Practical Tips for Family Caregivers
- Open mind
- Open heart
"Prognosis? It's about six months. I'm sorry."
No one wants to hear those words from a doctor. It's even worse hearing them for someone you love.
I remember it like it was yesterday. It was 5:10pm on an early Friday evening when I learned my mother was diagnosed with stage IV terminal cancer.
Immediate thoughts then raced through my mind:
What does that mean?
How do I tell her?
How will she react?
Will she die?
Will she suffer?
What do we do next?
What do I do next?
The next few weeks were a dizzy blur of doctors appointments, tests, scans, crying, laughing, and everything in between.
We talked to 9 doctors in the first three weeks. 7 contradicted the other 2 on the best course of action. 8 gave her 6 months. The 9th gave her 6-12 months.
Best available statistics suggested a 5 year survival rate of <0.5% at the time (not even 1%)!
Happy update: We're now 8 and half years since my mom's initial diagnosis with stage 4 cancer.
So just because doctors give you six months, it's not written in stone. But it also hasn't been easy. During that time, we've had many downs and many ups. We've learned a lot as a family.
I've learned a lot as a caregiver.
And I hope you can learn something useful from our experience.
And I put all of those lessons into this course so that it could possibly help you if you find yourself or family in similar circumstances.
I'm also gathering and documenting the best tips and advice from other individuals who just want to help out and share.
This course is a work in progress.
As I gather and learn more, I'll share them in this course.
Who is the course for?
The caregivers: It's for you if you find yourself (suddenly) thrust into the role of caring for a loved one who is facing serious or terminal illness and want strategies, tips, and best practices to help you give your best care.
The care receivers: It's for those of you who are receiving care from a loved one for your serious illness and want to better understand what they're going through and how you could best support their efforts in caring for you. Help them help you!
The care supporters: It's for those of you who are family, significant others, friends, or colleagues to a caregiver and want to know how best to support them.
What's not in the course?
Because every ones medical situation or illness is different and I am not a medical doctor, I will not be providing any medical advice (for good reason).
What I will provide are strategies, tips, tools, links to resources, and other daily practices that have helped me as a caregiver.
Why did you make this course?
So many things I know now that I wish I knew at the very beginning. I would have felt less lost, less overwhelmed, and less stressed. I would have been able to give my mom even better care.
So I hope I could help others who are at earlier stages of their own journeys.
But I'm still learning and looking for ways to do better. With your feedback, I'm sure I'll also learn from you new ways to improve the care that I could continue to give my mom.
Plus, it would really make my mom smile knowing that our experience might be helping others, even complete strangers.
- You are or will become a primary caregiver to a loved one suffering from serious or terminal illness
- Your significant other is a caregiver and you want to be most supportive
- Your friend is a caregiver and you want to know how best to be supportive
- You have serious or terminal illness and are or will be receiving care from someone
- What This Course Is and Isn't About01:32
- Who Should Take This Course?02:05
- How to Take this Course00:43
- What is the War Chest?00:58
- Your Caregiving Mantra02:11
- The Only Place That Matters02:09
- I Get to Have02:38
- How to Look at Statistics04:04
- Ask for Help02:02
- What Would You Want?01:37
- Quick Ask00:48
- Why You Need a Game Plan01:22
- Clear Your Calendar01:22
- Take Inventory - Everyone Who Could Be Helpful01:29
- Mind & Spirit02:12
- Build Cushion01:35
- Keep Trials in Mind01:58
- Positive to Negative Ratio01:30
- Things to Look Forward To01:45
- Priming & Use of Language02:16
- Thoughts on "Complementary" & "Alternative" Therapies03:13
- Conversations To Have00:53
- Create a Private Facebook Group00:22
- Put Your Mask On First01:05
- Identify, Eliminate & Reduce Leeches02:22
- Managing Time01:35
- Managing Energy01:10
- Lazy Healthy Diet02:07
- Lazy Fitness04:08
- Simple Destressing02:30
- Have Your Go To Resources00:58
- Get Your Me Time01:36
- Understanding the Basics01:24
- Finding Good Doctors05:22
- Be Nice to Gatekeepers and Expediters01:43
- ID and Prioritize Risks02:13
- Contingencies & Stacking Requests03:48
- Follow Up01:32
- Prep for a Dr's Appointment01:51
- Treatment Roadmap02:32
- Simple Question to Ask Yourself00:58
- Don't Say "How Can I Help?"01:26
- Get and Give Green Lights01:31
- You Choose Everyday01:48
- Initiate the Tough Talks01:18
- Have the Right Benchmarks02:10
- Fight to Delay Every "Last"00:40
- Savor Each Moment01:20
- Want to Chat 1 on 1?00:05
- How Can You Help?00:36
- Other Resources Overview00:38
- For Inspiration00:23
- For Medical Research00:39
- For Clinical Trials00:19
- Mood Booster Music00:39
- If Using a Cane00:15
- Other Helpful Things For the House01:04
- How to Find Outside Caregivers - Interview with KindlyCare.com00:04
- Donation to Lung Cancer Alliance00:08
Hey, thank you for considering taking one of my courses.
I am a real estate and business consultant based out of Los Angeles CA.
I am the co-author of "Airbnb for Dummies", to be widely released by Wiley Publishing in August 2020, and the author of "Real Estate Investing QuickStart Guide", to be widely released by ClydeBank Media in July 2020.
I currently help private real estate investors with their acquisitions and deal structuring and advise startup entrepreneurs on their business models and financial forecasts.
Previously, I was head of marketing analytics at the Panda Restaurant Group after serving as a senior financial analyst supporting new store underwriting efforts.
Before that, I was a global M&A manager for Ingram Micro, a Fortune 80 company. Prior to that, I worked on commercial real estate acquisitions at a private equity real estate fund, covering a wide range of asset classes across the western USA.
I am also a cofounder of LearnBNB, a boutique consultancy and education site specializing in short term rental investing and operations.
I received dual degrees in Computer Engineering (Magna Cum Laude) and Economics (Summa Cum Laude) from UC Irvine and an MBA from Stanford University.