Life affirming self-care for busy mothers

Often we think of self-care as certain activities we may engage in, but self-care is much more than that - self-care is also your thoughts, beliefs and how you treat yourself on a daily basis.

Time for you to explore and identify what self-care really is for you.

In this lecture we look at why your self-care is important for your whole family and what the consequences of no self-care can be.

Time to put your thinking cap on and be honest about the potential consequences of you not taking care of yourself, for you and the people you care about.

Recapping this sections lectures and looking at what comes up next.

We form many of our beliefs in early childhood and take on beliefs from significant adults around us. In this lecture we dive deep into understanding how this works and how the beliefs we have can limit us in life.

What you believe about self-care may be what is holding you back from doing self-care. In this lecture we will look at this closer and pick it apart a bit.

In this lecture we look at how the beliefs we have about what a good woman and mum is like shape our own romantic relationships.  Sometimes we are partly responsible for creating situations that we really didn't want to have in our lives - because our coding (beliefs).

Those of us who are single mothers know the kinds of beliefs we can start buying into. Time to look at if these beliefs are true or not. And absolutely letting go of the ones that are not serving us anymore.

Time to explore and understand your own situation and your own beliefs about self-care with this activity.

In this activity you are encouraged to begin being aware of your thought loops that keep you from allow yourself to spend time on self-care-

It is time to be aware of from whom you have inherited your thoughts and beliefs.

In this activity you will check in if the beliefs you hold are actually 100% true - for you and everyone around you.

Tiina guides you gently through the admission that some of your hard core beliefs may have been lies that you have bought into. Allowing yourself to accept that something may have been a lie is a big step towards creating new empowering beliefs.

Rounding up this section and looking at what comes up next.

Introducing this important section about knowing your self-worth and how to let go of guilt.

In this lecture we will explore guilt and how that guilt can come about and how it affects us, and others.

Diving deep into the guilt that you might be hanging on to and why.

Incredibly enough most fathers don't feel guilty about taking time out for themselves. How can we as mothers use their attitude towards self-care? That is what this lecture is about.

This activity encourages you to embody someone else for a few moment and empower yourself by thinking like them. What would become possible then?

Be motivated by the consequences you identified in the section about what self-care is. Take your limiting beliefs from the previous sections activity and, in this activity, begin creating empowering beliefs.

Recap of this section and a quick look at what is coming up next.

An introduction to this section and what the focus will be - both in terms of reclaiming time and understanding why letting go of perfectionism is only a good thing.

How come that even if we all have 24 hours a day some of us are struggling with fitting everything in, not to mention self-care and others seem to leisurely take things as they come?  That is what we are exploring more closely in this lecture.

Tiina shares with you how she let something go and in that process created more time for her self.

In this activity it is high time for you to identify what you do actually do with your time.

And now it is time to open up the possibility of creating more time for yourself.

In this lecture we will begin truly understanding the shadow side of perfectionism.

Tiina shares how this course would never have come about if she didn't let go of perfectionism.

In this lecture we will look at and get a grip of how perfectionism is linked to shame.

In this activity you are encouraged to pick something that you can let go of, so that you can create more time for yourself.

In this activity you will look at your inner perfectionist and what she might be afraid of.

Recapping this section and looking at what is coming up next.

In this lecture we will look closely at what healthy boundaries are and how weak or rigid boundaries can have a detrimental effect on our relationships and well-being.

Boundaries are simply what is OK and what is not OK for you. This activity encourages you to identify this for yourself.

Communicating your boundaries and making simple requests are a vital part of creating healthy boundaries. This activity helps you to focus on that.

Tiina shares a boundary top tip with you.

In this lecture Tiina explains the vital importance of sticking to your word when creating healthy boundaries and also shares that not everyone will like it when you begin honouring our own word and boundaries.

Introducing you to the Drama Triangle and the different stage within that Triangle.

In this lecture we look a bit closer on The Victim State and how that this state is a very limiting state to be in. And yes - we all visit this state from time to time.

Tiina shares a wonderful resource with you about how to get out of the Drama Triangle. It has the potential to change your life.

In this activity you will being putting everything you have learned together. All with the intention of increasing your self-care and therewith your well-being and joie de vivre.

Rounding up this section and looking at what is coming up next.

In this lecture you will get an introduction to the Inner Ease Technique and learn about one of the ways your immune system is suppressed.

In this activity you will learn how to do the Inner Ease Technique.

A few more words about practicing this amazing technique that can boost you well-being and immune system.

In this video we explore why it is so difficult for so many of us to ask for help and support.

In this activity you will begin to look at who you know who could potentially help and support you so that you can take some time out for self-care.

In this activity you will match up the people you know with things they can help you with.

Remember that one self-care activity you picked in section 6 and worked on how to make it happen? You will finish that activity now.

A recap of this section on well-being and stress and writing down your last light bulb moment.

We have come to the end of this course - but not of your journey. Have a look at the learning intentions you wrote down at the beginning of this course and also, remember, it is in the Doing that things really begin changing.

Well done on finishing this course!

A last word of encouragement from Tiina for making your self-care happen. Schedule it in. Every week.

Lovely,

I want to leave you with a bonus healing relaxation that will not only help you relax fully but also allow your subconscious mind to adapt to new empowering beliefs about your self-care, self-worth and healthy boundaries.

Listen to this for the duration of the course, and beyond. It can be one of your self-care activities. You can listen to it in the morning first thing before getting up from bed, in the middle of the day when relaxing on the sofa or just before going to bed at night. Just make sure that you do not listen to it while driving or when out and about.

For more inspiration to live your unique life with joy, well-being, compassion, excitement and inner peace do listen to the Your own kind of wonderful podcast. In this podcast I interview inspiring women about their expertise, experience and wisdom all with the aim of helping you find ways in which to enhance your life experience:

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With love,

Tiina