Udemy
  •  
  •  
  •  
  •  
  •  
  •  
  •  
  •  
  •  
  •  
  •  
  •  
  •  
Development
Web Development Data Science Mobile Development Programming Languages Game Development Database Design & Development Software Testing Software Engineering Development Tools No-Code Development
Business
Entrepreneurship Communications Management Sales Business Strategy Operations Project Management Business Law Business Analytics & Intelligence Human Resources Industry E-Commerce Media Real Estate Other Business
Finance & Accounting
Accounting & Bookkeeping Compliance Cryptocurrency & Blockchain Economics Finance Finance Cert & Exam Prep Financial Modeling & Analysis Investing & Trading Money Management Tools Taxes Other Finance & Accounting
IT & Software
IT Certification Network & Security Hardware Operating Systems Other IT & Software
Office Productivity
Microsoft Apple Google SAP Oracle Other Office Productivity
Personal Development
Personal Transformation Personal Productivity Leadership Career Development Parenting & Relationships Happiness Esoteric Practices Religion & Spirituality Personal Brand Building Creativity Influence Self Esteem & Confidence Stress Management Memory & Study Skills Motivation Other Personal Development
Design
Web Design Graphic Design & Illustration Design Tools User Experience Design Game Design Design Thinking 3D & Animation Fashion Design Architectural Design Interior Design Other Design
Marketing
Digital Marketing Search Engine Optimization Social Media Marketing Branding Marketing Fundamentals Marketing Analytics & Automation Public Relations Advertising Video & Mobile Marketing Content Marketing Growth Hacking Affiliate Marketing Product Marketing Other Marketing
Lifestyle
Arts & Crafts Beauty & Makeup Esoteric Practices Food & Beverage Gaming Home Improvement Pet Care & Training Travel Other Lifestyle
Photography & Video
Digital Photography Photography Portrait Photography Photography Tools Commercial Photography Video Design Other Photography & Video
Health & Fitness
Fitness General Health Sports Nutrition Yoga Mental Health Dieting Self Defense Safety & First Aid Dance Meditation Other Health & Fitness
Music
Instruments Music Production Music Fundamentals Vocal Music Techniques Music Software Other Music
Teaching & Academics
Engineering Humanities Math Science Online Education Social Science Language Teacher Training Test Prep Other Teaching & Academics
AWS Certification Microsoft Certification AWS Certified Solutions Architect - Associate AWS Certified Cloud Practitioner CompTIA A+ Cisco CCNA Amazon AWS CompTIA Security+ Microsoft AZ-900
Graphic Design Photoshop Adobe Illustrator Drawing Digital Painting InDesign Character Design Canva Figure Drawing
Life Coach Training Neuro-Linguistic Programming Personal Development Mindfulness Personal Transformation Life Purpose Meditation CBT Emotional Intelligence
Web Development JavaScript React CSS Angular PHP Node.Js WordPress Vue JS
Google Flutter Android Development iOS Development React Native Swift Dart Programming Language Mobile Development Kotlin SwiftUI
Digital Marketing Google Ads (Adwords) Social Media Marketing Google Ads (AdWords) Certification Marketing Strategy Internet Marketing YouTube Marketing Email Marketing Retargeting
Microsoft Power BI SQL Tableau Business Analysis Data Modeling Business Intelligence MySQL Data Analysis Blockchain
Business Fundamentals Entrepreneurship Fundamentals Business Strategy Business Plan Startup Online Business Freelancing Blogging Home Business
Unity Game Development Fundamentals Unreal Engine C# 3D Game Development C++ 2D Game Development Unreal Engine Blueprints Blender
30-Day Money-Back Guarantee
Personal Development Happiness Forgiveness

7 steps to deepen or heal the connection with your parents

The potent way to reach inner strength and relaxation
Rating: 4.6 out of 54.6 (30 ratings)
505 students
Created by Bertold Ulsamer
Last updated 2/2017
English
English [Auto]
30-Day Money-Back Guarantee

What you'll learn

  • You will establish a relaxed relationship with your parents.
  • You will find peace with your past.
  • You will cast a new light on your parents and see them with different eyes.
  • You will withdraw from tensions between your parents.
  • You will be able to meet your parents with more sympathy and kindness.
  • You will find inner autonomy and still be able to keep in touch.
  • You will find inner peace.

