NLP for Mental Health, Emotional Intelligence and Resilience

Wise mind is the place where reasonable mind meets emotional mind. We can know and experience truth when we have a wise mind. Truth refers to when one is certain of something's truthfulness. In this video we distinguish between the emotional, rational and wise parts of the human mind and propose this model as a practical basis for all of your future self-reflection and personal growth.

Frame of reference is a set of assumptions and attitudes used to filter perception to create meaning. It can include our beliefs, prejudices, values, and other biases. In this lesson we discuss how our frame of reference serves as a basis for all human naivety. As we grow, we develop the concept of 'normal', which is our frame of reference.

In this lesson we discuss the three dimensions of state, including the internal dimension, the relational dimension, and the developmental dimension and how self-awareness has an undeniable impact on how well we interact with others. Our attitude and outlook determine how relatable we are to others.

During our youth, we develop beliefs about ourselves that we cannot evaluate. Anchors are just presuppositions. They're limiting philosophies that keep people from living their best lives. In this video we discuss how the journey of personal development and maturity is about getting out of the limiting ideologies we developed about ourselves while we were young.

Our behavior is determined by how we interpret our experience. In this lesson we discuss a model to help you understand the impact our interpretations have on how we act in different circumstances. When we encounter challenging situations, we can either interpret them from a positive or a negative stance, and this will then impact the outcome or results that we eventually generate.

According to the "Circles of Control, Influence and Concern" model, if we cannot control something, don't get upset about it. Healthy perspectives involve focusing on what we can change, not on what we cannot. Our lives will remain disempowered as long as we are swayed by things outside of our control. In this lesson we discuss things you can control, from things you can not!

There are four types of goals: short-term, medium-term, long-term, and lifetime. The phrase "having too many goals" usually refers to the last two: long term goals and lifetime goals, which can seem overwhelming if we have too many of them. In this lesson we discuss the different types of goals we can pursue and also how each type deserves varying durations of time to fulfil.

The mind does not like negative thoughts. We influence ourselves (and other people) well by leading attention towards 'desired outcomes' via 'positive language, rather than focusing on negative outcomes and using negative language. In this lesson we discuss framing goals in the positive. People who learn how to do this seldom find difficulty in mustering up the motivation to take action.

Adopting strategies for solving problems that are appropriate for our subjective well-being is often crucial to our subjective well-being in life. The only way to manage tensions and solve problems is to focus on what actually matters. In this lesson we discuss solution-focused questions to ask when faced with a problem to solve or a new opportunity to pursue.

Understanding your actions is key to taking responsibility for them. A clear mind allows you to design better possibilities for action that will lead you to where you want to go. Particularly when communicating something difficult in some way, clarification is important. In this lesson, we will examine the importance of gaining clarity over specific situations and circumstances.

Some people spend more time complaining about their problems than taking action to resolve them. A person rarely grows or changes until their will to improve surpasses their desire to remain the same. The purpose of problem-solving is to figure out why 'things' are broken, and to prepare a course of action to fix them. In this video, we look at four ways we can approach life's challenges.

Self-reflection can help keep you focused on self-improvement and also ensure that you experience fulfilment in life as you mature and develop. The purpose of this video is to provide you with some self-reflection questions that you can use to consider the different themes and lessons you've discovered throughout this section.

In self-reflection, we learn about who we are, what our values are, and why we think the way we do. This is a form of self-analysis that allows us to take control of our lives. In this video we discuss the ideologies of Virginia Satir, who the NLP was initially modelled upon by Richard Bandler and John Grinder - the two principal co-founders of Neuro-Linguistic Programming.

The goal of gestalt therapy is to acknowledge the importance of personal responsibility through an emphasis on the present moment as well as the changes people make as they gain self-awareness. Fritz Perls was a German psychotherapist who was renowned for his work in Gestalt Therapy (the relationship between experience and behavior). Watch and learn how Gestalt Therapy works.

What is the actualizing tendency? It is a yearning present in all human beings that encourages them toward personal growth, improvement, and creative expression in order to reach their full potential. Carl Rogers posited that humans grow most effectively when they are surrounded by specific relational conditions. The video discusses how these conditions can be built into communications.

Competent communication is about understanding the other person, not winning an argument or imposing your opinions on them. It is not just about saying the right thing at the right time, but also avoiding saying the wrong thing at the wrong time! The video describes the four different phases of communication: What we intend to say, what we say, and what the other person hears.

Being able to dissociate is helpful in many situations, including stressful situations, gaining a more objective perspective on a situation, and so forth. To be able to see the facts of a situation without being clouded by unnecessary emotion is beneficial. In this video, Kain walks you through a visualization process which will assist you in dissociating from a negative past experience.

Perceptual positions is a useful discipline for better understanding situations, relationships, points of view, etc. By removing ourselves from subjectivity, we are better able to evaluate our current circumstances objectively. Kain explains the concept of 'going meta' in this video and outlines a series of questions we can ask ourselves to more objectively elucidate ourselves and our situation.

The concept of representational systems (also known as sensory modalities) describes how the human mind organizes, processes, and stores information through daily experiences. This video explains how to establish secure connections with others by using a representational frame that complements the other person's preferred representational communication style.

A skill is the ability to perform a specific task well. A strategy is a deliberate plan to improve performance, consciously adapted and monitored. These concepts are often confused. During this video, Kain distinguishes between strategy and tactics before illustrating a personal example of how he developed a new strategy in his own life when he set a specific goal.

It is true that some individuals are naturally gifted at both thinking strategically and creating visions. Throughout this video, Kain explains how to elicit an individual's strategy, which identifies the actual means through which that individual generates the outcomes they do. He challenges you to draw out another person's strategy from someone who has already achieved what you also aspire to.

Breakthroughs and breakdowns are both related. When there is a breakdown, trust that a new life transition is about to begin for you. Breakdowns and breakthroughs often go hand in hand. As he discusses in this video, Kain takes a look at the difference between having a breakdown and finding a breakthrough; two very different perspectives and mindsets towards the challenges in life.

Reflection is one of the most effective tools for keeping you in check, concentrating on your own development, and also ensuring that you enjoy life as you grow and mature. In this video, Kain outlines a range of self-reflection questions you can ask yourself to consider the main ideas and lessons you have learned throughout this section.

Congratulations for completing this NLP for Emotional Intelligence (EI), Mental Fitness & Wellbeing course. In this video, Kain wraps up the course and shares some recommended readings for further study. He then presents a few options for your ongoing study and research.

It's always exciting to complete a course and take the first steps towards mastering new skills. However, learning is an ongoing process, and there is always more knowledge to gain and ways to apply it. Here are some possible next steps you can take after completing this course: