Lessons in Getting the Spark Back in Your Relationship
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Lessons in Getting the Spark Back in Your Relationship

Fivever Love Part 3
4.3 (13 ratings)
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Last updated 5/2019
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This course includes
  • 1 hour on-demand video
  • 12 downloadable resources
  • Full lifetime access
  • Access on mobile and TV
  • Certificate of Completion
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What you'll learn
  • Learn about the Ripple Effect and how small actions can turn into powerful love tsunamis
  • Learn how to apply what you’ve learned about yourself in the previous modules in how to meet your partners needs with sniper-like accuracy
  • Spend some time discovering more about your partner and appreciating them and their experiences.
  • Find out the secret of fivever love in doing what we call “Cuddle Huddles” – a simple and sustainable process to keep the love alive
  • The psychology behind why we don’t try new things and discover another enemy to your happiness called Process Inflation
  • The untold benefits of surprise on your relationship happiness that will unlock your joy
  • A simple process called Love Recall that will keep the negative memories from taking over
  • Solid ways to end those dinner table Cricket Convos for good
  • Where to start with a good date night as well as find out together some things that will add some variety that you’d enjoy doing
  • Root out some of those mindsets that have become ingrained in us about sex as you gain a foundation for what your bedroom life should look like
  • Find out how our culture has created what we call the Intimacy Illusion in our relationship, and how to stop it
  • Take turns learning about how you each like to get down to business with a conversation format that will open you up to greater passion
  • Then… well… apply what you’ve learned! We’ll give a way to do this in a way that isn’t pushy and will foster trust and openness. Maybe not the sexiest words, but they’re the underpinnings of a great sex life.
  • To be ready and willing to spend more time applying action steps than gathering information
  • To have successfully completed Part 1 of Fivever Love (Mastering the Foundations of Love that Lasts)
  • To have successfully completed Part 2 of Fivever Love (The Secrets That Create Better Communication Together)


In case you missed it in the video-

· It's important to know that we separated this course out to make it more accessible! From our life coaching company we know one of the primary reasons people don't seek help/counseling is because of cost. Don't let that hold you back! Just know that this is part 4 of 4.

· This course is more about applying action steps than gathering information. If you're the type of person that just wants to sit back and watch information and hope to get shot with inspiration, unfortunately this course isn't for you! Making progress in anything, not just your relationship, takes action. So be ready to apply!

· If you want to skip around to later parts, you're going to get confused. We reference a lot of previous material as the course continues on from part 1. Set yourself up for success! If you skip parts (like to this one) you're going to get confused and you're going to have a bad time... You've been warned!


Let’s take you through the life of someone who was never shown the ropes on how to have an amazing relationship...

Imagine waking up one day laying next to your partner, looking over at them with that sinking feeling in your gut. Wondering, do you even love them anymore? Do they feel the same? You stare off at the ceiling. Couldn’t they do better? Couldn’t YOU do better? Your partners alarm goes off and they lean over to give you a kiss on the cheek. You notice it just doesn’t feel like it used to. You both get ready, minding your own business, nothing to talk about and head off to work. That person from the other department has been flirting with you and it’s nice to at least feel wanted somewhere. You think to yourself, maybe it wouldn’t be too bad to grab lunch?

You get home, check your bank account and notice a pretty sizable chunk was taken out of your account. “I guess we’re pushing back that vacation another month” You think to yourself, not even sure if you’ll have enough for rent. You know if you bring it up it’ll just end up how it always does, going nowhere. You have dinner separately, share a few words. Maybe have boring passionless sex to try and convince yourselves the relationship is okay. You fall asleep thinking about leaving but realize that would just be way too much trouble. So you stay. And you repeat this day after day. I hope you don’t think this is too far off from reality, because this was my wife and I!

Now imagine with me the you that has finished all 4 parts of this course...

Waking up to a sleepy morning voice saying, “you ready for cuddles?” with a smile on your face. You get up and tease your partner about how they’re always running late. You never leave the house without saying I love you and giving each other a kiss goodbye. That person from the other department starts flirting with you but it doesn’t even phase you because you live in a place feeling so secure and wanted by the person you’re with.

You work your budgets together and decide how to spend money based on your goals. You talk about your day and head to the bedroom for that new move you’ve both been wanting to try. You lay your head down, give your partner a kiss. You stare at the ceiling happy because you’ve done it. You’ve made your relationship your greatest source of pride and joy.


