Happiness is just a Perception

The “Mirror of Perception” is the way in which others see you. It is the way in which others define and characterize you. It is what others talk about when they talk about you.

And that “Mirror of Perception” is responsible for the situation you’re in today!

In this Module, I will introduce you to the (r)evolving nature of your Identity and the impact it has on the RESULTS you want to achieve. If you want to change any outcome, you must first change the perception of “who you are”! And it all starts here, with the “Cycle of Identity”!

Almost everyone suffers from some type of identity crisis as a result of the perpetual “Cycle of Identity”.

In STAGE I, you stand in front of the “Mirror of Perception”, where you will see the image of your current identity. This identity has evolved over time.

In STAGE II you project this identity onto everyone you connect or meet!

In STAGE III your identity will be defined and characterized by your INFLUENCERS. This effectively removes any control you have over your identity!

In STAGE IV, the identity that was created by you in STAGE I, merges with the identity that is created for you in STAGE III to produce a brand new merged identity. Over time, STAGE IV will “evolve” into STAGE I of the next cycle!

Unless the “Cycle of Identity” is interrupted or broken at this point, it will continue to evolve in perpetuity!

If you don’t control the way in which you are perceived, your identity will be at the mercy of those who judge, label, define and characterize you. In order to achieve the RESULTS, you are looking for, you must display a “Social MASK” for the “person who would be successful”.

At this time, you will likely have little or no CONTROL over your Perceived Identity, yet that identity is responsible for the situation you are in!

Your Perceived Identity is (in large measure) created and formulated by your INFLUENCERS.

INFLUENCERS are people who made an impact on you in the past or will make an impact in the future.

To create RESULTS, you must interrupt the “Cycle of Identity” by changing your Projected Identity and taking CONTROL over your Perceived Identity.

You can take control over your Perceived Identity by wearing a different “Social MASK” that you must “display “to others.

This different “Social MASK” will become your new Persona.

In this module, you bring together the seven elements that are required for the development of your new Persona. These are the elements that make up the profile of the “person who would be successful”.

The person you must become!

You identify seven essential elements that make up your new Persona.

Behaviors will bring structure to your life. It will restore order out of chaos.

You identify five patterns of social interaction that will allow you to successfully integrate with those whose approval and positive influence is an essential element in achieving your objectives!

You must embrace the positive, neutralize the negative and eliminate the toxic INFLUENCERS.

You have begun the process of programming and conditioning your new Persona to become the “person who would be successful”. You do this by internalizing every element of this Persona in terms of emotions, behavioral patterns, sociology, language, environment, psychology and physiology.

In this module, I will take you to a Restore Point from where you can follow a different path to your Desired Outcome. A Restore Point from where you will start to develop your new Persona!

You are going to select a Restore Point from where you’ll start to put your new Persona together.

You will make a list of the ‘wrong choices’ you made since the last time you visited your Restore Point, so that you won’t make the same choices again.

You make a list of all the external influences that have prevented you from achieving success in the Past.

You identify and acknowledge the fears and emotions that have shaped your identity in the Past!

You identify the INFLUENCERS that can threaten or destroy your new Persona.

In this module, you will align your new Persona with that of the “person who would be successful” by modeling their Profile.

For you to be in full alignment with the “person who would be successful”, you must first align your new Persona with a profile of such a person.

There are two types of leadership that are part of your Persona Profile:

(i) Internal Leadership, and

(ii) External Leadership.

There are two fundamental qualities inherent in the “person who would be successful”. They are:

(i) The desire to achieve, which is similar to an emotion and therefore inspired.

(ii) The ability to achieve, which is based on skill sets and expertise and therefore acquired.

Society conditions us to accept ‘External Leadership” from those who are our INFLUENCERS. But without the guidance of the ‘Leader within’,

these ‘External Leaders’ simply promote the values of the institutions they represent.

Leadership is not determined by leadership skills, but by leadership wisdom.

In this module, you will align your new Persona with the Desired Outcome you want to achieve. This is how you measure your success!

