Learn To Love Yourself Unconditionally
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Learn To Love Yourself Unconditionally

Self-confidence is the foundation of success in life. You can have it all with the right attitude.
4.3 (14 ratings)
Course Ratings are calculated from individual students’ ratings and a variety of other signals, like age of rating and reliability, to ensure that they reflect course quality fairly and accurately.
53 students enrolled
Last updated 12/2017
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  • Full lifetime access
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  • Certificate of Completion
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What you'll learn
  • You will be equipped with the tool to carry on your own self-development by not depending on therapy or life coaches. You will learn to create a healthy routine and environment as you learn to love and respect yourself more and more.
Requirements
  • You need to have self motivation and about 10 minutes every day. You must be strict with yourself and commit if you want to get results.
Description

This course is designed to teach you how to create a healthy routine and environment to accommodate your personal growth. If you are someone who says regularly any of these the following statements, then this course is for you:

  • I don't like my belly.
  • I'm too old/young to do this.
  • I'm not qualified enough to get that job.
  • I work with a lot of idiots.
  • Why do bad stuff only happen to me?

Basically a lot of people live with limiting beliefs, mostly about themselves. They will come up with excuses why they didn't do something, or blame others for the lack of success, but in reality, they are the only people in their own way. We tend not to believe that we can have it all, limiting ourselves to a mediocre "it's not too bad" life. But what if you could live your dreams without feeling guilty or bad in any way?

Over the course:

  1. You will learn the tested & working formula to accept yourself for who you are
  2. Love the person you are
  3. You will create a need to become better and 
  4. You will replace self-destructive behaviour and thinking with nurturing  and positive thinking
  5. You will become your own life coach

This will allow you to start loving and keep improving yourself. One's development never stops, but the course will help you get started and teach you how to keep self-motivated without help in the future. 

  • Do you have body image issues?
  • Do you need reassurance from others before you make a decision?
  • Are you are afraid of change?
  • Do you talk quietly and try not to bring attention to yourself?
  • Are you someone who can't enjoy the now because you worry about the future or you are preoccupied with the past?
  • Do you let others tell you how you should live your life?
  • Do you doubt yourself often?

Then this course is for you

You will take your life into your own hands and learn to prioritize your own needs without neglecting others. 

By the end of the program you will wake up with a smile and energy, have a plan for the future and a constant need for self-development. 

Why is this program any different to the rest of them?

• Based on extensive life experiences from all around the world from well-known European life coach
• Learn the guaranteed formula to rely on yourself
• No more expensive long-term coaching or therapy
• Overall positive effect on every area of your life
• Pure honesty & only the truth

What this program guarantees:

  • Successful formula that could result in instantly noticeable improvements after a few days
  • Positive changes in every area of your life
  • Time & cost-effectiveness
  • Only the outspoken truth
  • Proven success by many students

Course designed by My Seven Worlds Life Coaching using elements from extensive studies by:

David Steindl-Rast - Gratefulness and gratitude

Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi - Flow and passion

Shawn Achor - Happiness and positive psychology 

Dan Gilbert - Professor of Psychology at Harvard University

Tony Robbins - The current father of positive thinking

“I can’t tell how thankful I am to have found Stephanie. I was very hesitant to follow my dreams of traveling but soon after  I started working with her I had the courage to leave my job and everything behind and got my ticket! I learnt to live in the moment with her, since then I enjoy every moment of my life and I have never felt more alive. She helped me to break out of my own prison and be free. Thank you so much!!!” – Petra, General Manager“I simply love Stephanie’s method! I’m so much more balanced, regardful and positive! I’m happier than I have ever been. Thank you Stephy.”- Miri

Tour operator and founder of Vegan Movement for Diabetics“A day comes in every person’s life when we notice how the grey shadows of the everyday routine starts to take its toll and us and we start forgetting who we are. Before Stephy I didn’t even realize how little I cared about myself. That’s when I started working with her and I started by spending only 5 minutes of quality time with me every day. It only took so little to get the machine started and the shift in me was tremendous. How could I forget to prioritize myself for so long?! Stephy helped me to find myself once again and I became so brave and confident I quit the job I have been meaning to leave for 2 years, ended a relationship that has been dragged along for too many years and now I found true love, finally have time for myself and I got an amazing job. I love my days! This has been the best decision of my life. Thank you Stephy! Thank you so much!” - Silvia, Evaluation Department Group Leader