Welcome to Lessons in Getting the Spark Back in Your Relationship. Part 3 of 4 that makes up the comprehensive video course that will map out exactly what it takes to make your love not only last, but be full of love and passion. It is the only relationship course designed to take your relationship to the next level by only leveraging what’s in your control, YOU and your actions. The only relationship course you can take on, to be frank, whether your partner wants to start the journey with you or not...

Part 3 includes-

  • 14 videos and 30 worksheets to guide you along your journey all packaged within an hour of content.

  • You’ll receive a printable progress journal as a fun way to document your journey.

  • You'll also gain access to bonus content addressing specifically-

    • How to have more sex even when you're really busy

With everything included in ALL 4 parts of this course, it's valued at 1000 dollars. With everything included in ALL 4 parts of this course, it's valued at 1000 dollars. The truth is the only people that put prices on your relationship are divorce lawyers. And they’re expensive.

Imagine a life where you and your partner can’t wait to pick up the phone when you call each other. Where you are completely aligned in the direction you want the relationship to go. You have goals you’re working to accomplish together, you have trust in each other. There’s a joy and peace that lives in the home and you two become untouchable! You two are one unit. The poster couple of #relationshipgoals. You don’t have to be another breakup or divorce statistic. You can choose to rise above that starting today.


For a limited time we’re going to basically give away this course on Udemy. You’ll receive all 4 parts of Fivever Love: The Simple Roadmap to Love that Lasts. It’s 67 videos, over 100 worksheets, over 5 hours of content, tons of helpful downloadables, bonus content to cater to every situation, for $99 dollars each. In total that's less than a month of my time (Lino) as a certified coach OR any counselor or therapist. We know that, especially if you’re having relationship challenges, finances can be a struggle. We simply wanted to break up the content in 4 parts to help lessen the up front financial burden on our students. Now this also means you have to take these courses in the right order! You’ve been warned.

When we did a soft launch on Udemy it was a smash hit, receiving over 6,000 enrollments in over 104 countries within 3 weeks. Now we’ve taken your feedback, made necessary tweaks and are releasing it to Udemy the final time.

Enroll today because the truth is, we don’t know if we’ll host our course on Udemy forever. The beauty of it is that regardless of whether we host it here or not, if you enroll today you’ll have it and all of it’s updates forever.

As if that wasn’t good enough, After successfully exceeding Udemy’s content and quality standards, Udemy puts a 30-day 100% satisfaction guarantee on their courses. Just remember to follow their rules... Just a fair warning, if you’re not willing to put in work, don’t waste your time and money.

If you’re ready to start making your relationship your greatest source of happiness, enroll now and became officially part of the Fivever Fam!

>>> BONUS -- Our Story!

For the past 3 years we’ve been fascinated with what makes relationships stand the test of time where some it’s like they failed before they even got started. We bought every book, every course, went to every seminar on relationships and learned from the best of the best in the industry.

At that time we began doing group coaching sessions at the State University and Lino was even asked to speak for a battalion of the Army’s future officers. People were constantly pushing us to coach professionally and so… we started a life coaching company, Awaken Life Designs! Lino become certified through a BCC accredited life coaching program and started taking clients. From there relationship coaching naturally became what he was best at.

Relationships… they suck... we're just going to say it like it is. Despite all of the complexities of relationships, there are many challenges that can be fixed with common action steps. FINDING those common action steps was quite the journey. The journey that we hope to save you from. Through the journey of relationship self discovery we found ourselves basically waging war with advice that didn’t help us. If you can imagine testing things for 1-2 sometimes 3 months before realizing it either wasn’t sustainable or it didn’t quite work as marketed! Multiply that times dozens and dozens of SEEMINGLY great action steps

We were in your shoes at one point in time. Looking at our relationship from the inside out wondering if we could really make things work. Constantly getting into fights, taking advice from friends and family that was so painfully out of context it pushed us further and further from each other.

Not to mention turned our friend groups on the person that was the focus of those conversations... If you know what I mean. There was hardly anything remarkable about our relationship. Lino buried himself in his work, and spent almost no time at home.

"In fights I would always say I’m doing it for you. I’m doing it for the family. Which was a lie. I was just doing it for me. It’s what fulfilled me. To top it off we had sex but it left us feeling more numb than anything else. It was just sex. Not love making by any sense of the word."

