Consciously Creating - Healing Your Unconscious Patterns

Sit comfortably with your spine straight, sitting on a chair with your feet on the floor, or on the floor, with your legs crossed, whichever is more comfortable.

Let your thoughts settle and start to focus on your breath, watch the in-breath and the out-breath, just watch them.

Start to notice the silent point at the top and the bottom of the breath and find yourself becoming more and more relaxed.

If it helps to settle your mind, count one on the in-breath, and on the out-breath count two, and so on, up to ten, and then repeat in  five to ten cycles.

When you feel totally relaxed, start to imagine yourself on a beautiful path, look around you and see where you are... Just beside you are ten steps leading down to a beautiful space. As you stand at the top of them look up to the sky and focus again on your breath and then after three breaths look down and take three more breaths and the start to make your way down the steps, walking slowly down, count from 10, then step down to 9, 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1 and step into the beautiful space.

This is your own space, it is totally private and totally yours.

No one else will join you here unless you invite them.

It is your sacred space, your inner sanctuary and you can come here whenever you want to work anything out.

See where you are, look at the colours, hear the sounds and feel the breeze, or the sun or anything that you desire in your space.

Make it yours.

When you have spent as long as you like in your inner sanctuary, stand up and walk back to the steps and walk slowly up them, counting the steps as you go 1,2,3,4,5,6,7,8,9,10...

Step back onto the path and then start to become aware of where your body is, feel the floor or the chair, and become again aware of the room.

Open your eyes and then take your journal and start to investigate.

A belief is an acceptance that something exists or is true.

A value is one’s judgement of what’s important in life, it is a principle or quality

In this part of the course you will examine your beliefs and your values.

You will investigate how your beliefs and values have shaped your life.

It is an ongoing process, but you will start to examine some big decisions or projects or relationships.

You will start to see if you can see where your beliefs and values have worked either in your favour or limited you.

In this section of he course you will start to examine the stories that have shaped your life; those that  you tell about yourself and your life and the stories that other tell about you.

We exist in dialogue and it is in the space between us, where we weave and twist the stories that come from our dialogues and these stories can take our life in all manner of different directions!

Our lives can be expanded or limited depending on the amount of different conversations we are willing or able to have and the awareness that we can co create stories that can mean we can create our lives consciously in every moment, and with every word we utter, and how we receive the words of others...

This section is an investigation into the environment you grew up in and the messages you received

about what was expected of you and how you were meant to behave and in what areas you

were supposed to be focused.

It is also about what was acceptable to express or to want for yourself.

With exploration into the behaviours and attitudes that were okay or not okay to express or live by, you will start to gain awareness in whether you have been living your life by default from a script or messages that are not truly yours.

You will examine what this has meant you can expect from life and what type of person you believe yourself to be.

With the veil of awareness being opened you can start to investigate whether you would like to write yourself some new messages.

This is an opportunity to investigate your childhood and to gain some awareness of the reasons you might feel and act in certain ways now.

It is an exercise that will bring to the conscious any unconscious feelings and behaviours and so give you the opportunity to heal the hurt from the past and feel and behave in different ways, based on what is happening in the present, rather than from a place of projecting the past onto the now and so repeating painful cycles.

Being aware of the cycles and the same patterns allows you to see for yourself how a current situation has triggered old hurts, and allow you to stretch out of the familiar responses and do something different which can change the course of your life.

What did you need?

What did you want?

What didn’t you get?

What did you yearn for most?

In this section you will meditate and have the opportunity to converse in your deepest unconscious with the people who influenced your life about the things you wanted and never got...

These conversations where the people are benign and receptive can help you to discover that

all you need is within you.

And when you are going about your normal day, you can be aware to see who you experience

the same places of lack and disappointment. This is the time to press pause, breathe into the

reactivity, and release it. It can heal at source.

This meditation will open the space and environment for you to connect with your inner child and to start to learn to re parent yourself. This process can help with healing the hurt within you and move towards a deeper self acceptance and self love, with the awareness that you will always listen to your inner child, never leave her or him and that she/he is always safe with you.

When we were young we had to survive, and if we felt that our behaviour wasn't getting the love or approval we needed in our family, we would often hide it away, or even disown it.

In some cases we completely lost aspects of ourself as they were not recognised in our family.

For instance we might be an artist born into a family where sport and academics were respected and rated and so we lost that aspect completely.

But we all want to be whole and so this section is to start to become aware of these lost parts and to start to notice where we have adapted our behaviours. And also how we might project the lost aspects of ourself onto those around us.

In this section the exercises are designed to start the process of reclaiming all aspects of yourself so that you can become whole

When we were small, we needed to survive. We were helpless and needed to rely on the people

around us to care for us, they often did they best they could.

But they couldn’t always meet all our needs and they had ideas and ways they believed we

needed to be. It was rare that as children we were fully accepted as who we truly are.

So we adapted our behaviour and we learnt to survive.

Perhaps if we weren’t heard we adapted by either shutting down or speaking out very loudly.

If we were told we were too excitable we repressed our natural nature, and it only bursts out

occasionally. If our parents weren’t available emotionally or actually we adapted by becoming

needy or super independent.

In this section you will explore where you may have adapted by being a ‘super good girl or boy’, because you recognised that this was a way to make things smoother with your Mother or Father.

Now as an adult, if someone in front of you is agitated, you may find yourself internally reacting

with a feeling of stress/distress and then adapting in your usual fashion by becoming super

good, and smoothing things as you did with your mother, or acting out and being very

rebellious/disruptive/sulky/non compliant.

This section will help you to understand your adaptations and mean that you can start to stretch out of them and reclaim who you truly are.