Heal Yourself & Relationships W/ Transformational Self Love

Rejection. Abandonment. Cheating. Abuse. Any of those sound familiar? What it does to your psyche and sense of self is tragic. Its impact on your work life, friends and family can be detrimental to the health of all of those relationships. It changes how you see yourself and how you love yourself. This lesson will dive into Chapters 2, 3, 7 & 10 of the Be Solid book. Read these chapters as you go through this lesson for additional insight into this part of the healing process.

What’s the answer to the problems of the world? Love.

Love has many facets and pieces. We’re going to begin with Kindness. Kindness to yourself is the 1st step in healing from heartbreak.

Kindness has everything to do with how you talk to you and about you. Who you surround yourself with. And your decisions and choices. Everything blends into self-love.

We’ll dig deeper into the soil of self-love because ultimately that’s the solution to our deepest and darkest pains and our worst fears, including heartbreak and relationship trauma.

In this exercise, you're going to direct your love and your kindness at a particular person: YOU.

You’re giving yourself the love you deserve and visualizing WHO the target of your love is. You are worth fighting for! With this exercise, you’re fighting for your own heart and mind. You’re reclaiming it from the painful experiences that hurt you and you’re healing yourself with kindness and love.

Do this exercise. Then take a deep breath and move to the 2nd lesson.

We’re going to talk about your relationships with friends, family, mentors and others in this lesson.

We’re going to be referencing principles and tools from Chapters 5, 7, 11, 15 and 25.

This lesson is about establishing and building your support system, who to look for when putting this group of people together, how to approach them to help in your healing journey, and why these individuals are so important.

Your Strong Circle are the 2-5 people who give you the most help, healing, encouragement and restoration. We don’t do anything alone. That’s why being selective and careful about who you surround yourself with is so important. And why we began this whole course and experience with KINDNESS.

We'll look at the types of people you want in your Strong Circle and the types of people you don't want. Remember, this is your support system. These people provide influence, direction and accountability to you in your healing journey.

This decision to change your closest circle of friends and the people you spend time with is just for you, your healing, and your restoration.

You’re worth fighting for! So choose the best people for your healing. Choose the people who provide the best attitude and environment for your peace and wellbeing.

LOVE is the ultimate vehicle for life and transformation. It begins with yourself first. We’re going to reference the principles, methods and tools from Chapters 13, 14, 16, 18, and 20 from the Be Solid book in this lesson. Read that as you go through this lesson and return to it any time you want help with bring LOVE into your life more fully.

You’re approaching your heart and mind with kindness. You’re spending time with quality people and removing negative and toxic influences from your life. These are ways you choose to love, honor, and respect yourself.

In this lesson we’re going to look at what LOVE actually is.

Because just about everyone uses the word, and even the phrase “I love you.”

But if you don’t know what love actually is, and you don’t fully love yourself, you won’t be able to recognize real love or fake love when it’s standing in front of you.

We can’t control how people treat us, even those closest to us. But we can control how we respect ourselves. Give yourself the love, honor, and devotion you gave to someone else. How?

Remember what we talked about in the first lesson video? Speak to yourself with kindness. We’re going to look at the practice of Self-Love.

A simple exercise to incorporate this into your life is to use a journal to practice self love everyday. Write a series of affirmations to plant seeds of love and empowerment in your heart and mind garden every day. Then read your affirmations out loud.

The more you encourage and empower yourself, the more love you give to yourself. This is one of the most powerful and important steps in your healing journey.

You’ll attract people who operate out of love and have healthier relationships.

Get the details on how to incorporate this practice into your everyday life with this simple exercise.

In this lesson we’re going to look at the decisions and choices you make when you operate out of self-love and love for others.

LOVE changes the game when it’s real, healthy and whole.

We’re going to look at lifestyle choices, relationships, and other decisions you make that have a massive impact on your mental health, as well as your transformation out of heartbreak and into wholeness.

Be mindful of what your decisions and choices you are with your friends and when you’re by yourself.

Remember, you’re planting peace and love inside of yourself. This is more than just the mantras and affirmations you write and recite to yourself.

You plant inside yourself all sorts of things by what you watch, listen to, and take in.

In this lecture and lesson we'll look at what healthy choices help you move forward into better relationships with others and yourself. And you'll see what choices will keep you bound up in toxicity and unhealthy patterns.

Listen to your body and your mind and your heart. And your spirit. All 4 parts of you will communicate to you about what it healthy and what isn’t if you’ll be discipline enough to listen. Honor yourself.