"To me the relationship was just a burden, something that was getting in the way of achieving and accomplishing my goals. But the irony was that there was something inside me deeply ingrained in the core of who I was that knew I’d never be TRULY fulfilled unless I was able to share my life with someone. I knew I could win over here at school and my future profession, but I had no idea where to even start in my relationship."

The truth was we both didn’t have anywhere to go to for advice that we knew would help, our parents taught us how to be a good people, but not how to have a thriving relationship that lasts. When there’s so much pain and you don’t know what to do, you have 3 choices. 1) what most people do-what WE did- is do nothing and hope it just goes away (thumbs down) 2) Leave or 3) Take steps to learn and change your approach until you win. We chose 1 for a long time.

Eventually we reached a breaking point.

"I had been planning my escape, frustrated with myself that I didn’t think I could make her happy, which ultimately is all I ever wanted. I felt hopeless like I had tried everything. The truth was, that I had tried everything EXCEPT for what worked. This was the make it or break it moment. We were either going to make things work… or not. We were either going to switch from the 1 mindset to the 3 mindset."

The good news? We did. What we did next set the foundations for a love that lasts. It was messy, but the important thing is that we started. First we took a journey in learning what Love Languages were all about. We discovered the psychology around the honeymoon phase and why it never lasts… for anyone. Not a single couple. We discovered the missing piece to relationship fulfillment with a psychological principle called the 6 Human Needs. No stone was unturned from discovering sustainable weekly check-ins, best sex practices, to how to work your finances to increase trust. What we realized was that relationships are so difficult because successful ones require an understanding of how to work together correctly in every single area of life.

We also quickly realized that the key to your relationship fulfillment is in sustainability. You see, we tried many things that were do-able up front when the excitement of “new strategy” syndrome was in full effect on us. But when the excitement was over and we were into month 2 on the application we often realized we couldn’t see ourselves continuing with that level of activity for the rest of our lives.

It forced us to break things down to the simplest steps that would provide the greatest impact in our relationship. When you think about relationships encompassing so many different areas in life, you have to understand that each area often takes very specific action steps to improve. By itself an action step might be completely sustainable, but when coupled with every single other thing that makes up healthy relationships… well prepare for frustration and no time for ANYTHING.

Lino- "Along the way I remember this intense joy that would happen more and more as we kept applying what we were learning. I remember the first time it happened. There was nothing really unique about the situation. I just became overwhelmed by such a feeling of love for her. Like nothing I had ever felt before. It was like all that mattered was her."

"Fast forward to today I’ve realized something. I always thought that our relationship would get better when our financial situation got better or when some crazy situation was handled. The reality is I just found that problems became more expensive or the next crazy situation happened. Through all that trial and error we’ve reached a point where no matter the financial situation, no matter what’s happening in our lives, we know that we have each other and that we are there for each other. It’s a level of trust that my wife’s not going to run off with the milk man or me with the secretary at work. It’s a respect for each other and an understanding of each other that we couldn’t imagine having with anyone else. We just love each other so much. It’s those things that have made us stronger than we ever were before.

This journey really triggered us whenever we heard about relationship pain. “We figured that out with X technique or we stopped thinking about that after we implemented X tactic” we always told ourselves. It became frustrating because we knew we could be helping others on a larger scale in a way that was much more accessible than even coaching. If only people knew how small of a shift it was to have a relationship be a source of such joy. They needed what we were looking for FOR YEARS. Someone to show them the ropes, someone to tell them what to do.

We took our journey from the first step until now and turned it into a very thought out series of sequential steps. From ground zero, -your relationship being on the rocks- to the foundations of fivever love. We wanted to develop a way for someone to sidestep all of the bad advice and unsustainable practices that even though was marketed as help, ironically did anything but that for us. Our mindset was, how easy would going to the gym be if whenever you showed up, someone who had gone the path you were trying to go towards was there telling you exactly how to get there?

That’s what we wanted to do- Create a training plan for people from 0 to amazing relationships. To say forget picking out the books, forget the dozens of seminars, forget figuring out meetups, forget the random relationship influencers, let me show you how to get what you want in a way that is sustainable and entertaining.

At the end of it all we're here for you every step of the way! Whatever you do, seek help with your relationship. Most splits are avoidable, it just takes certain techniques and action steps! Seek a coach, a counselor, a therapist, anything! They're not as scary as you think (and will be well worth the $$).