“She's taken more leaps of faith in the past few years than most people take in their entire lives. She always lands on her feet and has great lessons to share. She's a great example of living life to its fullest.”- Mike Johnson Writer, Entrepreneur, Early Retirement Expert

Who this course is for:
  • low self-esteem, low self-worth, self-doubt, looking for a big change in life, not being sure about career or lifestyle, having unhealthy body image, always blaming others, fear of change
Course content
Expand 44 lectures 01:17:12
+ Introduction
44 lectures 01:17:12

Welcome again to the My Seven Worlds self love course. I'm very happy to see that you are ready to make positive changes in your life. Let me walk you through what you can expect and what's required from you.

1. This course demands full self motivation. If you want to get the most out of the course, you must be prepared to do it every day for the next 4 weeks. We are all busy people with full schedules so I made sure the maximum time per day you spend on this course will not exceed 20 minutes. All through the course I will explain why I ask you to do certain exercises, so don't worry if you don't see the point at first. The puzzle piece will all fall into their places.

2. The time you spend on the course will gradually increase week by week. Why? Because when you start running after not having to exercise for 6 months, you don't start by running half a Marathon. The same rule applies here, if you over do it, you will burn out. So don't try to get results by doing the exercises on the course for way longer than they feel right. 

3. Some of the exercises either will feel uncomfortable or you don't see the point of doing them. Unfortunately with self development you will never see immediate results as the problems I'm tackling with these most of the time are subconscious. For example when you are keep breaking up with your partners for the same reasons, it's because you brought wrong expectations from your childhood, you might had seen the wrong role models, or you are just not ready to see why you attract these people in your life. There could be a million reasons and since we are not working together 1 on 1, you must be trained to be your own life coach and connect the dots. This is why I'm giving away as much as possible from my arsenal, so you can try and see what works for you.

Also, they might be uncomfortable because you must step out of your comfort zone to reach your full potential. Since most of my tools are used behind closed doors, the only person will see you doing them are you. So don't feel strange or embarrassed. 

4. As everyone brings different baggages, has different struggles and backgrounds, this course was designed in a way so you can tailor it to your own needs. This also forces you to self reflect more often and ask difficult questions.

5. Most of my student who come for private coaching have an idea what they want to work on, but they are just scratching the surface. As you can't see yourself from someone else's perspective, it is hard to know what the issue really is. The course helps you to dig deeper if you dedicate your time and energy to it. 

6. Make no mistake, those who claim that after a few weeks you are going to be rich, successful, powerful, confident and amazing in every way, are scrams. In reality change takes time and learning a new habit takes at least 21 days. The course is 28 days long for a reason. Each exercise will kickstart something inside of you. You will practise these all through the 4 weeks until the results (overall feelings about yourself and your surroundings) will become second nature. So you can carry on with the work without difficulties. 

7. Self development is never done. Some of the changes might take years to accomplish (for example forgiving a painful experience of the past), but this is going to be your start.

8. Apart from some written guiding here and there, you will encounter videos mostly, 1-3 minutes long, but you might have to watch them more than once and pause here and there, as in 3 minutes a lot of information can be given.

9. You will have days when something comes up and you can't complete that day on the course. Obviously, we can't predict the future. But if you keep finding reasons or excuses for not having to complete a day, postpone it because you don't feel like it, the course won't be able to deliver what it suppose to. It would be like going running once every 2 weeks, you will never get fit. So unless something serious comes up, I strongly encourage you to make the effort to spend that 5-10 minutes quality time with yourself, because this is the reason why you decided to do the course at the first place. 

Before you go onto Day 1, make sure that you give yourself 15-20 minutes in the morning, as to start off the course I will ask you to do many exercises. Have a pen and paper handy. 

Have a wonderful journey and stay motivated.

Preview 02:02

Get a pen and paper (preferably an exercise book so you can keep all your written work in one place in the future) before you start the video!

Preview 01:24

Some more instructions for your very first list.

Preview 00:56

This exercise is uncomfortable for most people at first, but outside of our comfort zone is where self development starts. After some time it will be second nature and the time will come when you no longer need to practise this. That's when you reached your goals.

