Communication Skills Masterclass: Speak Like A Leader

There are some major myths we have bought into when it comes to communication that have been destroying our shot of getting the results we want with other people. In this video, I'll introduce you to the 3 Monster Myths of Communication that have been taking your chances of communication success.

Monster Myth #1: The Intention Myth. This says that Communication Is What You Intend To Communicate. But the truth is: “The meaning of the communication is the response you get.”

Monster Myth #2: The Language Myth. This says that communication is about the words we use.

The truth is that yes, words matter. But as you’ll see through the rest of this course, words are the least important thing you need to learn to become a master communicator at work, or in life.

Monster Myth #3: The Intellectual Myth. This says that communication is an intellectual sport.

The truth is that the more you get out of your head, the better communicator you’ll be.

Regardless of where you want to be a better communicator, there are three monster myths standing in your way like a boulder in the middle of a road. Can you remember what they are? Here's a quick recap of what they are and the three truths about communication that most people will never know…

Let's do a quick recap of what we covered in this section and I'll give you some action steps of how to apply them.

We’ve now busted the 3 Monster Communication Myths. So we’re now out of the hole, and can start building a foundation. So the question now is, How do you get out of your head, so you can communicate your real self in any moment? We’ll cover that in this section…

You’re here taking a course on communication. And you now know what communication isn’t. But what is communication? What is it that we’re really trying to create here in this course together? Watch this...

We talked about the idea of freedom in the last video. But what does freedom in communication looks like? Check this out...

I'll introduce you to my good friend Cedric Bertelli. He'll share with you a simple, natural, but very powerful way to be intimate with your emotions.

This whole section is about achieving more freedom and living life in a way that is more authentic expression of who you are and having your communication naturally emanate from that authentic expression. My friend, Cedric will talk about how you can achieve this both in your everyday living and your communications.

Let's cover another practice now designed to help you to interact with yourself more deeply. And for this practice, I want you to meet Julia Grace. She's the founder of The Wave which is a dance community where people really feel getting into their bodies. I wanted to bring her on to share a little bit of embodiment work with you.

You made it to the end of this section. I'm really excited to share all of these with you because we really started to look at communication in a new way, a more authentic way. And I think learning to ingrain what you learned in this section will not only make you a better communicator, it will bring you a lot of joy, happiness, and connection in your life as well. Let's do a quick recap of what you've learned.

Let's do a quick recap of what we covered in this section and I'll give you some action steps of how to apply them.

This section is about how to become a master communicator with yourself. We'll also cover three principles that are about to change your life…

We'll talk about a powerful lesson from Eckhart Tolle that can miraculously transform your life if you take it the right way. I'll also share with you The Savory Meat Question, that you can ask yourself whenever you feel resistance on something.

I'll share with you three of the four practices from Kamal Ravikant's book called Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It that will help you develop love, and worthiness, for yourself.

We'll talk about The Genius Move, from Gay Hendricks’ book The Genius Zone. I'll also share with you 4 steps to practice the Genius Move when you find yourself feeling unhappy, or struggling with something you can’t control.

Congratulations! You just completed the section of this course on Communicating With Yourself. So let’s do a little recap of what we covered in this section…

Let's do a quick recap of what we covered in this section and I'll give you some action steps of how to apply them.

So far, we’ve busted the monster myths, talked about what communication really is — at least how I’d encourage you to define it — and how to start upgrading your communication with yourself… Now, let’s start talking about communicating with others — the basics that no one really talks about.

I will introduce you to the Wooden Mask Question. A question you can ask yourself, again, and again, and again — in a communication with someone — whether it’s you talking, or doing something where another person is watching…

You'll learn a powerful exercise about eye contact and how this simple  exercise can slow down your brain waves so you can really be there in a conversation…

Learn how you can focus on relaxing your body when you’re in communication with someone, or in a group.

Congratulations! You made it through the Communication Basics. We covered 3 key principles on communicating with others. Let's have a recap on what you've learned.

Let's do a quick recap of what we covered in this section and I'll give you some action steps of how to apply them.

We’re about to turn you into an amazing listener. Listening were you make the other person, or people, feel absolutely, 100%, gotten by you. Even more than that, it’s about fully seeing, and witnessing the real other person standing in front of you — the one hiding under a thick, fur coat. Ready?

I want to invite you into The Conversation Matrix. The world of communication most people don’t even know exists.

The world of communication when you’re not evaluating everything being said, not thinking about what to say next, not in your head at all..

And instead, in your senses, observing — and feeling — what’s happening in this conversation in front of you…

The first step to effective listening...

How do you listen in a way where they share their deepest, most raw self?

It’s not about memorizing questions…

About trying to go deep…

Or learning any techniques…

It all comes down to cultivating one, single trait. We’ll call it The Irresistible Trait.

