Healthy mediumship fundamentals

• If you ask for your highest and best good as you open up to Spirit, that’s all you’ll get

• This goes back to the laws of attraction and continuity, two of the natural laws that govern mediumship

• You attract to you what you want and ask for—both in the physical and nonphysical worlds

• “I ask only for my highest and best good.”

• Stating your intent, sets your boundaries - your highest good is all you will accept and nothing else.

• Boundaries are vital in a healthy relationship with Spirit

• You need to learn how to set healthy boundaries with people in the physical world, in your everyday interactions, in order to be able to easily set healthy boundaries and intention with Spirit

  • Practice by saying “no”

  • Check your internal guidance and follow it

  • Speak up for yourself, even in small ways

• Fortunately, learning to set boundaries with Spirit helps with setting boundaries in the everyday world and vice versa

The importance of getting grounded and staying that way.

Place your feet on the ground and sit tall in your seat, with your back straight and your sitting bones making contact with the seat. You can also do this standing up.

Visualize your crown extending to the sky and roots growing from the soles of your feet and penetrating deep into the earth.
Position your feet at a 45-degree angle outward, with your knees and legs opening outward from your hips. Visualize a key or knob on the soles of your feet. I think of bicycle shoes that lock into your bike pedals.

Now swivel your feet so they’re parallel to each other while imagining they’re locking into the Earth, connecting and grounding you. You can do this with or without shoes on, it doesn’t matter.

You can even do it just with the intent that you are grounding down, but the small motion can make it seem more real and sets your intention.

• Breathe – take 3 deep cleansing breaths, in through your nose and out through your mouth with an “aaahhh!”

• Spend time in nature – trees ground you and hugging them is good for you. Even walking around your neighborhood and connecting with the energy of plants rooted into the Earth will provide grounding.

• Take Epsom salt baths or use salt scrubs – salts can cleanse your energy and remove the static and grunge that can build up in your energy field. Imagine anything that no longer serves you washing away as you bathe.

• Exercise – exercise brings you into your physical body, grounding out your energy. Use whatever form of exercise works best for you: walking, running, playing sports, yoga, tai chi, etc.

• Eat well – food is inherently grounding as it’s what keeps your physical body running. Your body is an engine, so put the right kind of fuel in it so that it runs well.

• Use crystals and stones – certain crystals and stones that are made of dense, hard materials have very grounding energy, e.g. hematite (including magnetite, specularite and iron rose), blue or black kyanite, black tourmaline and obsidian.

• Sex – sex, alone or with another, activates the root chakra and can be very grounding.

Sitting or standing tall, visualize white light entering the crown of your head and traveling down your chakras, lighting and energizing each one in turn.

First your crown chakra lights up in white, then your third eye becomes a brilliant purple, then your throat becomes bright blue, your heart turns an emerald green, your solar plexus radiates bright yellow, your navel glows orange and your root chakra burns a deep red.

From your root chakra, see a golden rope of light connecting you to the Earth. You are grounded and connected to the energy of all that is, to Infinite Intelligence.

Q&A from class 2

1. Do I have named Spirit guides?

2. Do you have to be specific with your intentions?

3. A comment about the visualization exercise.

4. A comment about feeling tense in neck and shoulders during the exercise.

5. Do certain symbols mean something?

6. Do you ever have a persistent spirit?

7. Whisperings and intuition.

8. The TV comes on at night and wakes me up.

What we're covering in this class: ways to raise your vibration.

You can use these methods to keep your vibration raised on a daily basis and to lift it back up when it feels low or your energy gets sluggish or icky-feeling.

• Meditation: a wonderful way to check in with yourself and attune to your higher self.

Spend time in nature: whether you’re hugging trees or simply enjoying a flower growing from the Earth, nature can reset your energy and give you a boost.

Express gratitude: no matter what’s going on in your life, there’s got to be something you can be grateful for, and coming from a place of gratitude brings more of what you love in your life to your life experience.

Find things of beauty and contemplate them: From nature to art, notice the beauty in your life and spend some time with it.

Laugh: Spirit loves laughter. Laughing does so much good for your energy and emotions.

Listen to music: Whatever your preferred music is, it’ll lift your spirits up from wherever they were before you began listening.

Sing or play an instrument: Singing and creating music raises your vibration and releases stuck emotions.

Do acts of kindness: Being kind to others, in small ways and big, not only raises the vibration of the planet, but your own as well.

Accept personal responsibility: One of the tenets of Spiritualism is, “We affirm the moral responsibility of individuals, and that we make our own happiness or unhappiness as we obey or disobey Nature’s physical and spiritual laws.” Accepting responsibility for how your life is right now actually gives you a lot of power. Taking ownership puts you in the driver’s seat and allows you to make change, as needed.

Be aware of your thoughts: Your thoughts, emotions and actions create your life, from the practical, everyday aspects to the energetic situations you draw into your life. They also affect how much you’re enjoying your experience in each moment. Becoming aware of what you think about and how you’re thinking allows you to change so your thoughts serve your highest good.