The next video is for those who experience a level of stress or anxiety that results in physical pain. If you feel discomfort in your throat, heart or stomach, I suggest you go onto the next video until you are ready to carry on with your exercises. 

Week 1 Day 1
01:17

You will find this video for each week, as this is a breathing exercise for those who experience more stress, anxiety or discomfort during the course especially during the mirror exercises. When you feel the physical stress/pain anchored in your stomach, throat or heart, this will help to ease your pain. Do this exercise until the pain is gone or reduced to a manageable level then carry on with your activities. If the pain comes back, just watch this video again. 

It is not expected from anyone to eliminate the discomfort right away. This is a process. So as long as you manage to keep your stress under control after watching the video a few times, that's good enough to carry on.



All weeks breathing exercise for 'mirror pain'
02:42

Start noticing how this mirror exercise affects you. If it's very bad, you might need to work on this even after I no longer ask you on the course and make it your daily routine. If it's great and you feel you don't need the 2 minutes, I suggest you keep practising because you never know what might come to the surface by not giving up on it just yet.

Tips for confident body posture:

Since people can read your non verbal communication like an open book, you might want to be sure to make the best possible first impression without words. Your posture affects the way you feel. If you hunch your back and cross your arms often, it shows great insecurities and it makes you feel shy and quiet. Like you are hiding from people. If a business professional sees that, she will most probably will hire someone else with a confident appearance. 

So here is how you learn it without having to make an effort: First try it, stand up and pull your shoulders back - don't over exaggerate by pushing your chest out too much. Straighten your back and your chin must be parallel to the ground, looking straight. Not up like you are lying, and not down like someone shy. No crossing the arms.

This is the posture you want to have. Now get some colorful post its or papers and stick one on every door frame you have at home. If it helps, you may write reminders on them. Each time you see these reminders while walking through a door you must take up the posture. To make it second nature you might need 6-8-10 weeks of practise, but after about 2 months you will not need post its to remind you, because every time you'll walk through a door, your body will remember to take the posture up for you. It is like riding a bike, muscle memory. 

Week 1 Day 2
00:43

I encourage you today to start a daily journal if you want to document the changes in your confidence. It could be a great way to see your development in detail.

Preview 01:05

I always used this tool before a job interview or anything intimidating that I could prepare for. Think of a predictable situation where you feel most vulnerable. I suggest you use this technique for a quick confidence boost. This is what I call the "soul antibiotic" which works like the 'medications against viruses'. In general there is no medication for a virus infection. Meds treat our symptoms, but not the illness itself, that's the immune system's job. For example you have the flu, you can take meds for fever and pain, but it won't kill the virus, just decreases your suffering until your body fights it. 

This technique is designed for symptoms, until you gain real self confidence. 

Week 1 Handy Trick Part 1
01:00
Week 1 Handy Trick Part 2
00:44

This is where it gets tricky. The past 3 days were preparations for today. This is where I must tell you that there is only one thing in the world that you have full control and influence over, and that's you. The world perceives us the way we perceive ourselves. There is not one person on this planet who wouldn't change something about themselves, but I believe this where we begin: your acceptance and love.

There are some things in life that we can't change, but we can learn to love them, so we eliminate the problem. By loving it, positively influencing it, we will become more at peace.

For example people who have extra weight on that they really dislike will probably eat emotionally because of shame, discomfort, low self esteem or just eat for comfort. This cycle can be broken and as a result weight loss can occur. 

Here is an inspirational video from Shawn Achor - Happiness and positive psychology expert:

https://www.ted.com/talks/shawn_achor_the_happy_secret_to_better_work#t-721559

Week 1 Day 4
01:01

The uncomfortable gets comfortable by practise, so if you still feel very strange in front of the mirror, you may start spending a bit more time on this exercise. Remember this is your course, you can tailor it to your needs.

I had a student who quit the course after 2 weeks, but then something amazing happened, here is her experience:

“The mirror was brutal. So much so that the first time I looked at myself I started crying. Instead of it helping me, I felt way worse than before. I just couldn’t compliment myself. I hated what I saw. As the days went by I felt worse and worse. And then I arrived at the second week. By the middle of week 2 I gave up and quit the course. It was a shocking experience and I didn’t want to do it again.