The formula for success is based on a set of values that your new Persona shares with the “person who would be successful”. These values must be a true, genuine, authentic and accurate representation of such a person.

Success cannot be measured by any conventional standard. It must be measured on an individual basis and aligned with a person’s True Identity.

Lasting success cannot be achieved through deception or fraud. If the perception of success hinges on expensive toys and living a lavish lifestyle, you’re courting with disaster!

Success is meaningless unless there is value attached to it. We are not successful if the only beneficiary of our success is us.

Every type of human interaction can be reduced to a single common denominator: COMMUNICATION!

Your new Persona must be an effective communicator. When it speaks, it must be understood and not just heard! It must not only articulate your position with extreme clarity, it must also be able to defend it in debate! Voice intonations interpret your emotions, while at times silence is your best and most powerful ally and spokesperson.

Your body language validates what your new Persona communicates and your spoken language articulates.

Faith is the hardest thing to find and the easiest thing to lose! When things go wrong and we have no one left to blame, we blame ourselves and in doing so, we blame our faith and our belief!

You can never go back to your past! Whatever happened in the Past is now irrelevant.

As you continue to build the foundation for your new Persona, it’s time to create a Code of Conduct for the “person who would be successful”!

Your new Persona must exude confidence in the performance of its role as the “person who would be successful”, or it will be judged as weak and inferior. A new Persona that conducts with confidence will be able to achieve anything that is an absolute MUST!

Integrity is the moral compass of your new Persona.

Determination will keep you on target. Purpose will keep you on course!

Without passion, there can never be a complete sense of fulfillment. When you follow your dreams and stay true to your convictions, you will eventually discover your passion!

Your new Persona is now a partially developed picture that needs to be completed by connecting the dots that link the various relationships you have with your INFLUENCERS.

You will connect the dots between your new Persona and the people who are your INFLUENCERS. They may include a spouse or partner, children, relatives, friends, co-workers, employers and members of your community!

Relatives can be an enormous source of support for you. But they can also be an exasperating irritant in your quest for a new beginning.

Friends come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime!

Your new Persona must be that of a community leader.

Your new Persona is nearing completion. Soon it will be ready to assume the role of the “Definitive Leader”, create “Resolute Relationships”, become an “Intrepid Entrepreneur”, build “Enduring Friendships” and experience “Lasting Love”.

For you to succeed at achieving your ‘MUST goals and objectives’, you must become the “person who would be successful”. That person is the “Definitive Leader”!

You will seek out “Resolute Relationships” that are eminently of benefit to you, to others and ultimately contribute to the Greater Good.

You must become an “Intrepid Entrepreneur”. You will not listen to the voices of doom and gloom. You are intolerant of self-doubt! You are fearless in the face of adversity!

Enduring friendships exist if the profile created for you is matched by the profile created by you!

It’s time to congratulate you on achieving a major milestone! Your new Persona is complete, and you are now ready to take on the identity of the “person who would be successful”! And with the completion of your new Persona, you have now become “that person”!

You have:

Changed your perceived identity that was responsible for the situation you were in at the beginning of this program!

Broken the “Cycle of Identity” and created the identity you desire!

Re-visited the “Restore Point” from where you followed a different path to your Desired Outcome.

Taken control over the way in which you are perceived by developing a new Persona. This new Persona contains the blueprint (profile) of the “person who would be successful”. This is the person you now have become!

Learned how to measure your results by aligning them with your new Persona. Results that can't be measured can't be managed!

Learned how to communicate your message to your INFLUENCERS.

Developed a Code of Conduct for your new Persona.

Established or renewed relationships with all your INFLUENCERS.

If you're ready to change the Perception of Who You Are and create a new and powerful Persona. I invite you to pay special attention to this last module. I am committed to working with a limited number of highly motivated private clients who are success-driven and want to achieve permanent change in their personal or professional life.

If that describes you, please send your Perception Makeover™ scheduling request to personacoach@gmail.com