Dissolving fear of death- death doula

This lecture introduces you to the course and the powerful tools which can free us from the fear and stress of death.

A journal can be a powerful tool to ease the pain of transition. Take some time choosing it as you will be spending a lot of time with it. Your journal will carry your heart and soul. It will comfort you.

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Dr. Zack Bush is a former ICU doctor, later with a sub specialty in hospice care. When he brought back to life patients who had clinically died, he found they all expressed the same thing.

Their first sentence was: “Why did you bring me back?” “I went into this space and it was white light everywhere and I felt completely accepted for the first time in my life.”

As Dr Zach says, "Death is not an endpoint. It’s a transformation moment. It’s an expansion beyond the limits of this frail, biologic shell that we carry around."

“And in the instant that we step out of that, we find that the universe embraces us in every single second of our existence, in complete acceptance of who we are. We are enough in and of our own identity of ‘I am’ in every second and every point of our existence.”

Birthing backwards is a transition into the eternal as said by Barry Long.

"I, the dying patient, am now like the chrysalis approaching transformation into a butterfly.

The moment of death marks the release of the last flake of restraining past. The amazing transition is complete. I, the spirit of intelligence, burst free and soar through inner space to reunite with the eternal good.

But in truth I never left the eternal. I was simply the seemingly cocooned empowering genius that made the biological dream possible."

How would you like your last years, months, days, your time remaining here to be here like? In preparation for your fearless death, we will need to consider a few things.

First: Who will be your companion, your cohort, in planning with you? You want someone who can share your excitement at what you plan, someone who will follow through and support what you want.

If you prefer quiet joy, find the perfect person who will help create this for you, and be with you.

Remember, every decision you make is YOUR decision. We explore these decisions and how you can take control of the preparation for your death...and discover how amazingly empowering this is.

To be asked to help someone in their transition is an amazing gift they are giving you. In this lecture we guide you in how to do this in the most loving compassionate way.

This part is for those who have been asked or chosen to care for someone at their time of transition. We explore essential tools like DEEP LISTENING. This can be challenging, but amazingly rewarding for both the Companion in Care and the person who is dying.

Deep Listening is being with a person totally, hearing them, not interrupting them, so that they understand how important they are. When one feels that they've been truly heard they are given great comfort.

Breaking Attachments:

We guide you through the  attachments you have in life and why you have them. This is a big step in dealing with  your fears.

Bronnie Ware, who sat with hundreds of dying people, discovered number of regrets that most of them had. We explore these regrets and how to move beyond them.

She says, "Through my own journey I've learned that you can’t control everything that will come your way, but you can certainly control how you react to it. And you can become free of regrets. It takes courage, on all levels. On levels you may not even know exist yet. It also takes an immense amount of healing and self-kindness.

Yet it also brings more joy and wonder. True joy in day-to-day living, not just on your once-in-a-lifetime tropical holiday under the swaying palm trees. Delight in daily life becomes a much stronger habit than fear."

How would you like to honor and celebrate the gift of your life? Your experiences? Your pleasures?

Would you like to celebrate your life with friends while you are still here on Planet Earth or after you have released your body? Would you like your last hours or days alone or with friends and family?

Would you like to throw a party where you are the Guest of Honor? Or would you like to choreograph the party to be thrown after you leave? How would you like it catered? Would you like speeches? If so, who would you like to speak? Funny stories? Music and a dance band? Or quiet with candles and music? This is YOUR time to choose and enjoy the process, the way it would please you. Your chosen companion is there to help you make it everything you wish. Express yourself fully, with love and joy, or quiet and peace. This is your celebration, your time to express yourself, however you want.

All the choices are yours!

As the transition nears we can see four stages that the body goes through, fire water, air and earth and we explore that in this lesson. Let's explore what we can do to help the transition be loving and without pain.

Music can be a powerful gift to help us to ease into the transition. We can use recorded music, live music, humming, or any sounds that soothe.

Pets can be wonderful to have with us when we are ill and transitioning. They are all loving and present with us. Someone to hold cuddle and who is not going to want anything from us. They can be wonderful partners as death approaches. 

Regardless of the circumstances of the pet’s death, the immediate aftermath can be an emotional roller coaster. We can feel numb and go through the stages of grief that we have described in the lecture about grief. they’re members of the family. Losing your best friend is heartbreaking and can leave behind a profound sense of emptiness and loss.

There are ways to ease this pain and the suffering we go through and because the death is a per some won't truly understand how powerful these emotions are.  We explore ways to ease the suffering and pain and to acknowledge our loved friend.

We add this here because to many people, the death of a pet is traumatic. Many times we don’t realize their time here with us is closing...Here are ways to soften and heal.