Coaching to overcome pleasing others syndrome
What you'll learn
- How to say "No"
- How to handle resistance Technique
- How to respond to a request
- How to refuse an invitation
- The reverse technique
- How to recognise people pleasing
- The ,, Should'' to avoid
- Taking care of yourself
- Recognise the addiction of approving what others say
- Solution suggestion
- Delegate effectively
- It is all right not to be nice all the time
- How to manage anger and conflict
- Anger control
- Anger management
- Solutions to controll your anger
- The Time Out method
- How to cope with anxiety in stressful situations
- A problem solving method
- Test your predictions
- Must use a PC, Mac or Mobile Device
- No prior knowledge on the subject attended
As a clinical psychologist, I help many unhappy people struggling with this addiction to please others. This is often not seen as a problem because it helps a person get approval and validation from others and makes them feel recognized as helpful, and kind. However, the constant desire to please others can lead to a harmful pattern of self-sacrifice or self-neglect.
This course is a program to help you overcome low self-worth and self-esteem generated by people pleasing syndrome.
The course is also dedicated to coaches that helps clients with improving their self-esteem. You will learn interventions that you can use to help your clients on their road to performance improvement related to lack of focus due to poor self-esteem.
In this course you will learn:
1. Identify the characteristics and causes of people-pleasing syndrome: you will learn about the concept of people-pleasing syndrome and its connection to low self-worth and self-esteem. We will explore the factors that contribute to maintaining this pattern, such as past experiences, poor self-esteem, insecurity, and perfectionism.
2. Recognize and assess people-pleasing traits: you will develop the ability to recognize people-pleasing traits in yourself and others. You will learn how to assess own behavior and attitudes to determine if you are engaging in excessive people-pleasing, and understand the negative impact it can have on your emotional well-being.
3. Explore techniques to overcome people-pleasing: you will learn various techniques and interventions aimed at overcoming the habit of constantly seeking approval from others. You will gain practical strategies to assert own needs, set boundaries, and prioritize their own well-being without feeling guilty or anxious.
4. Understand the relationship between people-pleasing and self-esteem in coaching: For individuals working as coaches, this course offers insights into the relationship between people-pleasing, self-esteem, and performance improvement. You will learn how to identify and address self-esteem issues in their clients, and acquire interventions and approaches to support your clients' development in this area.
If you don't stop pleasing others and continue to prioritize their needs and desires over your own, several negative consequences can occur:
1. Diminished self-esteem: Constantly seeking approval from others and neglecting your own needs can erode your self-esteem over time. You may start to feel inadequate, unimportant, or like your own desires are not valuable.
2. Increased stress and anxiety: The pressure to constantly please others can lead to heightened levels of stress and anxiety. You may constantly worry about meeting others' expectations, fear rejection or disapproval, and feel overwhelmed by the weight of constantly putting others' needs before your own.
3. Emotional exhaustion and burnout: Continuously prioritizing others' happiness and neglecting self-care can lead to emotional exhaustion and burnout.
4. Lack of authenticity and personal fulfillment: you may lose touch with your authentic self. This can result in a lack of personal fulfillment and a feeling of being disconnected from your own desires, passions, and values.
5. Strained relationships: Paradoxically, constantly trying to please others can strain relationships. This behavior may attract individuals who take advantage of your willingness to please, leading to imbalanced and resentful relationships. Additionally, you may struggle to establish boundaries and communicate your own needs effectively, which can create tension and misunderstandings in your interactions with others.
The course is dedicated to anyone who recognize that trying to win approval is draining you of energy and you are pursuing the happiness of others at the expense of your own emotional well-being. Consequently, you feel a weak self-esteem, anger and frustration, anxiety and stress, depleted willpower, lack of authenticity and resentful relationships.
People often do nice things for others for various reasons related to feel good about self, to help or to earn favors. That is fine, but if you're putting always others first and you are constantly focused on pleasing others, you are afraid that you’ll be disliked or rejected if you say "no," there’s a strong chance that you suffer people-pleasing syndrome and that will be a blocker in living a fulfilling life.
Continuing to prioritize others' happiness at the expense of your own well-being can have detrimental effects on your mental and emotional health, relationships, and overall quality of life. It is important to find a balance between caring for others and prioritizing your own needs and self-care.
Join us and learn the path to personal freedom.
Please take into consideration that at the end of the course you will received only an Udemy certificate!
Who this course is for:
- Persons seeking personal transformation
- People with symptoms of pleasing others
Alina Sletten is a Norwegian certified clinical and organizational Psychologist, business consultant and have over 18 years of project management experience in various industries such as technology and international trade.
After she obtained first class Psychology bachelor degree and two Master degrees in:
1. Cognitive Behavior Therapy & hypnosis and
2. Project Management,
she has worked as a clinical psychologist and later as a business consultant for a wide range of international industries.
In 2012 she has been recruited by Manpower Norway for Global Future Talent program of highly educated men and women with a multicultural background to key positions such as management and directorships. As an entrepreneur she has established various companies in different countries and has been founding member and Board member in the Norwegian Romanian Chamber of Commerce in Oslo Norway.
She took multiple certifications in clinical psychology and business applied methodologies such as: PRINCE 2, LEAN, AGILE Scrum Master, Design Thinking having as focus to help as many people and organizations as possible by sharing her knowledge and expertise.
All her courses are based on a multitude of scientific proven methodologies.
Expertise in Clinical psychology: Cognitive behavioral therapy and hypnosis treatment for groups and individuals with: Depression, Anxiety, Panic Disorder, Eating Disorders, Addiction and Abuse, PTSD, Trauma. (Existential problems, Difficult feelings, Life changes, Relationships, Identity Crisis, Poor Self-Esteem, Family Life, Couples Therapy, Divorce / separation, sorrow, communication problems). Personal development, Career counselling.
Expertise in Organizational Psychology: crisis management, psychosocial and organizational work environment (time pressure, workload, work distribution mapping, employee surveys, work process mapping and analyze), change management, restructuring, recruitment head hunting / staffing, downsizing, reorganization, etc.
Expertise as a business consultant: Project management, company establish consultancy, human resources management, change management, organisation development.
Having a multicultural background, Alina can understand different cultures. She speaks Norwegian, English, Romanian, Italian and French and love to communicate with people in any of these languages.
Alina Sletten is dedicated to help people grow personally and professionally and overcome any obstacles towards achieving their goals and dreams.
Enjoy your learning journey with us!