Married to Autism? Find Connection and Ease

The narratives we surround ourselves with have the power to change our lives. Narrative is especially important in mixed-neurological relationships and has the power to get you the results you want. 

The first narrative we'll consider is the narrative of your life before your relationship: what was life really like for you before you met your partner and what does this mean for you? 

Listen and then get your typing fingers out. Recording the narrative of your life before your relationship began can bring you new insight and clarity about yourself and your perspective. 

Your narrative about your relationship is based on different information than your partner's narrative about your relationship. Learn why, what this means for you, and the importance of knowing and repeating your narrative.

This is your chance to really, truly, honestly, authentically (and all those good words!) talk about what your relationship has really, truly, honestly and authentically been like for you. No cheating! 

The beliefs you hold about yourself and your possibilities for the future affect everything about your life. Learn to use belief to foster a strong sense-of-self and find the life change you want. Take my affirmations, personalize them and record them to your smartphone. 

Your narrative of the future is the most powerful narrative of all. Write your narrative of your future and then use it to make that future happen. In this lecture you'll learn exactly how. 

The materials we've created so far have the power to change your life. Take them seriously! This video shows you exactly how to use them so you get results. 

Typically developing people can see their own perspective and other people's perspectives at the same time. People with autism are stuck seeing only their own perspectives. This means that you're carrying around a lot more social information every time you interact with your partner. Consider what this means for you. 

People with autism are known for experiencing meltdowns. Consider what this means when you're married to them and how their meltdowns affect you and your life. 

Body language, facial expressions and voice inflection are a big part of your life and the way you experience the world. They have a major impact on you because you're typically developing.

Many partners of people with autism spend almost all of their time in caregiving roles. What's true for you? Think about who you take care of and who takes care of you. 

Trauma is a normal part of being human. All humans experience its common for both partners in mixed-neurological marriages to experience trauma within their relationships. Learn what trauma has to do with the body and what you can do about it. Since trauma is normal, make healing from it a normal part of your practice, too. 

Here it all is: summarized for you in one easy format. You can't change your partner's autism and you can't change your typically developing brain, but there are some things you can do.....  and this course gets you ready to do them. It even offers the structure you need to make them happen. 

You've got this. You can do it! 

Marriage is different than other relationships. Learn about companionate love, intimacy, commitment and what they have to do with different kinds of relationships. Consider the way small acts of support and caring over time contribute to commitment in some relationships but not others. 

Introducing Robert Sternberg's triangle of love and what it might have to do with autism and your marriage. Take the time to plot your relationship his model and think through what this means for you. 

The old saying is that "opposites attract," but the reality is that people usually fall in love with what feels familiar to them. Think through what might have played a role in you falling in love with your partner. 

Sex is never an easy topic and this time it's harder than ever. Listen as Anne carefully tries to address sex, autism and what it all means for the typically developing partner. 

Marriages between typically developing people and people with autism are mixed relationships just as much as mixed-orientation relationships. Infidelity happens -- on both sides. Anne addresses this from the perspective of typically developing women in mixed relationships who are considering having affairs, etc. (sorry men.... she doesn't have you covered on this one.... sigh).

This is a subject that gets bigger and bigger. It affects our children, our parents, our community and friends. There is always more to say. 

Anne ends with a message of hope for your future growth and journey. With education, awareness and the tools you need to take charge of your life, great things are possible. Hope lies in focusing on you. You're worth it and now you have the tools you need to make it happen!

Be well and great wishes of peace......