Every relationship has its own timeline, its own purpose and its own lessons to teach. Even the most difficult relationships exist to help us learn and grow.
People come and go from our lives, whether by choice or by circumstance. How we cope with these events affects how we move forward, how we see the world and how we feel about our own lives.
The life-changing impact that our relationships bring- sometimes small, sometimes profound.
The Anatomy of Relationships: Understanding the law of relationship, how it works, and how to apply it.
The Five Stages of Closure: Forgiveness, detachment, letting go. Closure is different than grief. Understanding that you might not ever understand why. You can't get closure from any other person, only from yourself.
Coming Full Circle: Reconnection. Reminding yourself who you are. The gift of silence. The only thing that never changes.
Bonus 1: Transformative applications for mental and spiritual evolution and wisdom affirmations for inspiration and peace of mind.
Bonus 2: The Releasing Prayer Video
Bonus 3: Finding Closure Video. What to do when it's back to just "me."
What Others are Saying
"Lissa guides you through the difficult process of accepting the things you cannot change, minimizing the pain, and moving on. You'll feel better, and you'll grow as you learn." Dick Sutphen, Author of Soul Agreements
"Eastern philosophy teaches us that change is inevitable, and yet suffering is not. Lissa Coffey shows us how to learn and grow as we move through the evolution of our relationships." Deepak Chopra, Author of The Ultimate Happiness Prescription
"Closure is the essential guide for anyone who is looking to increase their sense of peace, joy and fulfillment. Follow Lissa's wisdom and experience a total sense of enlightenment." Peggy McColl New York Times Best-Selling Author of Your Destiny Switch
"There can be no doubt that Lissa Coffey knows from whence she speaks when it comes to relationships. She understands that every relationship, regardless of how good or bad it is, shall have an ending as surely as it had a beginning. Lissa shows us how to open the portal of closure and gently guides us through the opening. The result is nothing less than the peace that passes all understanding. Lissa demonstrates how closure allows us to step into the present moment where new life awaits us with open arms." Dennis Merritt Jones, Author of The Art of Being: 101 Ways to Practice Purpose In Your Life
"Lissa is so right about her perspective to relationships. Each person with whom we bond has come into our life for a purpose. They are either a teacher to us or we are a teacher to them. When we focus on the lessons that person's interactions have taught us, then the transition of the relationship, including the ending of it, has great insight for us. All relationships are temporary, so when we embrace that closure is a transition it is easier to move through." Dating Goddess Author of the Adventures in Delicious Dating After 40 series
Madisyn Taylor Interview With Lissa Coffey
Madisyn Taylor: Hi Lissa! What do you mean by the title of this course, Finding Peace When Relationships Change?
Lissa Coffey: If we start with the premise that we're all connected, then we are always connected, even before we enter into a relationship. And if we're all connected, then a relationship doesn't end but it can change. Sometimes this change is something we don't expect or don't want. It can be upsetting and cause heartache. We might try to analyze the cause, blame ourselves, stress out, or lose sleep. We might even try to fight the change. At a certain point we realize that we need to come to terms with all that has happened, and we seek peace. It can be a challenge, but we need to find that peace in order to move forward.
MT: How does somebody know when a relationship needs to change, simply ebb and flow, or dissolve?
LC: Change is inevitable in this universe. Everything is in flux. Often, we don't even notice when a relationship is changing. We look back and realize it changed when we weren't paying attention. The law of relationship says that we are here to help each other learn and grow. If we're in a relationship where we are feeling held back, burdened, abandoned, then those are all signs that something has changed or needs to change within the relationship.
MT: I'm a big lover of spiritual tools and having a large toolbox! What types of tools do you offer in this course?
LC: I feel the same way! So many books and courses are all about theory, and I didn't want this course to be like that. When I was going through the process of finding peace when a relationship changed, I needed things to actually do. I've included many practical, healing, beneficial actions to take so that you can really see and feel the progress you're making along the way. There are tools to help clear the body since the body can hold emotions that act like toxins. There are tools to help clear the mind, which can get stuck in perseverating thoughts. There are tools to help clear your space because your environment holds energy the same way that your body does.
MT: I believe that the most important relationship we will ever have is with our self. Lesson 11 teaches about reconnection with self, the only thing that never changes. Why is this important?
LC: Life is all about relationships, and our first relationship is with the self. We tend to forget this. We tend to look outside of ourselves for validation, happiness, companionship, or whatever. The truth is that we are whole and complete just as we are, where we are. We need to really prioritize this relationship with the self and nurture it so that we can express ourselves fully and see that everything that happens in our life has a purpose.
MT: You teach about learning the anatomy of a relationship. What do you mean by this?
LC: Each relationship has an "anatomy" to it, and you can clearly see from experience that some relationships are fleeting while others are long-lasting, depending on how we are meant to help each other learn and grow. A relationship is really a living, breathing, functional thing, very much like a body. When we know how a relationship is established, and what agreements are in place, it helps us see the purpose that is in any given relationship.
MT: Why are relationships so hard? Do all relationships need maintenance?
LC: Not all relationships are hard, but we tend to learn the most from the ones that are! Every relationship is different. Every relationship has its own timeline, its own purpose, its own lessons that come with it. We have a kind of spiritual agreement with certain people in our lives. Some might call it karma. Some relationships are complicated while others are not. But all relationships, in one way or another, help us learn and grow.
MT: In this course you say there are five stages of closure. Is this closure for when a relationship ends? Tell me about these stages and what students will learn.
LC: Closure is resolution when a relationship seems to end. It's tying up any loose ends. It's replacing resentment or anger or any ill feelings with gratitude. It's that feeling that there are no unanswered questions and you've learned from the experience and are a better person for it. We know we have closure when we have gratitude for all of it, no matter what has happened.
There is a five-stage process to closure that helps us find peace: recognition, acceptance, understanding, integration, and gratitude. As we move through these stages, we get more clarity and strength. Our relationships are like a chain. The links in it are all the experiences and memories shared, marking the time that has gone by. When a relationship changes, it's like that chain is left dangling. We don't know what to do with it. Closure is like that little clasp at the end of the chain that brings us full circle, back to ourselves. It turns that chain into something useful and purposeful and beautiful that we can carry with us and refer to.
MT: Tell me about some feedback you have received from students.
LC: I've heard from people who have lost loved ones say that they went through all the stages of grief, but they never really found peace until they went through all the stages of closure. I've heard from people who had bitter divorces say that they were finally able to let go of all the pain and resentment and find themselves again. And I've heard from so many people who say that they can now put things in perspective and see how the experience of their relationship change helped them grow in wisdom.
MT: This course offers some bonus materials. What are they?
LC: I've included a bunch of great affirmations. These are so helpful to keep us on track, to keep the mind from getting stuck in that downward spiral that gets us feeling so lost. They are great reminders to use throughout the day, especially in times when you feel like you're struggling. I also wrote a special prayer that helps us to release and let go of the accumulated "gunk" that tends to stick to us when we feel we've been wronged or hurt. And there are bonus videos too.
MT: Thank you, Lissa, for taking the time to chat with me about relationships today.