I'll teach you the 3 responses of better listeners and how you can start incorporating them in your conversations.

Let's do a quick recap of what we covered in this section and I'll give you some action steps of how to apply them.

Welcome to the Deep Conversation Mastery. The purpose of this section is to learn how to have powerfully deep conversations with people through the power of deep listening.

So you’ve already learned about Insider Listening and the three important skills to learn to make that happen.

Now, let’s cover some more detailed, more advanced things you can play with. We’re going to cover 7 of them.

The first tool I want to share with you is called The Neutral Mind Tool.

A tool that can set your mind to a neutral, calm and curious mode before any conversation.

The second tool I want to share with you is called, Don’t Be The Cat!

A tool to resist the urge to say what you want to say, until they’ve finished saying everything they want to say.

The third tool I want to share with you is called, Respond Like A Better Listener.

A tool you should use to validate emotions, questions and paraphrase your response.

The fourth tool I want to share with you is called, The Golden Machine.

A tool you can use to start listening only for observations, feelings, needs and requests.

The fifth tool I want to share with you is called, Empty The Tank.

This is where you imagine that in every conversation, the people you talk to is a full tank of words, concerns, opinions, thoughts. Good listening is getting to a point where that tank has been emptied.

This is one of the most powerful listening tools you have to help yourself understand people better, to connect with them more deeply, and to make them feel gotten, we’ll call this Specific Listening…

The seventh tool I want to share with you is called, Autonomy.

This is when you give them the power to choose for their reasons.

So you now have 7 specific, easy to use habits you can start practicing immediately to master the skill of better listening. Here's a recap of what they are...

So how do you start becoming a powerful communicator…

To say what you want to say in a way that makes an impact on people…

Let’s cover the three master skills of amazing communication …

Getting your point across is like a weird game of volleyball where the one tool you want to use (your hands), is off limits. You have to use your "head," your "chest" and your "feet." These are the three skills of powerful communicators -- and we'll cover them in this section.

You see, the first tool you have, Your Head, is Questions. We’ll go deeper into questions little later, but for now, I just want you to realize. Your hands are tied behind your back. The #1 skill you have to get the ball over the net is Questions.

The second skill you have, is your chest, Storytelling.

Tim David says in his book Magic Words… “In order to influence someone to your way of thinking, they must first believe that it is their own way of thinking.”

One way YOU DO THAT is BY TELLING STORIES.

The third skill you have, your feet, is metaphors.

This is the best tool you have to help someone get something isn’t to tell them it's to think of the most creative and effective way that will stick in their brain more.

Let's do a quick recap of what we covered in this section and I'll give you some action steps of how to apply them.

Insider Secret #1: The Story Stool. Stories are powerful ways to connect and change. The key to any story is making sure you have a character, a goal, a challenge and a resolution.

Insider Secret #2: The Olympic Sprinter says that whenever possible, add 1. High Stakes, 2. Emotion and 3. Focus to your stories.

Insider Secret #3: John F. Kennedy’s Speech. Metaphors and Analogies are your secret weapon to making an impact with your words.

Insider Secret #4: Become A Comedian. A comedian goes through life looking for material for her jokes. You go through your life looking for material for your stories.

We’ve now covered 4 Insider Secrets from the book Unleash The Power of Storytelling. Let’s do our Insider Recap…

Let's do a quick recap of what we covered in this section and I'll give you some action steps of how to apply them.

Congratulations for making it this far into the course! We’ve covered so much already…

In this section we'll now talk about asking good questions.

But here’s a little warning. You might have realized by now that basically everything we covered was very different than what most people would tell you out there in the world. They’re Insider Secrets you might say.

What I’m about to tell you about questions will be no different.

Discover how you can come up with questions that have the power to change lives — in your personal life, or in business.

I'll invite you to Enter The Question Cave.

Because Cal Fussman said “The best questions make the person asked just as curious about the answer as you are. Maybe even more.”

And that your questions should be like invitations. It’s you telling another person, “Hey, you see that cave over there? Let’s go explore it together."

There are many possible levels to a conversation. From big picture, all the way down to the tiniest details.

You should masterfully dance a conversation through the different levels available — to get to know someone more deeply — and help them see their life in ways they never have before.

I'll share with you 15 Power Questions, inspired by the book Power Questions by Andrew Sobel and Jerold Panas.

Andrew Sobel and Jerry Panas say in their book Power Questions that asking questions was one of his main tools for transforming others.

Similarly, they give us a story on page 177 of the book about the time they asked a woman named Bonnie, what is the most profound and difficult question you have ever asked someone?

And how Bonnie spent the next 10 minutes talking about how she hopes to make a significant difference in her lifetime.

One power question. 10 minute response.

Questions are important. Let’s do a quick recap of what we covered in this section…

Let's do a quick recap of what we covered in this section and I'll give you some action steps of how to apply them.