In this exercise you'll see how to incorporate everything you've learned so far to make healthier decisions and choices to keep yourself in kindness and love as the way you operate, and what you attract more of into your life.

What we’ll work on in this lesson incorporates principles you’ve read in Chapters 9 and 10 of the Be Solid book. We’ll also dig into some of what is covered in chapters 23, 25, and 27.

What about those memories and past pains that caused you so much hurt and trauma? Is healing just a matter of changing your mind and your social circle?

What do you do about the memories of pain, and even potentially coming into contact with the people who caused you the most hurt? In this lesson we’ll look at how to let go of the past so that it doesn’t trap you into a never-ending cycle of pain.

You’ll learn how to experience freedom and gain the tools to move on in peace.

This lesson is focused on an essential element that truly heals the wounds in your heart and mind. It’s a process, not a one time thing, just like self-love.

“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.” -Buddha

We’re talking about forgiveness now because it’s a part of the emotional and mental process of healing.

Let’s do a simple exercise that will help you forgive and move on. There are several iterations of this activity. This is what’s worked for countless clients and attendees at my workshops and speeches. It's also what's worked for me.

You do need a pen, a piece of paper, and a small box.

Spirituality is one of the 4 essential elements of the human story. We are a combination of our emotions (heart), thoughts (mind), body and spirit (soul). LOVE is the center-piece and creator of all of who we are. This principle is throughout the Be Solid book, so there’s not one specific chapter for you to reference in this lesson.

But I do encourage you to read Chapter 29, titled To Be Solid Will Take All Of You, as it incorporates your spiritual journey into the other areas of your life.

This lesson delves deeper into what spirituality is, how the Divine is interwoven in our lives, and practical exercises to connect with your spiritual nature, including prayer.

It doesn't matter whether what your religious affiliation or denomination is, or if you're not religious at all. You'll gain much from this section.

God is LOVE. What else is love? Or rather, who else is love? Remember my affirmation from Lesson #3? "I am love."

We partner with God to live life to the fullest. Always remember that God is LOVE. LOVE is the force that creates life and makes all things new. That includes you too.

This lecture explores how we are intertwined with Almighty Love and the impact that has on our lives and our relationships.

This exercise will be a bit longer, but it’s well worth your time. And once you learn this, you can use it any time of day to connect with yourself, clear your mind, and tap in to the infinite LOVE of the universe and God.

Have you ever tried the amazing power of meditation? Are you familiar with it and how it works?

If not, that’s ok. We’re going to dig into the soil of meditation with this simple breathing exercise that's a powerful introduction into the world of meditation and clearing your mind.

Put it simply: This lecture shows you how to pray to make real connection with Divine Love.

Prayer isn’t limited to religious people or religious places. It’s a conversation with the divine. And you can do it outloud or in your head.

What do you say in a prayer? What do you ask God for?

Ask God for help. If you’re an incredibly strong self-reliant person, that may stretch you. If you struggle asking for anything out of a sense of worthiness, that may stretch you too. But needing help is a part of the human story.

And asking for help from God is a part of the spiritual journey of every human being.

Even Jesus did it.

At the beginning of this course I told you that you’d learn how to attract true love into your life. This can be a difficult concept if you’re just coming out of a breakup or the end of a long-term relationship or marriage. Give yourself time to heal.

As you heal and as you learn about how your past experience showed you the things that love is NOT, it will become more clear to you what you don’t want to experience in a future relationship.

But that’s not where you’re going to put your focus and attention. Actually, you’re going to focus on attracting LOVE that feels like LOVE.

In this Bonus section, you'll learn what steps to take to attract the love you want most into your life. You'll see how to recognize real love and how to identify the True Love that your heart has been searching for. Once you know what steps to take, do them and surrender the process to Divine Love to make it happen.

These lessons and pieces are the essential elements of the Be Solid journey to healing and wholeness. Using these tools and practices daily is how you recover from past relationship trauma, heal from heartbreak, and bring peace into your life by BE-ing the peace you seek.

As you grow in LOVE and embrace what LOVE is, you BEcome the Love you seek.

Use the teachings, lectures, practical exercises and resources in this course in your every day life to experience full transformation into the best version of yourself. Don't stop doing what you've been doing in this course. Keep it going!

And please share your story and your results with me. I love hearing from students and connecting more with people to know how this has impacted you. If you have any questions or want more information on this process, communicate with me by leaving a comment or asking a question. Thank you!