Become Attractive Simply by Helping People To Like You.

When your actions match your words, and are inline with your beliefs and values, that is authentic. It is the real you.

Being interested in others means giving the other person your undivided attention.

This may sound like common sense, and indeed it is. The problem is that people forget to exercise common sense.

Perhaps they are self-centred or lack confidence. Maybe they are just young or new to engaging people in conversation.

There are a lot of reasons why people don’t give others their undivided attention.

By the end of this lecture you will have a better understanding of why it's crucial to be authentic and how to develop a genuine interest in others.

Ernest Hemingway, who was awarded the Nobel Prize for Literature in 1954, says it best about the importance of listening. ~ “When people talk, listen completely. Most people never listen.”

Listening is the #1 skill that will 100% help people to like you.

Authentic listening is a skill. This means that with practice and concentration, you will become a master listener so that you grow your ability to:

• make and build friendships

• resolve conflict through problem solving and excellent communication

• improve personal and professional relationships

• have a fulfilling marriage

• increase the value you bring to others

• the list goes on...

True listening begins when you respond to the other person in delicate ways that indicate to him or her that you deeply care about what they are saying.

Completing this lecture will not only give you a better understanding of why it's vital to develop the skill of true listening BUT the self-awareness and confidence to practice and enhance this under-utilized practice.

The average 4-year-old laughs or smiles 300 - 400 times a day. The average 40-year-old? Not so much! Apparently, it is about four times a day. If smiling or laughing is any indication of the level of happiness residing internally, we as adults have some work to do.

Do you get enough sleep? How about enough “play” time? Do you take pride in your accomplishments, however simple they may be? How much do you worry?

Ultimately, happiness is an inside job. It takes work. It takes effort.

• Your job today is to raise your self-awareness regarding bringing out the happy.

• Our job is not to assess or judge you or your learning, but instead teach you some thoughts, and challenge your thinking.

Bobby McFerrins gets it.

His song, "Don't Worry, Be Happy", was a No. 1 U.S. pop hit in 1988 and won Song of the Year and Record of the Year honors at the 1989 Grammy Awards.

Here are some of the lyrics:

Don't worry, be happy

In every life we have some trouble

But when you worry you make it double

Don't worry, be happy

'Cause when you worry your face will frown

And that will bring everybody down

So don't worry, be happy

I hope you learned note-for-note

Like good little children, don't worry, be happy

Now listen to what I said, in your life expect some trouble

When you worry you make it double

But don't worry, be happy, be happy now

Bringing the happy is an important concept to understand when helping people like you.

This video in module three—Don’t just “smile.” Be Happy—will give you a better grasp of why a smile can make your day AND someone else's day better. You will also have another tool in your toolbox for achieving the goal of this course—helping you to "help people to like you."

A principal reason people don’t recall names is that they weren’t listening. Someone says their name, and three seconds later, it’s forgotten.

• This IS NOT a memory problem.

• It IS a focus problem.

In this lecture, we dig into the importance of remembering and using people's actual names, not generic nicknames.

Some people are ok with people not using their “actual” name. Maybe you are, too. Does that mean the person you are about to meet is ok with it?

You get to decide if it’s worth taking the risk that you might irritate them by not using their name.

Mick Jagger was definitely on to something with the song "Pleased to meet you. Hope you guess my name."

I get it; the idea that it’s important to remember and use someone's name does seem a little childish.

However, when we discuss the topic of how to “help people to like you” we have to begin by being others-centred. That means we must consider the other person's feelings, emotions, and preferences before our own.

You don’t talk to someone about boats to sell them a boat.

You do it because you're interested in that person, and that person happens to like boats.

In a conversation, you talk and ask questions 20% of the time and listen 80% of the time. Talking about the things that interest the other person shows you care about getting to know them and their passions.

In this lecture, you will learn how vital it is to engage people in conversation about what they love and like.

Help people to Like you. Help people know they matter.

Consider this statement. Nobody is busier than someone too busy to be interested in someone else. Don’t be this person.

If you are talking to someone who seems to need to be somewhere else, how does that make you feel?

In this lecture, we chat about a few simple things that you can do immediately to help people understand:

1. that they matter to you,

2. that they are important in your life and

3. that you value them as people.

And isn't that something important to us all?

A brief wrap-up to your course "How to Help People to Like You"

This video is a quick thank you and introduction to managing your emotions

This was recorded mid 2020, but the principles and thoughts you will get from this information are timeless.

Emotional intelligence is commonly described as the ability to perceive, evaluate, and manage emotions in others and ourselves. Many experts consider it to be a better indicator for success than someone’s IQ.

It's true.

Your ability to manage yourself and others depends on your emotional intelligence.

You could say that the level of your success and quality of life will be determined by your level of emotional maturity aka your emotional intelligence.

Enjoy.