Then as the days went by I noticed how I felt better. I thought it was because I quit the course, but then when I walked into a store, I bought myself a sexy red, skinny dress for the first time in 20 years. Even my body posture had changed. I was noticed, I was getting asked out on dates and I suddenly started accepting myself and felt sexy for the first time in years!!!! It was amazing to see how differently I reacted to compliments. I accepted them and enjoyed them, I've earned them!

So I went back to the course, I started it again and successfully completed all 4 weeks. The changes I went through are incredible. As hard as it was at first to face my insecurities, it was all worth it! Thank you so much Stephy. I can't tell you how much I needed you in my life.” - Lizzie, Pharmacist


Week 1 Day 5
00:37

Here is the explanation why all the exercises need to happen in the morning and in the evening. 

Preview 00:51

Today I'm introducing a new trick. This is one of the easiest ways to feel better or rainy days. But as easy as it looks, it is not when you are in a bad mood. If you manage to use this tool when you are irritated or grumpy, you will demonstrate to yourself just how strong your willpower is. Sometimes the smallest things bring the biggest results.

Tomorrow you will need a few more minutes so make sure you wake up a bit earlier to give yourself that extra time without rushing it.


Week 1 Day 6
00:59

Self reward is so underappreciated. I introduced this in the course because I use it to this day and it gets me out of bed every morning. Even when I know I will have a difficult day that I'm not looking forward to. Or I should say, especially on those days. 

Week 1 Day 7
01:50

This week we are going to shift your main focus from the outer look to the inside. They say beauty shines from within for a reason. 

So many of us aren't even aware of just how "lucky" we are, but that's about to change.

Also, if you even felt or said that you will be happy once you...wrong. Having future expectations determine your happiness carry a huge risk of unhappiness. What if you will never get there, or once you do, you realize that it doesn't actually make you as happy as you hoped. 

Living in the now is a game changer. Why wait for the uncertain future if you can be happy today?

Many are stuck in the past, I was happy when...or I can't be happy because of what happened in the past. Some of you might have a very legitimate reason, but whatever happened, happened. The past will always be a part of who you are, but it cannot be present in the present. If your happiness is fragile and it depends on others, possibilities or external sources, then you do not have happiness. 

True happiness is not affected by the external because it comes from within. Happy people have bad days too, but their emotional stability keeps them smiling even after breakups, after losing jobs and so on. Life will never be fair with all of us, but if you can learn to not just focus on the one thing life had taken away, but focus on what's left and how much those things mean to you, you are on the way to happiness.

Whatever is lost, is either lost forever - so there is no point of running after it - or it can be earned back. But right now, let's focus on appreciating the now and worry about fighting for more later.

Week 2 Introduction
01:37

Watch the video first, then read this part.

Key takeaways here:

- Differentiate between constructive and destructive criticism

- Only ask for qualified people for advice - for example if you need to choose between taking a job that pays better, but you don't like and a job that pays less, but you love, don't ask your friend who only had one job in his life, ask someone who tried both scenarios, ask someone with personal experience.

- Don't listen to advice that you didn't ask for, you didn't ask that person for a reason. Don't let anyone get to you and put self doubt in your head if these people don't have your best interest in mind. 

- It starts in your head. If you don't believe in your ideas, your skills and yourself, no one will. If you limit yourself with your beliefs you will create an extra obstacle: You.

- Just because you get a 'no' it doesn't mean you can't get a 'yes' by approaching the problem from a different angle. Successful people didn't get to the top by letting people, or circumstances stop them. Be reasonable, but don't give up when things get tough. 

- There is always a solution even if you can't see it just yet. It's in the future, but knowing that there is, will keep your eyes on the prize and you keep motivated. 

Preview 01:22

If you still feel the pain, or it is difficult to compliment yourself or to be thankful for something just go ahead and do the breathing exercise as many times as you need to.

Week 2 Breathing Exercise
02:42

As you are still training your subconscious, make sure you speak nicely to yourself. Motivate yourself. Treat yourself well. 

Also, from today you will notice little things that you walk by day in day out. Why? Because this is part of your training of 'living in the now'. To see just how much you have helps your brain to shift the focus from the 'lack' to the 'abundance'. To become a master of positive thinking takes time and by appreciating your surroundings you are making a step forward.  

