Creating Mental Safety in Marriage

The ESITA Model will help you determine what thoughts and emotions to be stored in the “Pot” or or reprocessed in the “Pipe.” You’ll also understand the damaging role of shame in our thinking, and the blessing of Neuroplasticity.

You will learn in this section 5 types of trauma, and how you probably have one of these! You will take a Trauma Symptoms Assessment to show you mind what your heart has been trying to tell you. And you can see how our thoughts from mental unsafety mess with our marriage.

This section defines love! Did you know there’s an order that works best in your mentally safe attitude, your connecting, and serving? You will discover the options for facing trauma in marriage.

We will discuss the ramifications of addiction and trauma, introduce the “trauma brain,” and do some ESITA Processing based on trauma and addiction. We will address over - empathizing in marriage, and understand the messages of our heart in marriage.

Visit my Trauma Recovery House to find the dozen parts of my own relational trauma recovery. Inform yourself of the Trauma and Addiction “recipe” for disaster. Experience Zoe’s experience with Internal Family Systems (IFS), and steps to placate your Protectors— the Managers, the Firefighters, and the Exiles— to arrive at the 8 C’s of the Core Self. Understand self-compassion and self-acceptance in your ultimate healing.

In Thoughts Reprocessing, you will learn 7-minute walking, 15 minute writing, Non-dominant Handwriting, “Scrambling,” EFT, T-Charting, and more. You will appreciate the possibility of how your struggles in trauma recovery help your discipleship to Jesus Christ.

I hope you have felt a major shift in your thoughts so that you are calm and relaxed in your interactions in marriage and with others. God bless!