How love succeeds: Solve the conflicts with your partner!
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How love succeeds: Solve the conflicts with your partner!

Stand up for your own needs and find common solutions!
4.2 (2 ratings)
Course Ratings are calculated from individual students’ ratings and a variety of other signals, like age of rating and reliability, to ensure that they reflect course quality fairly and accurately.
1,099 students enrolled
Created by Bertold Ulsamer
Last updated 4/2020
English
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Price: $34.99
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This course includes
  • 4 hours on-demand video
  • Full lifetime access
  • Access on mobile and TV
  • Certificate of Completion
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What you'll learn
  • You improve your communication decisively
  • You learn to contain your anger
  • You stand up for yourself in a constructive way
  • You finish the power struggle with your partner
  • Your deepen your love and connection
Requirements
  • Curiosity
  • Engagement
  • Openess
Description

In many love relationships there are fierce arguments or hidden power struggles. Sometimes disputes out of one's own anger become very destructive and hurtful. Or one of the two withdraws and blocks.

This course shows you new ways of good and successful communication.

First you learn how way to restrain your own anger. You learn to hear the hidden messages of your partner, so you can react in a different way. The course shows you how to set boundaries and to solve conflicts in constructive way.

So you learn the necessary attitudes and the practical skills to deal with your differences and disputes.

This course complements my two other courses “How love succeeds”. One is: “Heal your wounds of the past”, the other “Deepen the love with your partner!

These 3 courses are the fruit of 40 years of my work as a therapist and seminar leader. And it is the fruit of being 21 years a husband! Exercises and insights are rooted in NLP, communication psychology, hypnotherapy family constellations and trauma therapy.

Who this course is for:
  • People who often have conflicts in their relationship
  • People who quarrel fiercely
  • People who are looking for new ways to understand each other better
Course content
Expand all 51 lectures 04:07:56
+ Anger Management
6 lectures 33:48
The „psychological fog“: How your brain fights for survival
10:00
The way out of the fog
05:57
Practice: The way out
07:51
Homework
01:45
+ Hear the hidden messages!
7 lectures 32:28
Introduction: Discovering different aspects in a message
01:52
The four-sides-model of the communication
05:46
The different ways of understanding – a practical example
02:13
Listen with your four different ears!
03:11
Practice with the sentence you chose
08:49
„Why are you like this?“ One more example
06:54
Task: Practice: Express yourself more clearly!
03:43
+ Setting boundaries
7 lectures 36:28
Introduction: Everybody has boundaries
02:13
Practice: Your way to protect your boundaries
09:51
The fear of setting boundaries
04:53
Two ways to use your anger
03:02
Practice: Change your actions in the future
07:50
Be patient!
02:59
+ The 5 steps to solve a conflict
5 lectures 30:39
Introduction: Do you want to fight or to solve a conflict?
02:12
Practice: Your actual way to deal with a conflict
02:12
Optimal preparation and 5 steps to solve a conflict
11:50
Practice: Preparing the 5 steps
12:12
Homework: Prepare yourself for the talk!
02:13
+ How to transgress your barriers in conflict solving
7 lectures 33:50
Afraid it'll get worse
05:04
Your possible advantages if the conflict is not resolved
03:39
The fear to be hurt
04:59
Can you apologize?
05:29
Practice: Overcoming your personal barriers
09:23
Homework: Don’t hurry!
04:03
+ End the power struggle between you two!
7 lectures 33:50
Introduction: Often, a couple fights a power struggle
02:17
Practice: Your hidden power struggle
04:44
What are you fighting for?
04:37
Feel your own strength!
08:17
Give up - as a gift to the other!
06:17
Homework: Deal with your mind settings!
04:18
Looking back
03:20
+ Communicate successfully!
8 lectures 33:13
Introduction: Good and bad communication
00:55
What is bad communication?
03:55
Practice: What is your style of communication?
04:46
What is good communication?
03:54
A story
02:35
Practice: Awaken your resources for good communication!
08:15
The structured couple talk
07:35
Review
01:18
+ Ending
3 lectures 12:05
General recommendations
02:03
Gift video from "How love succeeds: Overcome your wounds of the past!"
02:35
Gift video from "Accept all your inner parts and transform your problems!"
07:27