
Explore how the language of domination and domination culture shape communication, then examine childhood patterns like hiding distress and yelling to apply nonviolent communication.
Identify the hidden needs driving our actions by examining the needs list and recognize that money is a strategy to meet deeper needs, connecting behavior to underlying motivations.
Discover how needs can stand alone (PLATO: person, location, action, time, object) and how empty affection tanks push us to seek multiple strategies for meeting them.
Navigate the selfish to selfless spectrum and hold your needs and others' needs in a full balance. Being in touch with needs invites people to contribute and seek reassurance.
Explore how identifying and sitting with your needs guides you to authentic strategies through nonviolent communication, triggering inner shifts and gradual, holistic ways to meet belonging and authenticity.
Discover common roadblocks to communication, including fixing, making it about yourself, shutting down feelings, judging, and avoiding topics, and learn to listen first with empathy before education.
Use NVC in the moment by applying self-empathy and identifying your feelings and needs. Ask for what you’re needing to move the conversation forward with curiosity and clarity.
Explore practical uses of NVC across relationships, from expressing needs, gratitude, and unpacking judgments to translating needs for kids, setting boundaries, and crafting clear requests.
Troubleshooting NBC by returning to connection with self, unpacking layers of need from belonging to safety, and prioritizing empathy before education for better communication.
Review the course through repeated NBC practice, build a daily routine, and explore resources, trainers, and practice groups to deepen compassionate truth-telling.
Whether at home or at work, there's nothing more important in life than our relationship with ourselves, and with others, yet most of us aren't taught how to truly connect. So much of our culture teaches us to disconnect, from ourselves and from others. It turns out, authentic connection is a learnable skill, with some simple "how to" steps. It starts with an understanding of the shared human needs that drive every single thing we do, which gives us common ground to work from.
In this course, you'll learn to create a relationship with yourself that changes everything. You'll find clarity about what you truly want, and explore ways to move towards finding that in your life. You'll learn a simple tool that can make a profound difference in all your relationships, enabling you to speak your truth “quietly and clearly”, with both authenticity and compassion.
You will learn the "how to" of authentic connection – how to speak up for yourself in ways that work to create connection rather than conflict, and find win/win solutions – based mostly on Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg (“nonviolent” meaning “to do no harm”) with splashings of Inner Relationship Focusing, the Enneagram, Polyvagal theory and other frameworks. Learning this can help you meet needs for being heard/seen, agency, competence, authenticity and belonging. Ultimately, it’s really about learning how to be comfortable in your own skin, and being able to truly be yourself.
These skills can be applied in all avenues of your life - at work, at home, with your friends, with your enemies. They can improve your leadership and management skills at work, and deepen your personal relationships.
What Will I Learn?
Feelings literacy (sensing what's going on in body, being in relationship with it)
Needs literacy
How to talk about feelings and needs, without blame or demand
Exactly HOW to bring up a difficult issue with someone, in a way that will be much more likely to be heard.
How to get clear on exactly what it is you're wanting in a situation
Be able to work WITH the other person to find a solution that works for both of you, or, find other solutions that are equally satisfying to you, even if the other person isn't willing to talk or negotiate.
How to naturally have more compassion for self and others
How not to take things personally - aware that everyone else is just trying to meet their needs, and it's not about US.