Requirements

  • The longing to feel deeply connected to your parents.
  • The readiness to get to know yourself more deeply.
  • The courage to face your past.
  • Your parents don‘t need to contribute. A reconciliation is possible even if your mother or father have died.

Description

You want to improve the relationship with your parents? Maybe you notice a certain distance or you broke off the contact completely. Maybe you are angry and hurt and expect that your parents take the first step towards asking you forgiveness.

This course is an intensive personal journey which connects you with yourself and with your parents more deeply. For this you do not need the cooperation of your parents, you can do it all by yourself.

You will gain: inner peace, self-confidence, power and joy of life. Meeting your parents will become more relaxed and peaceful.

This journey is worth doing it. If you are aware of it or not - the connection with father and mother has a great impact on your partnership and the relationship with your children. This special connection shapes your life till your death and influences the satisfaction with your life in many ways.

This course provides you with the insights of more than 20 years of working on this topic: The first part contains 7 steps which will help you to find peace with your parents. The second part helps you to deal with barriers which might occur. They often have the roots in your larger system of your family of origin.

You will get the essence of a 5-day seminar. This course is practical and I will lead you through all the necessary steps.

Who this course is for:

  • This course is for everyone who wants to improve or heal their relationship with their parents.

Course content

6 sections • 56 lectures • 4h 28m total length

  • Preview02:01
  • Preview03:29
  • Preview03:50
  • What is your attitude towards life?
    03:14
  • Preview03:48

  • Introduction - Reasons for tensions between parents and children
    02:26
  • Statement 1: All parents love their children
    04:15
  • Statement 2: All children love their parents
    04:09
  • Two different ways to feel more love for your parents
    02:12
  • Being a good parent for your own child
    02:31

  • Introduction: How to inwardly get closer to your parents
    01:22
  • Step 1: It’s not a shame to feel hurt
    05:41
  • Step 1: Do you have to forgive your parents what they did to you?
    03:27
  • Practice Step 1: I stand by my wounds
    05:42
  • Practice Step 1: A sincere letter to father or mother
    03:24
  • Step 2: Similarity connects – difference separates
    05:32
  • Practice Step 2: I name the similarities to father and mother
    05:00
  • Step 3: A child looks with needy eyes only
    02:04
  • Practice Step 3: I look with the eyes of a grown-up at my father and mother
    10:55
  • Step 4: Parents make mistakes and cannot meet their child’s special needs
    04:11
  • Step 4: Parents themselves are needy sometimes
    04:25
  • Step 4: Children feel guilty when they do not get enough love
    03:48
  • Practice Step 4: I realise that the missing love has nothing to do with me as a
    05:22
  • Step 5: A good distance to mother and father helps to see them clearly
    02:18
  • Practice Step 5: I express my respect for mother and father
    05:18
  • Step 6: Children are expensive for parents and take these expenses for granted
    03:40
  • Practice Step 6: I am thankful for what I received
    03:37
  • Step 7: Is life a burden or a gift?
    03:26
  • Practice Step 7: I thank my mother for my life
    03:05
  • Practice Step 7: I thank my father for my life
    02:18
  • Conclusion: The 7 steps are not a ladder but a spiral
    02:51

  • Getting to know barriers that might impede the 7 steps
    03:03
  • Preview04:51
  • Children as surrogates
    06:01
  • Practice: I withdraw from tensions between father and mother
    12:58
  • Practice: For a daughter who stood too close at the side of the father
    05:23
  • Practice: For a son who stood too close at the side of the mother
    07:12
  • The meaning of early death in a family
    06:02
  • The meaning of outsiders in a family
    05:33
  • Practice: I dissolve harmful connections with ancestors
    08:48
  • How does the male power reach the man? How does the female power reach the woman
    02:19
  • Practice for a man: I find my connection with the male power
    07:12
  • Practice for a woman: I find my connection with the female power
    10:30
  • What do you know about your ancestors?
    06:42
  • Practice: I get in touch with my ancestors
    07:57
  • Conclusion: The importance of our roots
    04:02

