How to split off in a good way from a previous love

Name: How to split off in a good way from a previous love
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5 steps to inner peace and new freedom

Created byBertold Ulsamer

Last updated 9/2017

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What you'll learn

Find the right and good distance to the past 3
Take your part of responsibility for the separation
Give space for the thankfulness for the good things of the past
Really let the other person go - even if it still hurts

Course content

3 sections • 21 lectures • 1h 12m total length

Welcome to the course1:45
This course presents five steps to part from a previous love in peace, with a laugh, addressing longing, anger, and staying open.
What you learn1:48
Learn five practical steps to end a past relationship with gratitude, release anger and guilt, and take responsibility, achieving peace and freedom in life and future relationships.
About me1:54
Explore the speaker's journey from Germany to psychology and trauma work, outlining learned methods and a five-step approach. They integrate world experiences to help others apply what works.
if you just broke up a relationship, your heart often is broken too3:57
Heal from a breakup by coming in peace with a former love, avoiding ongoing suffering, and softening the wall around your heart to welcome new relationships.
Practice: Actual thoughts and emotions towards your former beloved5:38
Practice a guided breathing exercise to observe thoughts and emotions toward a former beloved, create distance, acknowledge rage and longing, and gently process the end of a relationship.

Introduction: You have to be sincere to yourself3:11
Discover your truth in the moment and stay sincere to yourself as you split from past love. Try statements and their opposites to feel what is true and stay unstuck.
The first step: Is there still accusation?4:07
Explore the first step of five: name inner barriers, blame, and guilt; then express gratitude to clear yourself and communicate the facts honestly with the other.
Practice: Expressing all your accusations6:36
Practice expressing all your accusations by guided breathing, observing the other's image, and honestly naming your feelings, guilt, or pain to release them and move toward resolution.
The second step: Being thankful for the good things of the past3:00
Identify the hopeful start of a past relationship, acknowledge its joy and good sides, and practice recalling gratitude to soften pain and prepare for the next lesson.
Practice: Expressing your thankfulness4:09
Practice expressing thankfulness after a breakup through mindful breathing and acknowledging the right distance in relationships. Honor the gifts you received and given, and observe emotions with gratitude.
The third step: About guilt and guiltlessness in a separation.2:34
Identify and own shared responsibility in a breakup, avoiding blame and the pendulum of guilt and guiltlessness, and move toward peace by recognizing both partners' contributions.
Practice: Taking responsibility for your part3:10
Practice taking responsibility for your part in the separation by calming the mind through breathing and relaxation, acknowledging your role, and communicating honestly about the shared split.
Why it can be difficult to accept your own responsibility?4:04
Examine why people struggle to accept their own responsibility, tracing how loyalty to ancestors and historic gender dynamics influence blame and victim narratives in relationships.
Practice: Discovering the loyalty to past generations4:11
Practice deep breathing to relax while imagining generations of women and their suffering, acknowledging responsibility, and viewing past partners with fresh eyes and the right distance.
Feeling guilty or blaming the other is a protection against pain and helplessnes3:06
Explore how blaming the other or taking all responsibility acts as protection against pain, and learn to acknowledge that both partners did their best, guiding a compassionate, humble split.
The forth step: Former love relationships belong to our life2:55
Learn about the two life systems—the family of origin and the system of intimate life—and how former relationships and abortion belong to life, with acknowledgment and healing for relief.
Practice: Respecting the place of the previous love3:42
Relax to connect with yourself, breathe, and release guilt and blame. Honor the past by giving the former love a place in your heart and speaking honestly.
Practice: The fifth step: Letting go4:02
Practice letting go by relaxing, giving space to the beloved, and honoring the past as part of your system while remaining open to future love and respectful contact.
Practice: If you cannot let go: Clearing up the confusion3:57
Unpack the difficulty of letting go by recognizing how a beloved can resemble a parent, then practice separating, setting distance, and seeing each person as a normal individual.

Family constellation: the source of important insights2:25
Explore how family constellations reveal what happened in your relationship by representing each person and letting the mirror guide you toward freedom and responsibility to move on.
Ways to continue2:17
Therapy, coaching, and self-exploration reveal parental dynamics with father and mother as you split from a past love. Seek peace with family and consider group work for healthier relationships.

Requirements

Openness
Curiosity
Engagement

Description

A love relationship ended but you still feel tied. Memories and yearning or also jealousy and rage are torturing you. You would rather be free as an inner part of you knows that this relationship is over. Still, another part is holding you back.

This course shows you the steps that will help you to let go in a good way. Do not be tense or hard to yourself. Make peace with yourself and the past.

The lessons will guide you through the five necessary steps to come to a good closure. These five steps were validated in my seminars over the last three decades.

It's about being grateful for the good things and taking your share of responsibility for the end of the relationship. You may find that the other person bears all the responsability - then it is also helpful to look more deeply.

Former partners are important people in your life - whether you like it or not. That's why it's important to find the right place for them. This course will help you do just that.

Be aware: some time of grief and sadness after the end of a relationship is normal and important!

But the time comes when it is right to dare a new beginning,

Who this course is for:

who wants to find inner peace with the common past
who wants to find inner closure with a past love and carry on
who wants to open him/herself for a new love relationship

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Course content

Introduction5 lectures • 15min

The five steps14 lectures • 53min

Ending2 lectures • 5min

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