Managing Fear Of Failure, and Rejection Mindfully

Maybe your recent failure is holding you back. and making you feel nervous like you're going to repeat the same mistake again?

Quite often we focus on the negative and what we've done wrong. Perhaps maybe you felt you didn't prepare well enough so that's why it went terribly wrong.

After any event that's negative, we fixate on it and are often reactive to ourselves repeating the same scenario over and over because of our negativity bias, we are hard to think this way.

In this lesson, you'll discover how investigating your emotions can be helpful.

Just below the video, there's a visual meditation practice where we bring this all together to help support you before that audition or interview comes up.

In the lesson, you'll learn about what self-soothing is and how you can apply it to your own life by offering care nurture and encouragement when you need it, it's another way to rediscover the courageous friend you never thought you had.

We all need self-soothing after a difficult event that makes us feel out of control, rejection from that audition we went to, and rejection emails from that agent or perhaps an interview we may felt we didn't sell ourselves so the thought behind it might be, I'm just not good enough and these are some prime examples when it can be hard to deal with it.

Self-soothing is emotional regulation used to regain support after a difficult event that evokes an emotional reaction that provides stability when we need it.

Just below the video, you can download self-soothing practice which is a self-compassion practice that uses gestures to self-soothe to offer care and nurture to the body

In life, we strive for perfection to get every little right, The inner perfectionist tells us we are not good enough, and makes us compare ourselves to other people impacting our self-esteem and confidence in what we do because it's never good enough.

It makes you work really hard so you burn yourself out and constantly have to prove your worth to other people. It tells that if you take time out you're being lazy and not committed and the mistakes you end up castristiphising make them so much worse than they actually are. If people see your mistakes they will reject you.

Discover ways to let go of perfectionism and turn towards difficulties with kindness and compassion.

Just below the video, there's a meditation practice which can help effectively overcome perfectionism

This next exercise helps you determine the things you have control over as opposed to what you do not, in this exercise I’d like to column on one side write Unavoidable and the next avoidable

In the unavoidable column write down things in life you have no control over such as relationship breakup, job loss, illness, natural disasters etc

On the other column write down avoidable – your natural reaction to the opposite for example
For example, going through a relationship breakup might make us unhappy, lonely, depressed

Now ask yourself, what other way could I look at this, how do I want to feel?

This is a worksheet Unavoidable and avoidable you can download

Have you ever been judged by your friends and family? Maybe on the choice of career? It could have been that you wanted approval because they are close family members, if you didn't get it made you might have judged yourself or felt anxious about pursuing the idea.

It's natural to want to be accepted by your loved ones and those you're close to, but sometimes friends and family may say or do things that make us feel judged. When we are starting a new journey, it can be scary enough, but with friends a family we usually search for approval.

When we are living life as an actor it feels very exciting and rewarding perhaps to contribute to society once the building.

Perhaps your family want you to have a stable job something secure and there might be worries and fears around that judgement approval. It's also important to remember people have their own perspectives and may not always agree with our choices.

Just below the video, you'll be able to download the judgement friends and family meditation to help separate yourself from judgement, asking this question, is being judged or the feeling it gives me?

Can you think about a time you were held back by negative thinking? Maybe judgement the way you're doing something, criticising yourself for not doing it right? Maybe after performing and judging yourself.

just below the video, there is naming and labelling thoughts practice it will help you connect to the breath and use observation to understand responses and give yourself support when you need it.

Well done for completing this week!

Keep an eye out for other courses coming soon.

Natasha