Take care of your body: Physical activity and eating nourishing food raises your body’s vibration, supports your emotional well-being and provides the nutrition and chemicals your brain needs to function well.

Heal your past: A lot of us have hard things in our past. It’s OK. And it’s time to move forward from them, one step at a time. As you release the past and your past story, your vibration will rise.

Practice forgiveness and compassion: Being compassionate and forgiving of yourself and others is an incredible gift you give to yourself and the world. It raises the vibration everywhere.

Set and maintain boundaries: Boundaries allow you to stand in your power and sovereignty. The wonderful thing about working on your boundaries is that any improvements you make in your spiritual life will positively affect your physical life and vice versa. Healthy boundaries help you have clean and clear energy.

Stop gossiping: This is a don’t do, because gossiping about others lowers your vibration. The rule I follow is to only say things about others that I’d be comfortable saying in their presence.

Create a peaceful space in your life: You need space to breathe, relax and be yourself, both in the physical world and in your personal emotional and energetic space. You can create this by decluttering your life—whether that’s your house or your thoughts.

Sit in your usual meditation posture. Take three deep breaths, fully inhaling and exhaling. If you like, you can let out your exhales with a big sigh, an audible “aahhhhh!”

Allow your heart center to open. You can do this by visualizing warm white or pink light enveloping the area around your chest, seeping in and energizing your heart. Or you can think of a loved one or anything that makes your heart come alive: a pile of puppies with big eyes playing together, a child in a meadow of flowers, whatever works for you.

Visualize yourself. You can see yourself as a baby or young child or as you are today, however you’re able to hold an image of yourself with compassion.

Now say this mantra (in your head or aloud):

May I be filled with loving kindness
May I be healthy and well
May I be safe in all ways
May I be happy and at ease

Hold the feeling of love and compassion for yourself for a few breaths. You can repeat the mantra several times if you want or you can move on.

Now picture someone you love and are close to. Bring the feeling of them into your heart and mind and hold them there.

Say the mantra with them in mind:

May you be filled with loving kindness
May you be healthy and well
May you be safe in all ways
May you be happy and at ease

Now bring to mind someone you feel neutral about, perhaps someone you don’t know all that well, such as your mail carrier or the person who rings up your groceries at the store.

Visualize them and hold them in your heart and repeat the mantra again:

May you be filled with loving kindness
May you be healthy and well
May you be safe in all ways
May you be happy and at ease

Next, bring to your mind and heart someone you dislike or have a difficult relationship with, either in the past or present. It’s OK if it feels difficult to hold them in a loving way and to repeat the mantra for them. Allow yourself to experience the feelings of discomfort you feel.

Repeat the mantra to them:

May you be filled with loving kindness
May you be healthy and well
May you be safe in all ways
May you be happy and at ease

Now move your awareness to your whole family as well as your neighborhood and/or local community. Include yourself as well and say the mantra again:

May we be filled with loving kindness
May we be healthy and well
May we be safe in all ways
May we be happy and at ease

Finally, zoom out in your consciousness and envelope the entire globe in your mind’s eye, holding the Earth in your heart and repeat the mantra one last time:

May we be filled with loving kindness
May we be healthy and well
May we be safe in all ways
May we be happy and at ease

Here’s a shorthand version of who you picture in each mantra:

• Yourself

• An easy, loving relationship

• A neutral relationship

• A difficult relationship

• Your neighborhood/community

• The world

A summary of class 3 and your homework for the next class.

1. Is letting go of pain part of forgiveness?

2. What setting are you in during your meditation?

3. My experience sending loving kindness to others and synchronicity.

4. Healthy mediumship and do you tell people what you get or what they want to hear?

• It’s just as important to know how to close the door as it is how to open it

• For many developing mediums, the issue is being able to shut it off more than it is being able to turn it on

• If you feel like you’re not getting enough info, learning to deliberately open and close to information from Spirit will also help

• Closing the “door” to information from Spirit doesn’t turn off your intuition

• Begin each meditation or session with a prayer of intention

• Ask for what you need

• State that your door is open

• An example:
  Gracious Spirit, Infinite Intelligence, I know that I am an open and clear medium for (person’s name) to bring them messages that are useful, uplifting and what they need to hear and know right here and now for their highest and best good. I ask this in all honesty and sincerity. My door is open. And so it is.

• For a group meditation/circle:
  Gracious Spirit, Infinite Intelligence, thank you for bringing us together today so that we may learn and grow together, in a nurturing, supportive circle. Help us have the courage to give out the messages we receive, knowing that only the highest and best good comes to us. Our doors are open. And so it is.

• Visualizing a mechanism to open and close yourself to Spirit communication is super useful

• The door: Imagine a hatch or trapdoor on the top of your skull, right on your crown chakra. It’s able to open and close, directed by your will and intent.

• It can be like a trapdoor that opens up out of the top of your skull. It can be a sliding hatch that retracts into your skull. Go with whatever image works for you.

If you don’t yet have a hatch, let’s make one.