  • Introduction
    02:07
  • Adoption and artificial insemination
    07:24
  • What if parents hurt their child in an extreme way?
    05:50
  • When parents grow old
    03:12

  • Introduction
    00:46
  • Practice: What if my parents had had all the support they needed?
    07:27
  • Practice: What I always wanted to hear from my parents
    05:20
  • Practice: I make my way with my parents as support in the back
    09:37
  • Outlook: Do not push yourself – trust in your growth
    04:26
  • Personal remark
    04:21

Instructor

Bertold Ulsamer
Therapeut, Trainer und Coach
Bertold Ulsamer
  • 4.6 Instructor Rating
  • 2,174 Reviews
  • 34,802 Students
  • 38 Courses

~* German Version below *~

PhD in law, certified clinical psychologist, NLP-trainer, trauma therapist (Peter Levine), originally from Germany. My strength is: Putting complicated psychological issues in a nutshell. Understandable for everyone - because the essence is simple! Moreover, I want my participants not only to get ahead theoretically, but also practically. Thus I set great value on them making new experiences and gaining new personal insights.

After graduating in law I also studied psychology. I quickly noticed that I way prefer working with humans to working with paragraphs. So I started to practice as a psychologist - initially with individuals, then mainly with groups. Together with a colleague I founded an institute for NLP in management trainin~* German Version below *~g. We developed and held many seminars about leadership, self-management and communication for customers like BMW, Siemens and Lufthansa.

In the 90’s I discovered the great influence of your own family of origin through the method of “family constellations”. Using this instrument I returned to working as a therapist and held seminars and trainings all over the world (e.g. in Australia, India, South Africa, Russia and the US).

Today I integrate everything I have learned working as a coach and therapist, for the last 9 years, oftentimes in China. I am the author of more than 20 books in the field of professional communication, self-management, family constellations and personal growth that have been translated into 10 languages.

If you are interested in the work I am doing then you may want to get information about my new courses and books. Inscribe you for my newsletter! And you will get reductions of some courses. You can do that on my website.


Dr. jur., Dipl.-Psychologe, NLP-Trainer, Traumatherapeut (Peter Levine). Meine Stärke ist: komplizierte psychologische Sachverhalte verständlich auf den Punkt bringen. Denn das Wesentliche ist im Grunde einfach! Und dann ist mir vor allem wichtig, dass Teilnehmerinnen und Teilnehmer eigene Erfahrungen machen und neue Einsichten gewinnen statt nur in der Theorie schlauer zu werden!

Nach dem Jurastudium habe ich noch Psychologie studiert. Schnell habe ich gemerkt, dass mir Menschen lieber sind als Paragraphen. Habe dann mit einer kleinen Praxis angefangen, aber vor allem immer mit Gruppen gearbeitet. Ein Kollege und ich gründeten dann ein Institut für Management-Training, wo ich viele Seminare zu Führung, Kommunikation und Selbst-management durchführte für Kunden wie BMW, Lufthansa und Siemens. Mitte der 90er Jahre entdeckte ich die große Auswirkung der eigenen Familie im Hintergrund über die Methode Familienaufstellungen. Damit ging ich noch einmal in die therapeutische Richtung und führte Seminare und Fortbildungen in der ganzen Welt durchgeführt (z. B. in Australien, Indien, Südafrika, USA, Russland) Heute integriere ich all das, was ich bisher gelernt habe, und arbeite als Seminarleiter, Therapeut und Coach, seit zehn Jahren häufig in China. Ich bin Autor von 24 Büchern zu den Themen Kommunikation, Selbstmanagement und Aufstellungsarbeit, von denen es Übersetzungen in zehn Sprachen gibt. 



  • Udemy for Business
  • Teach on Udemy
  • Get the app
  • About us
  • Contact us
  • Careers
  • Blog
  • Help and Support
  • Affiliate
  • Impressum Kontakt
  • Terms
  • Privacy policy
  • Cookie settings
  • Sitemap
  • Featured courses
Udemy
© 2021 Udemy, Inc.