Start a list of things you are thankful for and add to it anytime something comes to mind.

Reminder: I ask you to write so much because writing forces you to think in detail, verbalize and remember. The lists serve as a reminder for your conscious and subconscious.   

Here is a great video from David Steindl-Rast - Gratefulness and gratitude expert to help you even more:

https://www.ted.com/talks/david_steindl_rast_want_to_be_happy_be_grateful#t-854423

Week 2 Day 1
01:25

Your 3 exercises today:

- Power position

- Add to your thankful list

- Compliment yourself 

Week 2 Day 2
00:44

With each day, with each exercise, with each practise you are creating a new neuro path for thinking positively and weakening negative paths like complaining, blaming, limiting yourself.

Also, today you must write a list of all the activities you love doing. Why? Because this is part of your training to find passion. Clarifying, verbalizing and writing them down gives your brain that positivity boost it needs. This exercise also serves as a reminder to not forget to do something you enjoy. You might love to take morning walks but you haven't done them in 6 months because you were so preoccupied with other things. Let yourself remember all your joys so they can be part of your every day again.

Week 2 Day 3
01:34

Make accurate observations of your feelings today. It is important you learn to feel what your soul needs, as once the course ends, you will have to carry on with your self development to ensure future self love.

Week 2 Day 4
00:26

Look fabulous today! Don't reserve your best days for special occasions. 

Week 2 Day 5
00:59

Start with some self reflection then carry on with your exercises. 

Week 2 Day 6
00:57

Take a break, unless you want to do your exercises. 

Remember: Even the little success is a success. Don't let any of your accomplishments go unnoticed. Reward yourself. 

Also, even on the worst days there is an upside. Whatever happened taught you something. Start seeing the negative as a learning opportunity and embrace it. 

Studies show that stress is only harmful if you believe it is. With mindful practises you can change how your body reacts to elevated levels of cortisol (stress hormone). If you see it as a challenge, something to learn from, something exciting to tackle, your blood vessels do not change. If you worry, get angry, or react in a negative way, your blood vessels shrink. This increases your chances for heart or brain disease later in life, so take a chill pill when stress comes and look into its eyes, face it, defeat it, learn from it and enjoy the ride!

Week 2 Day 7
01:09

The emotionally unaware or unavailable come from damaged childhoods. Some are not even aware of this. We are by design emotional. If you or someone you care about is difficult to approach through the heart, I suggest you read more about the attachment theory (4 attachment types) from Jeb Kinnison online. This helps you understand how your childhood affected your adulthood, why are you attracted to the same kind of people, why do you have the relationship that you have with your parents or caregivers and so on.

This is the first major step towards deep self development and if you feel ready to uncover some of the ugly truth, go ahead and read Jeb Kinnison's articles for each attachment types: Secure, Fearful-Avoidant, Dismissive-Avoidant, Anxious-Preoccupied. 

Then try to categorise yourself. You might fit into 2-3 or all 4 categories to some extent, but one will be dominant. So here we go:


Secure: https://jebkinnison.com/bad-boyfriends-the-book/type-secure/

Dismissive-Avoidant: https://jebkinnison.com/bad-boyfriends-the-book/type-dismissive-avoidant/

Fearful-Avoidant: https://jebkinnison.com/bad-boyfriends-the-book/fearful-avoidant/

Anxious-Preoccupied: https://jebkinnison.com/bad-boyfriends-the-book/type-anxious-preoccupied/



Preview 02:06

Think about love as a glass. For the first 2 weeks you had been filling your glass of love, but what happens when the glass is full? It overflows. That is the love that you can give away. If you give the love away that you would need to fill your glass with, you are essentially giving away your resources to your happiness. It is important to learn to prioritize yourself by not stepping over others, yet you maintain your glass full and you only give the excess love away.

If you are not happy, you can't make anyone happy. Focus on your happiness first, then once you are there, you can share your learnings, love, happiness to bring brightness in people's lives, but you come first.

Week 3 Day 1
01:36

This meditation video was inspired by other life coaches who are more involved in spirituality. I've done this myself and the results I saw over the sessions were incredible. The goal here is to calm yourself, find a safe place within where you feel peace and try taking in all the love that surrounds you. 

