Practical Tips for Family Caregivers

Practical strategies and tips for those suddenly thrust into the role of caregiver for a loved one.
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6,836 students
Practical Tips for Family Caregivers
Rating: 4.2 out of 5 (65 ratings)
6,836 students
Create a regret free game plan for you and your loved one
Be able to recognize important trade offs
Minimize potential for unnecessary delays and stress
Practice compassion, patience, and gratitude daily
Get the most out of doctor's appointments
Confidently seek and ask others for help
Maintain motivation and energy
Discover strength inside you that you never knew existed

Requirements

  • Open mind
  • Open heart
Description

"Prognosis? It's about six months. I'm sorry."

No one wants to hear those words from a doctor.  It's even worse hearing them for someone you love.


I remember it like it was yesterday. It was 5:10pm on an early Friday evening when I learned my mother was diagnosed with stage IV terminal cancer.

Immediate thoughts then raced through my mind:

  • What does that mean?

  • How do I tell her?

  • How will she react?

  • Will she die?

  • Will she suffer?

  • What do we do next?

  • What do I do next?

  • etc...

The next few weeks were a dizzy blur of doctors appointments, tests, scans, crying, laughing, and everything in between.

We talked to 9 doctors in the first three weeks. 7 contradicted the other 2 on the best course of action. 8 gave her 6 months. The 9th gave her 6-12 months.

Best available statistics suggested a 5 year survival rate of <0.5% at the time (not even 1%)!

Happy update: We're now 8 and half years since my mom's initial diagnosis with stage 4 cancer.

So just because doctors give you six months, it's not written in stone.  But it also hasn't been easy.  During that time, we've had many downs and many ups. We've learned a lot as a family.

I've learned a lot as a caregiver.

And I hope you can learn something useful from our experience.

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And I put all of those lessons into this course so that it could possibly help you if you find yourself or family in similar circumstances.

I'm also gathering and documenting the best tips and advice from other individuals who just want to help out and share. 

This course is a work in progress.

As I gather and learn more, I'll share them in this course. 

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Who is the course for?

The caregivers: It's for you if you find yourself (suddenly) thrust into the role of caring for a loved one who is facing serious or terminal illness and want strategies, tips, and best practices to help you give your best care.

The care receivers: It's for those of you who are receiving care from a loved one for your serious illness and want to better understand what they're going through and how you could best support their efforts in caring for you. Help them help you!

The care supporters: It's for those of you who are family, significant others, friends, or colleagues to a caregiver and want to know how best to support them.

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What's not in the course?

Because every ones medical situation or illness is different and I am not a medical doctor, I will not be providing any medical advice (for good reason).

What I will provide are strategies, tips, tools, links to resources, and other daily practices that have helped me as a caregiver. 

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Why did you make this course?

So many things I know now that I wish I knew at the very beginning. I would have felt less lost, less overwhelmed, and less stressed. I would have been able to give my mom even better care.

So I hope I could help others who are at earlier stages of their own journeys.

But I'm still learning and looking for ways to do better. With your feedback, I'm sure I'll also learn from you new ways to improve the care that I could continue to give my mom.

Plus, it would really make my mom smile knowing that our experience might be helping others, even complete strangers.


Who this course is for:
  • You are or will become a primary caregiver to a loved one suffering from serious or terminal illness
  • Your significant other is a caregiver and you want to be most supportive
  • Your friend is a caregiver and you want to know how best to be supportive
  • You have serious or terminal illness and are or will be receiving care from someone
Course content
9 sections • 65 lectures • 1h 43m total length
  • Welcome
    00:59
  • What This Course Is and Isn't About
    01:32
  • Who Should Take This Course?
    02:05
  • How to Take this Course
    00:43
  • What is the War Chest?
    00:58
  • Your Caregiving Mantra
    02:11
  • The Only Place That Matters
    02:09
  • I Get to Have
    02:38
  • Trade-Offs
    01:56
  • How to Look at Statistics
    04:04
  • Celebrate
    01:18
  • Ask for Help
    02:02
  • What Would You Want?
    01:37
  • Quick Ask
    00:48
  • Why You Need a Game Plan
    01:22
  • Clear Your Calendar
    01:22
  • Take Inventory - Everyone Who Could Be Helpful
    01:29
  • Body
    02:01
  • Mind & Spirit
    02:12
  • Build Cushion
    01:35
  • Keep Trials in Mind
    01:58
  • Positive to Negative Ratio
    01:30
  • Things to Look Forward To
    01:45
  • Priming & Use of Language
    02:16
  • Thoughts on "Complementary" & "Alternative" Therapies
    03:13
  • Environment
    01:27
  • Conversations To Have
    00:53
  • Create a Private Facebook Group
    00:22
  • Put Your Mask On First
    01:05
  • Identify, Eliminate & Reduce Leeches
    02:22
  • Managing Time
    01:35
  • Managing Energy
    01:10
  • Lazy Healthy Diet
    02:07
  • Lazy Fitness
    04:08
  • Simple Destressing
    02:30
  • Have Your Go To Resources
    00:58
  • Get Your Me Time
    01:36
  • Understanding the Basics
    01:24
  • Finding Good Doctors
    05:22
  • Be Nice to Gatekeepers and Expediters
    01:43
  • ID and Prioritize Risks
    02:13
  • Contingencies & Stacking Requests
    03:48
  • Follow Up
    01:32
  • Prep for a Dr's Appointment
    01:51
  • Treatment Roadmap
    02:32
  • Simple Question to Ask Yourself
    00:58
  • Don't Say "How Can I Help?"
    01:26
  • Get and Give Green Lights
    01:31
  • You Choose Everyday
    01:48
  • Initiate the Tough Talks
    01:18
  • Have the Right Benchmarks
    02:10
  • Fight to Delay Every "Last"
    00:40
  • Savor Each Moment
    01:20
  • Closing
    00:48
  • Want to Chat 1 on 1?
    00:05
  • How Can You Help?
    00:36
  • Other Resources Overview
    00:38
  • For Inspiration
    00:23
  • For Medical Research
    00:39
  • For Clinical Trials
    00:19
  • Mood Booster Music
    00:39
  • If Using a Cane
    00:15
  • Other Helpful Things For the House
    01:04
  • How to Find Outside Caregivers - Interview with KindlyCare.com
    00:04
  • Donation to Lung Cancer Alliance
    00:08

Instructor
Stanford MBA | Real Estate | Financial & Data Analysis
Symon He
  • 4.5 Instructor Rating
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Hey, thank you for considering taking one of my courses.

I am a real estate and business consultant based out of Los Angeles CA.

I am the co-author of "Airbnb for Dummies", to be widely released by Wiley Publishing in August 2020, and the author of "Real Estate Investing QuickStart Guide", to be widely released by ClydeBank Media in July 2020.

I currently help private real estate investors with their acquisitions and deal structuring and advise startup entrepreneurs on their business models and financial forecasts.

Previously, I was head of marketing analytics at the Panda Restaurant Group after serving as a senior financial analyst supporting new store underwriting efforts. 

Before that, I was a global M&A manager for Ingram Micro, a Fortune 80 company. Prior to that, I worked on commercial real estate acquisitions at a private equity real estate fund, covering a wide range of asset classes across the western USA.

I am also a cofounder of LearnBNB, a boutique consultancy and education site specializing in short term rental investing and operations.

I received dual degrees in Computer Engineering (Magna Cum Laude) and Economics (Summa Cum Laude) from UC Irvine and an MBA from Stanford University.