-esteem which is essential to moving forward with healing as well as including an effectual back-to-the-basics exploration of deep personal values.

An affair almost always reveals conflicts and tensions that have not been successfully addressed. Certainly when the affair is out in the open, anger (indeed, rage and bitterness) can take center stage. This lecture provides the individual parties with the infrastructure to honestly display a healthy versus unhealthy anger that is quite beneficial, as well as addressing their needs constructively and respectfully.

Affairs inevitably have a component of egotism. The offending partner usually possesses such a self focus that it overrules common sense, while the offended partner may struggle with a demanding attitude driven by the thought, “now you owe me.” This lecture provides solutions that allow each person to respond to the depth of their hurt with a sound and reasonable mindset as opposed to one of self-centeredness.