This is all about focus and visualization, so the more effort you put in, the more you get out.

Happy meditation!

Week 3 Meditation
09:56

If you still feel the pain, it is difficult to compliment yourself or to be thankful for something or sharing the love with others just go ahead and do the breathing exercise as many times as you need to.

Week 3 Breathing Exercise
02:42

It is important to learn how to take a compliment. If you always minimize it or reject it, it won't be given after a while. If it is given, take it. It's a free positivity boost. If someone says you look great but you disagree, you uncover your insecurities, your weaknesses to the world to see. You want to be perceived as a strong person if you want to become one, so start by accepting the compliment and believing it was given, because you deserved it. 

Here is a great representation of happiness and external influences by Dan Gilbert - Professor of Psychology at Harvard University:

https://www.ted.com/talks/dan_gilbert_asks_why_are_we_happy

Week 3 Day 2
01:34

Don't forget about your lists. Read through all of them before going to bed, so the last thought your mind thinks about is positive and motivating. Let your mind work with those thoughts overnight. 

Week 3 Day 3
00:38

Make the mirror your friend anywhere you go. 

Week 3 Day 4
00:26

Start giving your overflowing love to anything and anyone who could use some of it today. 

Week 3 Day 5
00:29

In a generic sense there is no such thing as right or wrong. We all have different expectations, standards and understandings so we have to make sure that all these are built on a strong foundation. You must always self reflect to make sure that your current standards are up to date. For example for sure you don't think the same way about getting drunk during the week as you did in college. Those standards had changed over time. So while the 19 years old you is okay going to school with a hangover, the 29 years old you might not be. You and your circumstances changed, so did your standards.

A while ago it wasn't wrong to drink too much on a weekday, but sure is wrong today. 

Or maybe your mother thinks you should take a job that pays better even if you don't like the work, but you believe you should love what you do. For her it is wrong not to take the money job, but for you it is right. This is why I argue there is no right and wrong. There is just differences between people's expectations and values.

Make sure you check in with yourself time and time again to ensure an up to date standard and communicate it well, so you avoid unnecessary confrontations.

Watch the video first then read this.

Key takeaways from today:

- The goal of an argument is to create a win-win. For example if your spouse loses, you lose too. He is hurt, you are hurt. Ideally you want to end the argument by feeling good about you and about your significant other. 

- Saying 'I'm sorry' doesn't necessarily mean that you were in the wrong and the other is in the right. It means that you are sorry for hurting the other person's feelings, or for being too harsh. You can still think that your argument is just simply better, that's not what you are apologising for, but an apology can go very far if it's used to calm the emotions and if it's meant. Make sure the other knows where you stand when you are apologising.

- When arguing, it is best to leave the emotions out. Think of it as a business negotiation. Imagine if the CEO of a company got very upset with the manager because he asked for injecting more money into the department and the CEO would refuse to talk to the manager for 3 days until he verbally regretted what he asked for. Business would not work. By leaving the emotions out of an argument you minimize the damage. When we are upset we tend to say or do things we don't mean, but sometimes it's too late to take them back. If you stay calm and think about what you have to say before you do, you could avoid making the situation worse and you may think with a clear head, not blinded by rage and impulses. 

- 'I love you' is mostly reserved for a romantic partner, but don't forget about family, friends and colleagues who could use a little bit love from you.

Week 3 Day 6
02:46

Third week completed! Well done!

Week 3 Day 7
00:59

You started by focusing on you and you only, then you widened your focus to your immediate surroundings and now it's time to think about the future. 

Reminder: Tailor this course towards your needs. Just because I no longer ask you every day to talk to yourself, you may need to do it. The course moves fast from one area to another so it can cover the most important points for self development, but through self reflection you must carry on with the mirror exercise if you feel you need it, or drop an exercise you no longer have use for. 

You must feel your needs and personalize this new routine to those needs. 

Preview 01:45

Start each morning well! Don't overwhelm yourself with negativity from the media, emails and other distractions. 


Week 4 What else?
03:23

Have you heard that a picture says a 1000 words? So do your friends, your home, your surroundings, your habits, your clothing and everything. Studies show that at least 75% of our communication is non verbal. Learning how to communicate a positive message without words is going to be one of the key focuses this week.