• Close your eyes. Sit relaxed and upright. Take 3 deep breaths.

• Allow yourself to connect with your crown chakra and a spirit guide or higher energy in Spirit.

• See your guide creating the opening in the top of your skull, using white light (a white light laser powered by pure energy from Infinite Intelligence). First it cuts one side, then the second, then the third, then the forth.

• Allow your crown chakra to fill with white light. Feel its warmth and let it relax and open your door

• Bonus: add a satellite dish, antenna or receiver of some kind ?

• When you want to connect with Spirit, visualize the door in your head opening, allowing communication to come in.

• At the end of a reading or circle, make sure you close your hatch!

• You can use a closing prayer/benediction:

• I’ll leave that with you with love and light. Please take your people home with you. My doors are closed.

• Thank you, Spirit, for being here with us today. For the learning and friendship we’ve shared and the knowledge we’ve received. Shine the light of our highest good along our path as we go forward from here today. Our doors are closed. And so it is.

• As you do this, visualize your hatch closing to communication from Spirit.

• Decide on and use a physical signal to let Spirit know you’re ready to connect
  E.g. Rubbing your hands together

• Decide on and use a physical signal to let Spirit know you’re done connecting
  E.g. Sweeping your hands through the air or tapping the top of your head

• Having a regular meditation schedule in which you’re open to Spirit communication is helpful

• It lets Spirit know you’re serious about developing and when you’re available (so you’re not bugged all the time)

• It gets you into an internal rhythm of your own subtle energy and inner self being more ready to be open and connect with Spirit at those times. We’re creatures of habit. Use it to your advantage.

• So what’s next?

• Keep taking classes

• Find a mentor or group to sit with regularly

• Meditate regularly – this helps you learn more about yourself, which helps you distinguish Spirit communication from your own imagination, and also teaches your mind to focus, which allows you to connect with and stay connected to the specific frequency of a person in Spirit

• Journal about your meditations

• Read books, e.g. Mediumship by Konstanza Morning Star

• Know that if you set your intention, Spirit will step in and guide you to what you need. That’s how it works.

Adapted from Konstanza Morning Star’s book Medium

Relax your body

• Take 3 deep breaths

• Relax your mind and brain. Allow thoughts to drift away and let go of all expectations.

• Let the sounds around you relax you even more.

• Allow your feet to relax. Release all the tension in your toes and ankles.

• Allow your shins, calves and knees to relax.

• Allow your thighs, bottom and pelvis to relax.

• Allow your lower abdomen and back to relax.

• Allow your upper abdomen, upper back, shoulders to relax

• Allow your arms, elbows, forearms, wrists and hands to relax

• Allow your throat and neck to relax.

• Your jaw, mouth and tongue. Your cheeks, ears, eyes and eyelids. Your forehead and skull.

• Each breath becomes more peaceful and relaxed.

Center yourself

• Bring your awareness to your spiritual center inside your body. Perhaps in your heart center, in your belly or in your head.

• See where you feel most balanced and centered.

• Feel your energy gather in this special place and notice how you’re beginning to feel more vibrant and alert.

Focus on your breath

• Gently focus your attention on your breath.

• Feel your body expand as you inhale – your chest, your belly

• Notice the air leave your lungs and feel your body get smaller as you exhale.

• As you inhale, feel your body life. As you exhale, allow your mind to unwind.

• With each inhalation, allow your heart center, that loving place in the center of your chest, to expand and become softer and more loving.

• As you exhale, breathe out anything that no longer serves you.

• Inhale love. Exhale tension.

Blend earth and divine energy

• Visualize roots extending from the bottom of your feet into the Earth. Connecting you with the Earth and its grounding energy.

• As you breathe in, allow yourself to breathe in Earth energy through the bottoms of your feet, up into your body, up to your heart center.

• With your next breath, visualize divine energy entering in through your crown chakra, flowing down through your head and into your heart center.

• These two energies blend together within you, igniting the divine spark within you.

Attune with the divine

• Allow your divine spark within you, that animates you and gives you life, to become alive. Allow it to ignite into a flame that burns brightly, fueled by divine energy.

• Allow the divine flame within you to merge with the divine presence all around you. Bring yourself into attunement, into alignment, with the source of all that is. Imagine tuning yourself to the energy of the divine, like an instrument being tuned to a tuning fork.

• You are a part of this divine energy, so you know how to vibrate in alignment with it. Stay here for a while, enjoying your connection with Spirit.

1. How did incorporating raising your vibration into your week go?

2. Being in the present moment.

3. Meditation responses - going out of your body

4. Feedback in using Insight Timer, Medium book, raising your vibration = clearing your vibration.

5. Feedback on course and my teaching style.

6. Seeing Spirit out of the corner of your eye, am I drawing in everything around me?

7. Other classes I teach.

8. Are there any pre-requisites for taking any of my classes?

9. Spontaneous things happen when you get serious about meditation.

10. What happened when I signed up for Morris Pratt Institute's course.

11. Blessings to everyone in the course.