7 steps to deepen or heal the connection with your parents

Name: 7 steps to deepen or heal the connection with your parents
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The potent way to reach inner strength and relaxation

Created byBertold Ulsamer

Last updated 2/2017

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What you'll learn

You will establish a relaxed relationship with your parents.
You will find peace with your past.
You will cast a new light on your parents and see them with different eyes.
You will withdraw from tensions between your parents.
You will be able to meet your parents with more sympathy and kindness.
You will find inner autonomy and still be able to keep in touch.
You will find inner peace.

Course content

6 sections • 56 lectures • 4h 28m total length

Welcome to this course2:01
What you learn in this course3:29
Explore seven practical steps to deepen or heal the connection with your parents in a spiraling, nonlinear journey. Begin with father and mother, then expand to family and ancestors.
About me3:50
What is your attitude towards life?3:14
Explore how your attitude toward life reflects your relationship with your parents and how healing that connection can transform your deeper relationship with life.
What does a mature relationship of a grown-up to the parents look like?3:48

Introduction - Reasons for tensions between parents and children2:26
Statement 1: All parents love their children4:15
Explores why all parents love their children yet face conflict, citing two causes: limited love from a parent's own childhood and war-time trauma that shapes empathy and behavior.
Statement 2: All children love their parents4:09
Two different ways to feel more love for your parents2:12
Being a good parent for your own child2:31

Introduction: How to inwardly get closer to your parents1:22
Step 1: It’s not a shame to feel hurt5:41
Step 1: Do you have to forgive your parents what they did to you?3:27
Practice Step 1: I stand by my wounds5:42
Practice Step 1: A sincere letter to father or mother3:24
Write a sincere letter to your father or mother to surface feelings. Reread it over time to gain distance; don't send it, then burn or release it to find peace.
Step 2: Similarity connects – difference separates5:32
Practice Step 2: I name the similarities to father and mother5:00
Step 3: A child looks with needy eyes only2:04
Look to your parents with curious, grown-up eyes, free of judgments. Seek to understand their life and how they became who they are, and open up with fresh curiosity.
Practice Step 3: I look with the eyes of a grown-up at my father and mother10:55
Step 4: Parents make mistakes and cannot meet their child’s special needs4:11
Acknowledge that parents are not perfect and sometimes fail to meet a child's needs. Recognize stress and rules, moments of care across culture and history, to heal the parent-child connection.
Step 4: Parents themselves are needy sometimes4:25
Parents' own wounds create pain that makes them overlook the child and project unfulfilled longings onto the child.
Step 4: Children feel guilty when they do not get enough love3:48
Explore how children feel unseen by parents, experience guilt when love is scarce, and learn to reframe self-blame to heal the parent-child connection.
Practice Step 4: I realise that the missing love has nothing to do with me as a5:22
Step 5: A good distance to mother and father helps to see them clearly2:18
Practice Step 5: I express my respect for mother and father5:18
Step 6: Children are expensive for parents and take these expenses for granted3:40
Practice Step 6: I am thankful for what I received3:37
Step 7: Is life a burden or a gift?3:26
Explore the gratitude mindset of recognizing life as a gift that begins with your parents, and learn to connect with that life through thankfulness and mindful reflection.
Practice Step 7: I thank my mother for my life3:05
Practice Step 7: I thank my father for my life2:18
Conclusion: The 7 steps are not a ladder but a spiral2:51

Getting to know barriers that might impede the 7 steps3:03
A child’s love for father or mother – can it be too big?4:51
Children as surrogates6:01
Explore how children act as surrogates for parental relationships, revealing replacements and how open or closed hearts shape parent-child bonds through first love and longing.
Practice: I withdraw from tensions between father and mother12:58
Practice: For a daughter who stood too close at the side of the father5:23
Practice: For a son who stood too close at the side of the mother7:12
Engage in a guided visualization to reframe your relationship with your mother and father by exploring distance, responsibility, and healing, allowing shared forgiveness and openhearted connection.
The meaning of early death in a family6:02
Explore how early death reshapes family roles as children replace departed relatives through names and memories; learn to heal family confusion and discover identity beyond a name.
The meaning of outsiders in a family5:33
Explore how outsiders in a family may be replaced across generations. Learn how hidden family stories, including a grandfather's suicide, can illuminate connections and deepen your relationship with your parents.
Practice: I dissolve harmful connections with ancestors8:48
How does the male power reach the man? How does the female power reach the woman2:19
Practice for a man: I find my connection with the male power7:12
Practice connecting with your main energy and male power by visualizing your father and ancestors behind him. Honor their support and invite their guidance to strengthen your sense of manhood.
Practice for a woman: I find my connection with the female power10:30
Practice connecting with your female energy and power. Visualize your mother and the line of ancestors, grandmother and great-grandmother, and feel the open heart and mutual support flowing to you.
What do you know about your ancestors?6:42
Practice: I get in touch with my ancestors7:57
Conclusion: The importance of our roots4:02

Introduction0:46
Move toward completing the course by guiding participants through final exercises that consolidate healing and deepen the connection with your parents, introducing resources and more love along the way.
Practice: What if my parents had had all the support they needed?7:27
Practice: What I always wanted to hear from my parents5:20
Practice: I make my way with my parents as support in the back9:37
Outlook: Do not push yourself – trust in your growth4:26
Embrace growth with patience, not pressure, and trust that healing your relationship with your parents unfolds like a patient oak tree rather than a quick bloom.
Personal remark4:21
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Requirements

The longing to feel deeply connected to your parents.
The readiness to get to know yourself more deeply.
The courage to face your past.
Your parents don‘t need to contribute. A reconciliation is possible even if your mother or father have died.

Description

You want to improve the relationship with your parents? Maybe you notice a certain distance or you broke off the contact completely. Maybe you are angry and hurt and expect that your parents take the first step towards asking you forgiveness.

This course is an intensive personal journey which connects you with yourself and with your parents more deeply. For this you do not need the cooperation of your parents, you can do it all by yourself.

You will gain: inner peace, self-confidence, power and joy of life. Meeting your parents will become more relaxed and peaceful.

This journey is worth doing it. If you are aware of it or not - the connection with father and mother has a great impact on your partnership and the relationship with your children. This special connection shapes your life till your death and influences the satisfaction with your life in many ways.

This course provides you with the insights of more than 20 years of working on this topic: The first part contains 7 steps which will help you to find peace with your parents. The second part helps you to deal with barriers which might occur. They often have the roots in your larger system of your family of origin.

You will get the essence of a 5-day seminar. This course is practical and I will lead you through all the necessary steps.

Who this course is for:

This course is for everyone who wants to improve or heal their relationship with their parents.

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Course content

Introduction5 lectures • 16min

Finding the hidden love5 lectures • 16min

Start your journey - The 7 steps to healing21 lectures • 1hr 27min

Barriers within the family system15 lectures • 1hr 39min

Special Questions4 lectures • 19min

Last but not least6 lectures • 32min

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