Week 4 Day 1
02:43

The power of no is just as important as the power of yes. In the video I talked about 'no', but here I want to focus on the yes. 

Some of you on the course probably have problems with accepting help or asking for help. By accepting help doesn't make you look weaker or incapable, it makes you smart. First of all when you are being refused when you really want to help someone, how does that make you feel? Most of us feel rejected. You might hurt feelings when you turn someone away who wants to help you.

Secondly, there is no shame in taking help. People are determined to get things done alone, but in a team it takes less effort, less time, less resources as they are divided. Also more eyes could foresee more potential problems. We can be more effective sometimes if we accept the right kind of help. Also, it takes away some pressure from us that would have resulted in making an unnecessary mistake. 

Asking for help takes courage because essentially we are admitting that we can't do something alone. Some people think it's a sign of weakness, but I see it a strength. Being honest with yourself is brave. Sometimes it makes the other person feel capable and valued if you ask them for help, because they are involved, they can contribute and share the success.

But be careful, don't ask for help because of laziness. If you start abusing this gesture, it might backfire and you don't want to come across as someone who walks over people or uses them. 

Week 4 Day 2
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Today is a very important first step towards your future. If you are someone who is looking for passion, career or a new hobby, take this exercise extra seriously. 

Also, I talk about the courage to turn down an opportunity. I have found life throwing distractions at me all the time when I finally decide on a plan. It is as if life is testing me if I really want a dream so badly, I'm willing to walk away from something tempting that would drive me away from my plan. 

I'm sure you noticed how as soon as you start dating, everyone wants to date you, but for months no one was interested. Or when you decide to leave work because you had enough you suddenly get a raise, or when you finally decided to buy a car unexpected bills come in. It is like everything is against you. Take it as life's tests. How badly do you want to pursue your plan? Are you willing to overcome these challenges? Can you keep focused with all these distractions? 

Here is an amazing article from Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, author of flow and passion expert:

https://www.ted.com/talks/mihaly_csikszentmihalyi_on_flow#t-1119503


Week 4 Day 3
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Change takes time. But defining what you want to change is step one. This list will probably uncover some bad habits that went unnoticed until now. For example eating right before bed, since your body won't be able to rest as it's preoccupied with digestion, not getting good night sleeps, starting your day by complaining or watching disturbing news, before your eyes open you are looking for your phone instead of looking out the window and get some fresh air, having coffee and nothing else for breakfast and so on.

Most of our bad habits sneak into our everyday and little by little take away positivity. Think hard about the things you do that don't benefit you and it is up to you if you want to change them all or not, be at least be aware.

Week 4 Day 4
01:45

Today is going to be very painful for some of you. Bringing up the past can be traumatic, but think about it like this. If you cover dog poop with newspaper, you can't see it, but it's still there. And it will stink for the rest of your life until you clean it up. The past can stink just as bad.

Freeing yourself from the ghosts of the past will physically feel lighter. Don't fool yourself by expecting the past to be forgiven in a day. Something that happened to me took 2 years to forgive, but if you make a conscious effort to start the process today, you give yourself a chance to eventually be able to move on.

Week 4 Day 5
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Just think about it, if you didn't have a safety net below you, would you focus extra hard on the rope you are balancing on?

Week 4 Day 6
02:44

Never compare yourself to others, only to yourself. How you used to be and how you are now. This is a rule of thumb because comparing yourself to others leaves a lot of room for disappointment or looking down on others. You may take someone as an example to follow or not to follow, but because each person is measured on their own scale, they can't be compared. 

For example if your dream is to climb the ladder and become a senior partner at a lawfirm and your best friend's dream is to travel the world on a budget, you would feel you are better than him, because you are making responsible choices, you are making money to secure your future and you are more successful. Or you would feel trapped and become jealous at your friend. None of them sound like a good option.

While he might think you are wasting your life between walls, not exploring the wonders of the world and you limit your learning by staying in one place. Or he would feel resentment towards you because you look down on him. How could you and your friend be possibly measured on the same scale?

He is pursuing his dream, and you are pursuing yours. We all have the right to dream about whatever makes us happy and as long as we are fulfilling our calling and we are happy, what's there to compare? Happiness is subjective and we all need to define what it means to us.

Compare you to how you used to be to get an accurate feedback.

Week 4 Day 7
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