Your friends,

Lino and Stephanie Madrid

Who this course is for:
  • Students in a committed relationship who are looking to take it to the next level
  • Students in a committed relationship not sure how to make it better
Course content
Expand all 14 lectures 53:37
+ The Put Your Partner First Playbook
5 lectures 18:18

Welcome to Fivever Love! As you'll see on your journey that this really is the SIMPLE roadmap to love that lasts. That doesn't mean it's ineffective! Fivever love is all about sustainability.

In this video, Stephanie is going to show you some best practices in using this course. Remember that we believe in you!

Attached we have your very own journal "My Fivever Story" to help not only guide you along the key takeaways of Fivever Love, but also as a little momento to show you how far you've come! Keep in mind that your journal encompasses ALL 4 of the courses that make up a Fivever Love. So don't feel like you weren't paying attention. Chances are, you just haven't completed the applicable course yet!

Preview 02:55

In this video, you're going to learn how best to light your partner up! Gone are the days of disappointment after disappointment when you try and do something nice for your partner. You're about to learn how to become a partner happiness sharpshooter!

Preview 03:35

The truth is that when we begin dating our stories are a huge part of what makes relationships so exciting! Your partner has a story or two of their own that has helped make them who they are today. In this video, we're going to be spending time on those experiences, thinking about how they bring something to your relationship that you can't!

Preview 01:48

In this video, we're going to be talking about the role that discipline has to play in filling your partner up on a regular basis. Since the dawn of time, our brains have been programmed for OUR survival first. It's difficult to put others first for a considerable amount of time. What you'll understand by the end is not only why putting your partner first is important, but also the do's and don'ts of filling them up!

Preview 02:53

The key to love that lasts is in constantly checking in with your partner on the state of your relationship. Most people don't have a way to do this that is sustainable and easy enough to do that you'll do it for the long haul! In this video, we're going to introduce you to Cuddle Huddle's. A simple way to approach weekly check-ins that will nearly guarantee success on a regular basis.

The Art of Regular Cuddle Huddles
+ Seminar on Keeping That Spark Alive
5 lectures 16:16

Everyone is afraid of trying new things to SOME degree. When we enter into a relationship afraid to try new things together, you close the door to much of the fun memories. When you do this, it's easy to lose the spark! In this video, we're going to take you through why it's difficult to do new things and give you some tricks and techniques to overcome this fear!

Battling the Fear of Trying New Things

The first step in creating fun memories together is in discovering what gets you excited! In this video, we're going to help you begin to brainstorm exciting ways to create new memories. You're going to need this later in the section!

Intro to Creating Those Fun Times Together

In relationships, it's all too easy to focus on the things our partner does wrong or the things we're unhappy about. This can cause a cloud to form over all of your good memories together. In this video, we're going to show you how to kick that negative cloud to the curb with something called Love Recall! It's all about bringing to light all of the good times together instead of the bad.

Learn the Power of Love Recalls

How many times have you sat at the dinner table with nothing to say to your partner? This quiet clinking of silverware on plates is something we call Cricket Convos. We're going to show you how to bring the spark back in your conversations with something as simple as questions!

The Secret to Defeating the Dinner Crickets

In this video, we're going to focus on the lost art of regular date nights! This is the single biggest contributor to bringing that spark back. We're going to show you how to do date nights in a way that will make you WANT to do them despite your busy lives.

The Difference Maker in Brightening that Spark
+ Lessons in Making Your Sex Life a Masterpiece
4 lectures 19:03

Society and big business have played a big role in how we perceive and think about sex. Even how we HAVE sex! In this lesson, we're going to start with the basics of where our ideas of sex come from and the mindset we need to have instead.

Where Misconceptions About Sex Come From

Today's lesson is all about step 1 in creating more sex; talking about simple turn-ons and turn-offs! By understanding these two forces you become better equipped to drive you both closer to each other. Just remember to download the worksheet with pointers on how to have this conversation correctly!

Regain Your Sex Life with Conversation

In this lesson, you're going to have a conversation about everyone FAVORITE topic to avoid, sex. Remember that, as funny as it sounds, sex with each other is a skill! Everyone is different and everyone changes over time. You're going to learn how to stay on top of these changes with not just regular conversations, but the application of them with something called a True Love Tour.

Taking the True Love Tour Together

One of the biggest excuses couples have for not having more sex is not having the time! We all lead very busy lives, and it can be difficult to make things happen in this area because of that. What we're going to teach you in this exercise is how to have more sex, by planning the OPPORTUNITY to have sex and we'll teach you exactly how to do this the RIGHT way.

BONUS CONTENT: The Busy Couple's Guide to More Sex