
Short introduction
Lesson 1: The instructor, Carina Bång is introduced. The motive of the course is explained, and the content covered during the course is summarized. Important information regarding the difficult situation of children who have family members with addiction problems and how to prepare for threatening situations is provided. An exercise helps you analyze what your current situation is and what change you want.
Lesson 1 – Exercise: Current situation & the change you want
Let the change begin!
Many times you can feel overwhelmed by the fact that many areas of life are affected by the effects of addictionproblems. It can make us paralyzed. Start your change here and now by completing this exercise and then choose a specific area to start improving. During that time, you will have to practice an accepting approach towards that other areas are not improving right now. You can prioritize them after you have focused on what you choose as the most important task right now.
Wish you all the best!
/Carina
Lesson 2: In the second lesson we delve deeper into the effects of having a family member with addiction problems. We look at types of behavior that are common in this situation, and the roles you’re likely to take on as you try to help your loved one. For example, the tendency to take on too much responsibility is discussed.
Lesson 2 – Exercise: Your “Work roles”
Exercise 2 - Work roles
Lesson 3: In lesson number three we discuss the big topic of anxiety. We discuss its symptoms, what it can lead to, how to prevent lasting effects of it, and if it’s possible to treat anxiety. We also go into common anxiety triggers, and also how anxiety can induce stress. As an exercise, you set up a plan to manage anxiety.
Lesson 3 – Exercise: Your plan to manage anxiety
Exercise 3 - Your plan to manage anxiety
Exercise 3b - Breathe in a squere
Lesson 4: In the fourth lesson, we discuss the need for control and the importance of accepting what we can and can’t change. We discuss why we feel we need to control everything and whether this is something we can achieve. We analyze the importance of accepting what we can and can’t change and do an exercise based on The Serenity Prayer.
Lesson 4 – Exercise: The Serenity Prayer
Exersice 4 - Exercise Serenity Prayer
Lesson 5: In lesson five, we talk about guilt and shame. We discuss why we feel guilt and shame, what the difference between guilt and shame is, and we analyze if there is actually a reason to feel guilty or not. We also talk about how to cure these difficult feelings. The exercise following this lesson is based on helping you have compassion for yourself.
Lesson 5 – Exercise: Self-compassion
Exersice 5 - Exercise Serenity Prayer
Lesson 6: In lesson six we discuss what enabling is and how we might be enabling our loved ones even when we have the opposite goal in mind. We also talk about how to deal with money requests based on two new communication skills; showing understanding and open questions. In an exercise we practice giving back the responsibility to the one causing the problem.
Lesson 6 – Exercise: Give back the responsibility
Exercise 6 - Give back responsibility
Lesson 7: In the seventh lesson we focus on five communication methods and skills that can help us deal with the loved one who has addiction problems. The communication methods are inspired by CRAFT – Community Reinforcement Approach and Family Training. An exercise lets you practice these communication methods.
Lesson 7 – Exercise: Communication skills
Exercise 7 - Communication skills
PRINT for reminder - do today to improve tomorrow
Lesson 8: In the eighth and final class we summarize what we’ve learnt. discuss when and how to communicate. We then go into the importance of self-compassion by helping you put the focus back on yourself. Where can you go from here? An exercise helps you analyze which personal rights are important to you.
Lesson 8 – Exercise: Your rights
Exersice 8 - Your Rights
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Did you know that 1 in 5 people live with or know someone who is struggling with substance abuse/addiction issues whether it’s alcohol, drugs, sex or gambling...etc?
Almost all the focus goes to those who are struggling with substance abuse issues, and as for their family and friends, they get minimum to no attention despite the many negative effects that come as a result of being around substance abusing individuals: codependency, stress, anxiety, and depression just to name a few. There’s also a reasonably high risk of becoming an addict especially in the case of children who grow up in such an environment.
This course was created to correct this issue and is, therefore, for family members and friends of those with substance abuse problems.
We’ll first start by covering the negative effects of addiction on friends and relatives and then examining just how deep this problem really goes. We’ll then move on to the negative effects of addiction on you (as the family member or friend) and help give you a better understanding of the negative behaviors and feelings you might have developed. You’ll also learn how to create new behavioral patterns (a new normal) that will lead to a happier you.
The need for control is a common reaction to attempt to change the person struggling with addiction and get them to stop. You’ll learn how this rarely works and what you should be focusing on instead.
You might be feeling shame and guilt as a result of trying tirelessly to help your friend or loved one who is struggling with addiction to no avail. These 2 negative feelings can be pretty immobilizing, however, you're going to learn the action steps you need to take to overcome them.
Enabling the person with substance/addiction issues might sound inconceivable to you, but you’ll learn how you might be unintentionally aiding your family member or friend in their destructive behavior. You’ll discover the many ways you might accidentally be doing this as well as what you can do to prevent this from continuing to happen.
Finally, you’ll learn how to communicate efficiently with the person close to you to better help and support them. The course comes with 8 exercises which will help solidify your learning and make sure you take action immediately towards a new, better life for you and your friend or loved one.